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I want opinions on this one. I'm 17 (almost 18)/f, my boyfriend's 19. We're both going into college as freshman, but we're going into different colleges. I heard there are dances at my school and I'm assuming there will be some at his.
My thing is, I really wouldn't feel comfortable going with anyone but him, but he'll be living like 45 minutes away from me and I have no car and therefore no way to pick him up.
He does have a car, but I doubt he'd want to drive 45 minutes to get me, run back, and then run me back later. (Though he did promise he'd drive over and see me every other week as long as college didn't kill him workwise)
Opinionwise - should I find out the dance date(s) and try to work it out so I can drag him, or do I just go alone?
Also, do I tell him if there are dances I want him to take me (mostly because I honestly want to meet his friends...and besides, he's a good dancer)? Would that seem too much like I'm trying to keep tabs on him? I trust him, and he knows that.
What do you guys think?
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I think you should both get dance schedules and make a calender of when both are. Then I think you should try your best to make it to as many as possible. My hubby drives 45 minutes to work everyday and it isn't that bad. It really shouldn't be that big of a deal. Hope it all works out for you. :)
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I think finding out when the dances are and letting him know ahead of time is a good idea. You can sit down and choose a couple that you'd really like him to come to or you'd like to go to at his school.
Another option is to go to the dance with a group of girls. When I was in college, I was four hours away from my fiance so he wasn't able to come to school dances. A group of girls, all of us engaged or dating someone that couldn't come, would just go to the dances as a group.
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If it were me i would but thats just me
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You should find out the dates of the dances and ask him if he's free to come to them with you. If he's not, just go alone or with some friends. If he is free, by all means ask him to go with you. 45 minutes is kind of a long drive, but it's not that bad. You could even offer to help him pay for gas for his car if money's tight. There's nothing wrong with asking about dances at his school either, just make sure you don't sound too forceful about it, though. You don't want him thinking you're his new mommy. If his school doesn't have dances or if they do and he isn't interested in going, you could mention that you'd like to meet his friends and maybe you could all get together for dinner or a movie some night.
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You should still ask him to a dance. Maybe not all of them, but one or two if you are both comfortable with it. Maybe it'd be easier if you found other ways to hang out like a mall or movies or something. Nobody says you have to go to the dances if you don't want to.
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i think if you guys were serious about eachother, you and him, would find every way possible to be together no matter the time frame. try talking to him about it, and im sure he'll listen. plus dances arent a huge thing. if he doesnt wanna drive the full 45 mins for a dance, try getting to him. hang out and stuff. he should wanna drive that far though. i know college can be tough, but if its true love you guys will work through it.
good luck!
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