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Okay, this is gonna be long..but- 2 years ago a met this guy and we became friends turns out..he's MADLY inlove with me! That's all fine and dandy, I don't mind reject people I don't like, but it also turns out this guy is suicidle! Now, please don't say get him help! He's gotta better about cutting himself, and he sees a therapist. But every time a guy asks me out, even the ones I like, I make up a stupid excuse and walk away for fear the 'suicidle guy' will kill himself! He's told me before I'm his reason for living! What do I do? I rate high!
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Well just explain to him how you don't want to date him but then tell him you want to be friends so then you won't be dating him but you'll still be in his life. Just trying being a caring friend and being there for him, and hopefully he'll get better. Because if you are his reason for living, I don't think he's gonna wanna kill himself then because then he'd be leaving you...I hope I helped!
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MELii
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Wow, I am in the EXACT same position myself!
And if you don't want to be with him, you shouldn't have to. And if he respects you as a person, he'll respect that. If he's so in love with you, all he's going to want is for you to be happy... whether it's with him or not. I'm not saying 'GET OUT OF THERE!', because I myself have tried that, and since me and him are so close, it hurt a lot... and it's better to just talk to him about the situation. There's no reason you two can't still be friends. But there is also no reason you can't be happy, and get yourself a boyfriend just because someone else likes you. I've learned that the best thing you can do for this boy is to just be there for him, as a friend. Just help him through this and talk to him whenever he needs to. But you can't be worried about what he will do because of you... (I actually just made my friend promise me that if he cares about me, he'd never kill himself...and he's has never broken a promise to me yet, and I'm 100% positive he won't this time.) Just let him know that if he ever did anything like that, it would kill you... and that if he loves you, he won't want to put you through that type of pain. BUT DON'T LET HIM HOLD YOU BACK.
Best of luck. Hope I helped! <3
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definantly tell someone about this! this is serious and deadly and you could get in trouble for knowing he is doing this. just keep it cool and tell your parents you need serious help! hurry before he kills himself because of you!
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wow this is a crazy one, yeaah well i had that happen and what i did was i just tryed to not talk to him on the computer, let him bring up all the subjects and thank god the kid didnt call me or idk what i would do but you shouldnt be afraid to go out with other guys, i mean he will prolly talk to his therapist, but be careful. I dont think you should be living your life like that ..scared. You can tell him that you guys are too good of friends to ever go out but you guys could be you know really good friends. i know thats the cheesiest way to do it but i think its the best in not hurting there feelings..hope that helps! rate me if u wanna <3
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holy crappppp i was in the same situation as you. oh mannn ok. he's going to do everything he can to make you feel bad about the situation. listen to me. get out as soon as possible. juss get outta it, because he'll threaten you over and over again. i was in the same exact situation as you and it lasted so long, way too long. you have to get outta it somehow. you don't want him to do anything because of you. it juss gets worse as time goes on and somehow you have to juss let it go and walk away. maybe help him get some other friends. juss be nice about it. stay strong.
-hope that helped
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Maybe you need to talk to this guy and tell him that some people are meant to be together and that you too just aren't those people. So you need to explain a lot of things to him. And sometimes, maybe you need to tell an adult what is going on / and or what he is saying. I know you think, what use is it. But telling an adult what he says may cause and save a lot of damage for happening. Explaun it to him because it's not fair for him but it's also not fair to you,
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hello. you cant spend your whole life worring about this guy. you are not responsible for what he does to himself or anyone else. if you are the reason he lives for then thats sad. he should be living for himself and only himself. right now he is too attached to you. try to ignore him for a while. but also try to find someone that likes him and try to start a relationship between the guy and the girl that you found. hope i have helped. please rate.
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You can't be held hostage by this guy. If you want to see someone else then do so. It is up to him to continue living or not, and sad as it is it isn't your responsibility. I do suggest that you don't just say I don't want to date you. I think you need to get clear away from him until he can learn to stop being so clingy. He is seeing a therapist, you are not responsible for his actions. I don't know if his doctors office would be of help or not. I know they can't give you info concerning him but, maybe you could ask a question about how to handle the situation.
If he is a minor, ask his parents. :)
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