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My mom makes me wear the dumbest clothes! It's so annoying. She's Chinese, and she grew up in a society you get one pair of pants a year. I'm 13, but the kind of clothes I have to wear are like for a ten-year-old! I hate it! Stuff like pink and white striped T shirts and rose-printed shorts and stuff she thinks that are "cute" and "what kids should wear." I H-A-T-E pastels!
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Ive tried talking to her, but she never changes her mind. When I show her my kind of stuff, she wrinkles her nose.
On the other hand, I like stuff like Converse shoes, torn jeans, tyedye stuff like that. People never take me seriously! What should I do and where can I get some good jeans?
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Try a compromise. Take her to some stores that you like, and see if you can find anything that both of you like. Try Abercrombie & Fitch, Hollister, Juicy Couture, Junk Food tees, etc. for girly finds that still have a cool edge to them.
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num 1-gap jeans are awesome
num 2- go shoping with your friends- then you can pick out clothes you like- or if you mom buys you something new dont wear it- then she'll ask why and you explain( once again...lol...)
also try talking to your dad so he can tlk to her... or you can be like- mom i like this shirt- and if she wrinkles her nose just be like- well i really really like it- it would be great for the dance or something- if she still says no just be like- mom- im not 10 anymore- i can pick my own clothes out..she might be a little hurt- but she will eventually see it your way...
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even though she is the one paying for you clothes you should still have a say in things. explain to her you are your own person your 13 and you dont desirve to have to wear the clothes you dont want to. if its price a store like abercrombie or hollister wont budge her they are pricey but aeropostale i think is basicly the same thing but much much cheeper. for jeans abercrombie hollister forever 21 gap charlette rosse aeropostale ae. all have great jeans. the cheepest would be aeropostal basicly same stuff as ae and abercrombie. ripped jeans there to.
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i dont no if anyone has said this or if you told your mom this but tell her that your the one whos wearing these clothes and you want to wear what you want because it expresses. tell her that your the one wearing this and you dont like the stuff she picks out for you tell her that your ready to pick out your own clothes and buy what you like not what she wants you to like.
i really hope i helped
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I cannot ask the second part, and I'm a guy and normally don't look for that kind of stuff, but I can help you with the first.
Tell your mom that it is time that she lets go. She may have had one set of pants a year when she grew up, but this is today. Today is the time where people have thousands of shirts, and wear each only once. Let her know that she is very lucky that you aren't like some girls who want to wear shirts that reveal 90% skin, and pants that are below the hipline. Tell her that you just want to buy some decent clothes that can allow you to fit in. Make sure that you say fit in. Tell her that is is socially causing you problems, and that you wish she would stop preventing you from having a social life. What she sees cute is not generally accepted.
Let her know, and offer to pay for the clothes yourself (You may do that now...). And if she wrinkles her nose again, tell her that she's lucky that you're not on drugs because most kids who get refused this many things usually turn to them.
-Steven
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You should try to strike a compromise with your mom. Like, if you can get the pair of jeans you like and the shirt that she likes, each of you could win. She's from another country, and they probably didn't get the kind of options in clothing that you get. She's probably just trying to make sure that her daughter is dressed nicely. I agree with the person before me who mentioned something about talking about clothes in a mature way with your mom. If you throw a temper tantrum in the store, she's never going to respect your thoughts about clothing because she'll think that you're just trying to undermine her authority as a parent. My mom is sort of the same way about clothes. She's ultra conservative and doesn't like things like low cut shirts and low waisted jeans, so I buy those kind of things with the money that I earn myself. The clothes that my mom buys for me are things that we can both somewhat agree upon, but aren't too old lady-ish or too conservative for a 16 year old. Try doing some chores around the house to earn money and see if your mom will let you spend the money on some clothes that reflect your style a little bit better than the things she picks out. Since you like tye dye shirts, you guys could make tye dye shirts together. It's not hard to do at home at all. All you do is buy some white shirts, a package of dye, and some regular rubber bands. There should be directions on the dye, and you can do that part in the wash machine. Take the rubber bands and put them around the shirt to make a pattern with ring-looking things. I did this once.. it was really fun.
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HaHa! those are cute! but definately not for a 13 year old girl! your old enough now, where you should be picking out your own clothes! you say you've tried talking to her before, but was it maturley talking?! sometimes when i get pissed at my parents... all i do is scream and that makes me never get my way! make sure she undestands that your not a little baby anYmore! as much as she thinks you still are! talk to her from adult~adult. tell her that your old enough to wear what you want, and obviously you guys dont have the same tastes. or find something you both agree on... as hard as you think that seems, i'm sure she'd like something! or earn $ and buy your own stuff! babysit! but i would suggest calmly talking to her! some places for good jeans since you like destroyed denim... hollister, abercrombie, ae! anywhere! good luck huN!
xOxO, aLeX
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haha dont worry thats how all parents are. especially if your an only child or the youngest one. they just dont want to let you grow up. dont worry about it though. just try and sit down to talk with her again and tell her. mom, im 13 years old and i think im old enough to start wearing the clothes that I want to wear. bring her to Gap or A&F and show her the things you want to wear. start out small like a plain t-shirt and then work your way up. its going to take some time for her to get used to it but it will eventually work. good luck.
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