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My roommate
First of all, lemme clear this up: I'm not a jealous person by any definition.
My roommate has a new boyfriend. He tends to spend a lot of time in our room, overnight and all. It's cute. However...
There are two things that bother me:
1- My boyfriend is way out of state for college, and I really miss him. He and I were a very touchy couple, and hugged and kissed all the time...I'm kinda missing his presence physically and psychologically. My roommate and her boyfriend tend to do a lot of that - it doesn't bother me, exactly, but it makes me miss him more, and my boy's pretty much gone from this state for good, 'cause he hates it here. I'm stuck here for about five years, however. Yes, I get to see him during vacations, but still...
Anyway. So it bothers me like hell when I have to like...watch them. I don't want to deprive her of that at all because I love my roomie like a sister, and I totally understand the feeling...but I almost want to talk to her about it. Should I?
Also, her boyfriend staying with us like, every night but one for about a week, is almost starting to bother me a bit. I like him and all, and he's usually very considerate, but they kind of...*ahem* did things...at like...five in the morning. Normally, I honestly wouldn't care and would find it kinda funny, but I'd had a headache all yesterday, and today is one of my crazy days (I worked my schedule out somehow that I don't get a break from classes until around 3.) So I really could've used the sleep.
We have bunk beds because we wanted more space in our dorm, but the downside is my bed shakes when hers does. >.<
It really bothers me that this bothers me...I'm usually an extremely tolerant person (probably moreso than I should be), but this is really...um, bothering me.
So I guess my question is...er, what do I say or do, and to whom do I direct it?
Please, no stupidity. I'll just rate you down. Thanks in advance :)
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I think you should talk to your roommate about this. Maybe you guys could come up with some sort of compromise. It wouldn't be fair to say that she can NEVER have her boyfriend over and NEVER "do things" while you're in the room - but maybe you could come up with something like he can stay over three days a week and on other days he has to be gone by 5 or so. Tell her pretty much what you just wrote in your question, and maybe she'll understand. And to deal with you missing your boyfriend, maybe you guys could talk on the phone in another part of your dorm or out in the hallway while your roommate and her boyfriend are getting all touchy. Good luck!
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Okay, as far as the whole "doing things" in your room and everything, that's just not right. Really it's not. You need to talk to her about that because it's your room too.
As for missing your boyfriend, you SHOULD talk to her about it. And even ask them to back off just a little if that would make you feel better. But again, remember it's her room too so there's not too much you can say about that. Good luck!
♥ Melissa
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Maybe you should talk to her about it and the lonliness it makes you feel. I'm pretty sure she'd understand that much . Oh and tell her about how it's bothering you as well. You probably, although you might not want to, should leave for some hours when that guy comes around. It's not much but it's something you know.
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