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BRO....
I made out with my boyfriend last night and my older brother walked in on us (we were in my room with the door locked but my bro just has to stick a penny in the door too twist it.. if you know how those work yeah)... He came in and got really really pissed and started yelling at my bf (which made him leave), My brother had me in tears, he acted like he was my parents he was yelling at me and everything... I mean all we were doing was making out just sitting there not even laying down or anything. Im 14 and hes 17 but he was sooooooo mean and he told my parents so now im grounded for a frigin MONTH!!! I was so pissed at my brother and he said he didnt want me too turn into a slut (wth all we did was makeout) So this morning he was in the living room and he told me my bf called and my bro told him he wasnt allowed to call my house anymore... WHY IS he taking this so out of proportion.. I started crying again so i told him i hated him and that i wished he would die and burn in hell... :( That got me grounded for even longer but i didnt mean it :( Ive tried apologizing and he wont listen too me. Does anybody know how i could apologize too him and handle this whole situation all together because if not i could lose my BF.. because hes not allowed over here and my parents say i cant see him :(.
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I can under stand why he was mad, he probably thought you were doing more than you did. tell your bro your sincierly sorry, you understand why he is mad and you wont do it again. and if that doesint work then he has got a serious grudge that should blo over in a few weeks... or months. hope this helps.
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I deffinately know what your going through. And I also see your brothers point of view. Your brother is afraid that your going to have sex with this guy. Talk to your brother and tell him that you and your boyfriend have limits. You guys wont even go past making out. Older brothers and fathers are like that. There afraid because your growing up. And dont want you to. Tell your brother he cant protect you all your life. You have to make your own mistakes and learn from them. Because after all you learn from your mistakes so you wont make them again. Tell your brother you can take care of yourself. And you would never have sex with your boyfrined. hope this helps <33
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thats how older brothers act.. they dont want their 'little' sister to grow all up. i would talk to him. tell him thank you for caring about you, and you know your limits. you will not go farther then you want.. and your boyfriend knows that as well. then talk to your parents. tell them that you are responsible, and that you know your limits. you are 14, and you are growing up. and that you guys were only making out. tell them that you werent forced to do it .. and you believe that that was the right time for it to happen.
and tell them that you accept your punishment, but you dont think its very fair that you cant see him when you are un-grounded.
you are growing up, and they need to accept this.. maybe you can act really responible around the house, so they can see you are growing up.
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i can deffinetly see you and your brother's point of view. i've been in your situation before. except, i did worse with my boyfriend at the time and i was 2 years younger. And i know that it seriously sucks ! but sence your brother won't talk to you, try talking to your parents. tell them that you were only making out when most people your age do way worse. but in the mean time, call him and hang out with him w/o your parents or your brother finding out. yeah, you'll feel really guilty but it's better than a broken heart. and you have to look at the situation through your brother's point of view, he's really protective of you because he doesn't want something bad to happen to you. he's worried about you. To apologize to him, i would write him a note or soemthing explaining that you know why he did that and tell him that you really love him. Even better, if he finally lets him talk to you tell him that to his face.
- Hope I helped.
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Heh... Sorry to say this, but I know EXATLY how your brother feels. I'm an older brother too. I know that if I see my sister making out with a dude, I'd have to raise hell! I dunno. I think this is an older brother thing. My friend does it too. I positive that your brother is angry at you because he saw you making out. Not laying down doesn't matter.
You see, I'm sure you're brother loves you very much. (you probably hurt him when you said that you hated him and wished that he would burn in hell... I would feel very bad if my sister were to say that...) You have to understand, he was with you since the day you were born. He remembers you when you were in infant, (I'm pretty sure... 3 years is kinda close) You both grew up together. Now he's seeing you making out... That's a bad transition. It's very hard for us older brothers to get over the vision of our little sisters making out with boys. Its probably burned into his head... It's pretty hard to explain. But I'm sure that this is how your brother feels. He feels that he should always protect his sister from all things sexual, or anything close. Plese understand.
As apologizing... I think you should give him time to cool off. (Maybe 2 weeks... maybe even 3. This is big) Then once he's cooled down, give him a big hug (ugh... sounds too mushy for me!) and say that you are deeply sorry for saying "blah blah blah" and that you didn't mean it. Then give him some chocolate. (I dunno, it might make him feel better!)
Also, show him this answer and ask him if what I said is true. THEN rate me and tell me what he thinks. I really hope I helped. And please understand that his reaction is a normal, older brother thing.
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Brothers...You can't live with them, yeah that's really all. I know what you mean, my brother is CONSTANTLY telling me stuff about how all my friends will probably turn into sluts and how everyone will start to do drugs. It is so annoying but I know he only does it because he loves me and doesn't want me to turn into a slut or a druggie. I know you probably wondering why they can't just understand and why they are freaking out over just making out...but look at it from his view... He walks in on you two making out with some guy (assuming your bro and bf don't know eachother). I know it sucks like heck that they won't just let you do whatever...but just remember that your bro only got so pissed because he really does care about you and really doesn't want you to turn into a slut. There isn't an easy way to apologize because what you said probably really hurt him, he was probably thinking, "i'm such a good brother because I'm looking out for my little sis" and then you told him you hate him...so just give it some time and tell him that you didn't mean it and you understand what he is trying to do. Hope it all works out...brothers can be SUCH a pain in the ass sometimes. (oh and remember, your brother is a whole lot more important than you bf...no matter what)
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god, my LIL sister is the same way soe times, she'll listen in on phone conversations n tell my mom n get PAID!!!!! so what i did is talked to my sister n i told her to stop n she did, with your bother tell him to bak off, its your life you weren't doing anything inapropreate n your upset with him cause you like ur bf as a friend n boyfriend, n if he really cares about you than he should bakk of n trust you.
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you need to talk to your parents first. tell them that you love them TO DEATH but your growing up and you would never go any farther than making out until your WAY older. tell them that your sorry but they really need to give a little faith in you. dont say it like your mad though bc that would lead to BAD things. and then once they forgive you and that stuff go to your brother and say the same thing. tell him that you hate fighting with him and you didnt mean what you said, you just were really mad and didnt know how to say it the right way. i REALLY hope it helps. tell me how it works out : )!
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try and say that you werent doing anything and hey i think you should be like to your brother hey i am sorry for all the stuff i said to you and say that your not going to be a slut than tell your parents that you really wanna see him and that some 14 year olds do way more things than just making out and ask how you can be able to see him again
hope i helped!!!
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heyy i think you should be like to you brother hey umm i need to talk to u then apoligize for saying all the stuff and then be like im 14 and im not gunna turn into a slut and then be like some 14 year old girls are having sex with their bf's would u rather have me have sex with him or make out with him?
hope i helped <3333
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