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love bites
i like this guy. ive liked him before about two years ago. he was i guess you could say one of my biggest middle school crushes.we stopped talking for a while. got new friends. just didnt really talk anymore. im in high school now. we started talking again. of course my feelings came back for him. there are points when we talk that i get the feeling he likes me back. but other times he makes it seem like hes mad at me or im annoying. i told my best friend that i like him. she practically laughed in my face. she said hes ugly and that he only wants a piece of ass. i guess a few people have told me that. about last week we kinda i guess you could say hooked up. made out at his house. he wanted to go farther then making out. and i said no. which he was totally cool with. then just yesturday he admitted to liking me. he said doesnt want a girlfriend now though because of all the bad relationships hes had. which i totally understand. i want to get to know him better before we do anything else. but half of me thinks hes only saying he likes me to get a piece of ass. but the other half just wishes or hopes hes a great guy that i hope he is. what should i do? should i listen to my friends and give up on the kid? or should i go forward to hooking up and getting to know him better?
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Don't EVER listen to your friends over listening to your heart and yourself. Your friends can sometimes be wrong or just say that because they are jealous or lonely. The reason why you think he just wants a piece of you is because of you listening to what your friends say about him. what do you think about him if your friends would have never put that thought into your head? get to know him better and hang out with him more. don't hook up to wuickly and don't let him rush you into ANYTHING you don't feel like doing. Eeven if he may become upset that you don't want to do it. If he doesn't want a girlfriend now, and you want a relationship with him, it's best if you keep it as friends. because if you just hooked up with him and became friends with benefits I have the idea that it might hurt some people that you guys are close to or will become close to.
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i know its had for you to believe but HE JUST WANTS A PIECE OF ASS.stay away from him.maybe he just wants someonearound to messwith anythime he wants.
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i mean its great that he likes you and all but since he is known to need a piece of ass, he may just want a "friends with benefits" relationship with you which ends up being a pretty bad situation so dont hook up or do anything until he wants a gf. <3
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Don't let your friends decide things for you. But, instead rather, let your trusted friends know that their insight is appreciated. Even if you don't agree, it's valuable information to think about. Don't take advice from friends who could possibly be jealous, or unaccurate with the truth. Sure, you can get to know him better. It just seems like your walking on eggshells at the moment. But, it's good you stood your ground. With the piece of ass thing? Don't let him have a piece of ass. Just keep going on as you are, getting closer, and relearning about eachother. If he gets tired and bored and gives up before you get the chance to go out, you'll know for sure what he really wanted. Be really careful and don't let him tempt you into something you could really regret... if you're not going out or anything, and you went ahead and did something... he'd get bored and leave. Most guys do that. I assume that but I don't know. And I'm sure you aren't annoying him at all, your probably just very self-conscious. I can be the same way sometimes. Like, have you ever had a moment where you thought your hair looked terrible, and everyone around you is saying it looks great? Or maybe you thought a shirt looked bad on you, and everyone else loved it? You yourself perceive things differently than others around you. It's a very different world giving yourself an opinion, over giving someone else an opinion. So, it's good to be careful, but it's doubtful your annoying. I hope I pretty much covered all the many topics you grazed over. Well, good luck! Hope I'm not rambling here.
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Listen to your own mind, you are being really rational about this and realize that you don't know the guy well enough to pass judgement.
Go ahead and get to know him better. Just make sure you are listening to what he is doing and actually saying. Not just what you wish he was.
Set your boundries and stick to them. If he is a nice guy, and not just out for a peice of ass, he'll respect them.
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You go ahead and get to know him better. Friends shouldn't pick who you like so just ignore their well meaning advice.
DO NOT, go far in the make out department until you know him better AND he decides he is ready for a girlfriend. Then you will know he likes you for yourself and not for what he can get for free. If you get what I mean...:)
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