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scared/hate
heyy all i need your help im scared of my dad everytime he yells i start crying also when he yells at me i always think he is going to do something to me like hit me he also calls me names and it really hurts my feelings i love my mom more then i love my dad because he does it i hate my life and i wish i could die please give me good advice what should i do.
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have your dad go to angermanagement or sit him down and talk to him about it!!
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I think you should just ignore it. You are the only person that knows who you really are and your friends rarely know who you really are no matter how close you are. My mom calls me a Bitch, Slut, Whore, and I think some more I just tune her out most of the time. It works I usually cry a lot because I'm really sensitive if someone makes fun of me in school (I used to cry) now that I tune em out I confront them myself and ask them why do they have to say shit and that they should look in the mirror. I mean god my own sister in law, her name is Shannon too, said I'm a slut and shouldn't be wearing half the things I wear at my age. So I told my mom to tell her she shouldn't be saying shit about me when she weighs like 100 more pounds than I do and that she should look in the mirror and lose some pounds by getting off her ass instead of sitting at home and watching Sope's all day (Or however you spell it) and when she loses about 50 to 100 pounds she can say whatever she wants til' then she needs to shut her mouth and have fun fucking my brother<-- Sorry for the language. But yeah my point is just tune your dad out and just remember your stronger than that and that you don't care what he thinks. I mean god he's a shitty father for saying shit like that about his own daughter. Oh and that whatever he says isn't true. Okay hope I helped. Sorry if I didn't, I'm sorry to hear about your dad doing the same stuff my mom's doing. Oh yeah and if you feel that he will hit you one day and he does just remember you can always pick up a phone and call 911 and they will lock him away (your probably don't want to do that because I mean he's your dad but still it's an option) or you could tell your mother.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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sorry to hear that. i think you should talk to your mom about how you get scared. maybe she'll talk to him to tone it down so you feel comfortable. if that doesn't work try going to a family member er friend, because you seem too afraid to go to your dad.
good luck!
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Hmm sorry to hear that. Maybe you could start off by talking to your mom about it. Tell her that what he does upsets you and you want it to stop; perhaps she would even talk to your dad for you. As difficult as it may seem, that might just be your way out. If you feel up to it you could even ask your dad why he yells at you.
Try not to let the yelling and things he says to get to you. Try not to be too responsive about the yelling part either. Hang in there because things will get better, they always do. No matter how difficult things get, keep your head up high. When he yells at you and then you cry, who wins? He does. If you listen to what he says and not let it get to you emotionally, and try not to be so responsive about it, like show emotions or say anything back [like snap back], then you might find it easier to tune out the yelling over time. If it still keeps up then tell an older relative you can trust. Feel better and good luck.
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people are telling you to tell your dad how you feel. but i've been through the exact same thing as you. and it is next to impossible to talk to my dad. the one time i did talk to him, i said some things he needed to hear, and he still uses it against me. it was 6 months ago. the way i deal with it now, is whenever he yells at me i just take it, calmly. and ignore it. then when i can, i go to my room and write. poetry, letters, whatever it takes. i never give them to him, but it's a way of getting it out.
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Honey, don't wish you could die. That's a horrible thought.If something were to change just in the blink of an eye, just..anything could happen. Don't think that. I think maybe you should try avoiding your dad as much as possible. And I mean, is your mom understanding? Does she see whats going on? have you tried telling her? Does she know? Here's a website that may help you a little bit:
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~*Jess*~♥
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talk to him about it and tell him how you feel..if that doesnt work try talking to your mom or a consouler (spelling?) at school.
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