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HELP ME B4 I GO CRAZY
See I have this really awsome Dad. But I stopped seing him because him and my mom got in a fight. Like not physical. But like swearing. Then that went to court and I am not allowed to see him anymore. I havnt seen him in 5 years. And all my friends at school know him and get to see him and are always talking about how cool he is and I know he is cool but I miss him reallllyyy bad. And I cant wait until I am 18 to see him but I have to. Every night I cry and cry. What do I do? What do I do to stop being depressed. Everyone at school calls me bad names and a girl even sprained my pinky but the teachers dont really care. They just gave her lunch detention for one day. All my friends are like get over it. Dont care what people say. But ever since I strted public school (since 5th grade) people have been treating me like crap every day and it doesnt stop. Its not just the normal name calling, its worse and it has scarred me. I cant take it anymore. Its so annoying and I am a sensitive person but I act tough and just cry when I get home. I have tried to do something about it but they just blame it on me when I am kind to them even when their mean to me. I even got suspended once for no reasen. Well, the person blamed somthing on me and i got suspened for 4 days (in school suspension) plus week of detention. I dont know what to do. Plus my mom verbally fights with me a lot. I dont feel safe anywhere. What do I do? My mom even called me a loser and I suck and said my friends are losers and no1 likes me? HELP!I am a girl and I am 12. HELLLLLPPPPP!
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im part of a divorced family too, but i get to see my mom and dad evenly. im so sorry about your situation. i am 12 also and i wouldnt be able to imagine the feelings that you are experiencing. stay strong and pray every night. stop fighting with your mother because that is probably giving you more stress. be all that you can be and dont take any crap from people. my hopes are with you!!
x0 dani--trust me
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OMG that is so sad. I think you should become emo, and listen to loud screamy music and torture yourself to ease the pain. It worked for me and look how I turned out!
Now for the non-sarcastic part of the advice:
Yeah and if people are going to give you crap, you need to fight back, geez. I don't let anyone push ME around and you shouldn't either. Just shove people into their lockers, thats what i do. Stop talking to your mom for a week. Demand to see your dad. And call him and run away to his house.
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First- relax... my parents got divorced, so i kinda have a similar situation... First, maybe your mom doesnt realize the effects of calling you those names- she might be mad about your father but take it out on you- so let her know- next time she does it say... mom, that really hurts my fealings.
About your dad- i've tried many ways to stop missing mine- i know it's hard. Talk to him on the phone(i talk to my dad every night- it helps a lot!) or write letters. You will never stop missing him. Honestly, i'm crying right now because i feel your pain, kids at school don't understand! it so sucks. Just keep in touch with your dad... please
About kids at school- ya know what? its their problem- just hold your head high and shoulders back! make it a goal to make two GOOD friends this year!
i have faith hun- good luck
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This sounds like something you need to talk to your school counselor about. Make an appointment with him or her and bring up your concerns, because unlike your parents, counselors are PAID to lend a helping hand to you, and this is the job they CHOSE, so most likely, they like their job. Reaching out for help is a good first step.
Also, you do not 'suck'. Nobody in and of themselves 'sucks'. My parents are still together, but you remind me a little of how I got similarly abused in third, fourth, and fifth grade. It's not fun, but you can resolve your problem gradually.
That said, what I suggest you do about it is find some school activities to involve yourself in, and spend time finding your own interests. You'll soon learn that you don't need to be popular to be a worthwhile person, and that the people who will be your truest friends will like you for who you are. So it's okay to cry, but stand up to the people who are abusing you, and in the meantime, search for other people whom you haven't approached yet - try talking to and being around the shy people, the nerds, or even a popular person that you haven't approached yet. Once you make yourself approachable, people will come to appreciate your qualities, and THAT is how you gain friends. Good luck!
Hope this helps.
~Kathy
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who cares what the chourt says if you wanna see your fauther you have the right. like what the hell girl he is your flesh in blood just see him in secret and im sure the chourt will never find out. and with the name teasing thing i know what you go through. people through rocks at me from my old school. and i've bin teased all my life. if you ever need some one to talk to just e-mail me salem_22_@hotmail.com. there is really nothing you can do. but if you record your mom and the way she yells at you. then you can show the court that and i think they might let you live with your dad.
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