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Real simple.
I'm a girl. There's this boy, we hang out. He likes me, I'm 98% sure. He was hurt during and after his last relationship for a really long time. While we hang out and cuddle and just be together we talk and he told me that he see's a future with me and it scares him. I didn't necessarily take this as a bad thing. However, the more I think about it, the more I wonder. What are all of your opinions on this?
Second part.
Also, he doesn't seem too ready to date any time soon. Then there's this guy, who I really really used to dig when I was like 15. I'm 18, now. We're friends, but I think he wants to try something more. I like this other guy, in the above paragraph, however, I don't know if I should wait for him, or see if I like this friend of mine. My gut feelings are telling me that I'm young, and should play out both fields. What are your opinions?
K Thanks.
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True that you are young, but don't play the fields too much. The friend of yours in the first paragraph is scared to have a relationship because he's afraid of getting hurt again. He's let you know that he sees a future with you, so if you go and try to see this other friend of yours he's going to be hurt. The only thing you can do is figure out which one you wanna be with more. If you still can't figure out which one you like more... sit down with friend #1 and find out when he's planning on moving on and starting a relationship with you. If he doesn't know or it's too long to wait on someone who you don't think you'll be with for awhile then just let him know that you can't put your life on hold for something that isn't going to be there for a long time. Then talk to friend #2 and see what can spark from that one. =] I hope ya get everything worked out. Good Luck!
<3 -- *Ashley*
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hmm the mathematical side of me is goign to show here.. you said 98% which leaves another 2% out there.. tahts like 1/50th yea i know that means that if you asked fifty people if he liked you 1 person would be liek "noyou slut why are you fooing around with two guys" trust me they would say that. and you didnt list the percentage for the second part. whats up with that. i mean how am i supposed to make an equation to figure this out. i would have used a system but noo you left out the information... retard;) hope i helped:)
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Don't play 'both fields', that sounds like stringing them both along.
If you want a relationship, give the guy who is ready and willing for a relationship a chance, not the one who is dragging his feet. If you are willing to wait on guy number one fine, but like you said, you are young.
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You should play the field. However, do it the right way. Go on a date with one of them and tell them it's not anything serious. Then go on a date with the other on and tell him that. You should follow your heart after that. Yes, guy number one may not be able to commit to a relationship yet but he may be worth the wait. Try to date friendly with both of them and see which one you can really see yourself in with a long relationship. I hope I helped!
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It concerns me the way you say 'play both fields' - thats not fair on anyone, you risk breaking both thier harts and your own. We have a saying ' follow your hart - not your head'. Be true to your self and listen to what your hart says to you. Remember your harts wisper is a lot louder than your heads shout. I know which one you want, you know which one you want. One of thies gue's says to me a life time of love and happyness - the other says nothing of the sort. be gentle, become his rock and let him be yours. Don't rush it or even think about it - just let it happen. Good luck and let us know what happens.
Derfel&Dannii xx
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You are young, and you shouldn't have to wait around for said guy #1 to make up his mind wether he's ready to date or not. If he wants to date you, then he wants to. If he's not ready, then he's not ready, and that shouldn't stop you from dating anyone else in the mean time. Simply give him his chance to date you. If he says that he's not ready, go for guy #2.
This way, if guy #1 gets upset, it's not your fault. You gave him the chance, he didn't take it. Of course, if you used to dig guy #2 when you were 15, but you don't know if you like him like that or not anymore, don't rush things too fast with him. Just play everything slowly, and by your heart, and nothing should go wrong.
<3 Nyx
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