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well you see i'm a mom of a 5 year old and he never leaves. and lately me and my husband have been wanting to have sex. and we're a very loud couple if you know what i mean. what do i do?
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It was either Bill Engvall or Jeff Foxworthy who said it recently. A cassette deck and children's tape that lasts 30 minutes is the only hope in hell you know you will have a normal sex life having kids. You know you have 30 minutes but hope that last song that starts up lasts longer.
Put it midly get something that interests him/her for an hour and put a lock on your door and try to do what you need. Either that, get the kid a sitter one night a week to keep your marraige going. Otherwise, the kid wins and the adults suffer. That kid has you so controlled at age 5 imagine when he/she is a teenager.
You have to also get some (you are not a bad parent) more parenting strategies and lessons to get a 5-year-old to be independent to the point where they are not clingy. It is at this stage behavior they have to drop. Get your mother and father in there helping with that and get your life back. Geez, if was like this for 5 years I have no idea how to dealt with the lack of itimacy.
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try to set up like a play-date for your son or like send him to your or his parents...just to get away for a little while...if that doesn't work let me know and i'll think of something else...
-NATALiE
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My husband and I find that a nice ball gag does the trick.
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get a babysitter and then go to a hotel room
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ask your mom to take the five year old, or ask a close friends if they don't mind taking him for couple of hours.
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Learn to be quieter?
Sorry, seriously, at five your son is old enough to be babysat for an evening, he would probably see dinner at another house as a real treat. Maybe another couple with a young child would be willing to trade with you for an evening alone as well.
On the other hand, I have quite a few memories of my hearing my parents late at night. It's kind of embaressing but I am glad to know they have a healthy marriage. Many kids catch thier parents in the act, it doesn't seem to completely mess up a child even if it does bring up some uncomfortable questions.
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I think that someone close so you could baby sit your child for a night. You and your husband deserve a night alone. I'm sure you will find someone to baby sit. Good luck though.
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