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this might seem weird, but i fell in love with a guy i met online. last night we talked for like 7 or 8 hours, maybe longer. but the thing is, today i remembered that i had lied to him about something. and i felt bad so i e-mailed him and told him. he just kind of laughed it off, but then he was like "so does this mean i can go out with someone else?" so then he explains to me that this whole time he liked another girl and that he can't trust me now...yet he still "loves" me. it makes me feel awful, i told him that i was a year older than i really was. he says it doesn't bother him, but yet he's confusing me by saying he loves me but he just wants to be friends so he can go out with this girl. i guess my question is..what can i do to get his trust back? i'm really going to miss talking to him the way i used to...
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well he says "he loves you" he might mean it in a friend way , but it is not very mature to change his feelings for you just because you told him you was a year older , if he really loves you he would not be like this
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In order to love someone, you've got to completely trust them. If he says he loves you but doesn't trust you, one of those two things is a lie. It's not even really your fault at this point, and there's nothing you can do to repair what you did. If anything, he's at fault for throwing around that word love while saying he doesn't trust you and is interested in someone else. I know it sucks, but you probably know this already - it really does sound like he's just trying to figure out how much he can push your relationship and date two women by calling one "just a friend". Trust is funny, because it works both ways. I think he's broken yours as well. If he hasn't, you may want to consider breaking it for him. I'm not sure if this other girl is real or not, maybe he's just trying to get back at you because he's hurt, but if it's true, then people in love don't blackmail each other like that, and he's pretty scummy for using that word with you.
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first off how do you know that he isnt lying to you that happens alot these days,....and if he isnt lying what i would tell you to do is tell him that you wish that you could earn his trust back tell him how you feel .....tell him that you wish you could admit the way you truly feel and you want him to understand that you didnt mean to lie you just didnt want to be talking to some guy 5 times your age and you just want his forgivness. i hope i helped you in someway!
♥ Dane
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well act like urself n just tlak to him like u were n dont act liek someone your not bc that only leads u into trouble
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if he doesnt live near you he probably just needs "physical" realationships like he needs to kiss someone or whatever.
If he lives by you maybe he thinks that he needs to date other people to see if he truly loves you.
Maybe he thinks you guys need to see other people for a while.
IHI!
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Just start being honest,tell him you won't lie to him again,and earn his trust again.You could do it by asking him if he wants to tell you something that he don't want others to know about that you will not tell on him and that his secrets will be kept safe with you.Also talk about if he has any family problems,or with other people try to help him out like what he should do.
Take good care.
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i'm not gonan say that you wren't in love, but like, why online? find a real person. this guy could be a 50 yr old guys, pretending to be your age, & he could be a pedaphile. that's just stupidy. i'd say grow the hell up. get a real boyfriend. someone that you can actually see, & know he's not really 50 yrs old. good luck though.
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