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how do you get your boyfriend to stop cutting..? please help me..=(
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i wouldnt tell him your going to brake up with him or anything that could actualy be the worst thing you could do that will only make him madder so just love him and point out good things never point out anything bad and find out the core of the problem most of the time its one thing thats causing it that turns into a bunch try and c if you can find that one thing and also tell him to get his thoughts out on paper i used to cut and this helped me a bunch just writing whatever was on my mind and before i knew it i didnt want to cut anymore take him somewhere and let him thro rocks but the worst thing u can do is tell him you will brake up with him if he doesnt stop trust me i was in that place one time
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He might be going through and identity crisis try talking to him, lie if you have to say I heard that the blade does something to you once in your skin make it up. Do anything for him to stop. Let him see a doctor or psycatrist but don't leave him...good luck.
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give him a ball tap for each cut he has. Also a few sharp kicks to the balls will do nicely.
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tell him you would break up with him. that it hurts you so much to see him tear himself apart. tell him how much you love him and want to help him and be there for him, but you can't handle the cutting. my boyfriend did that to me and i no longer cut. but it is really freakn hard to stop, so whenever he feels down or something see if you can go over to his place and just hang. my friend had hers lock her in a closet once so she wouldnt. tough love works. just be careful not to be too tough?? know when to draw the line. others are right, a doctor and parents need to be informed. when my mom found out she started crying and the guilt helped me stopped.
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You really need the find the reason for his cutting, it could be anything but just find out why he is doing it. Talk to him and be there for him, try and talk him out of it but if you can't then you definately need to tell an adult about it. But first talk to him about it and try and find out why he is doing it so he can stop. Be a friend and let him know how much he will be misses, even if he doesn't think no one will. Let him know YOU will miss him and how devastated you will be (which you will I am sure) if he were to die. Be a friend and talk to him, let him know you care.
I very much hope I helped and that you can get him to stop, good luck to you.
You are in my prayers.
-Ryan
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I cut and a lot of my friends cut. Its pretty hard to stop. So just tell him you love him and try to get him to realize that somebody actualy loves him. And tell him how you feel about it and that you want him to stop....but it will take a lot of time. Peoples been trying to get me to stop for years...I hope I've helped.
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You may have to get one of his parents involved and have him get help from a doctor. As much as you may want to help, about all you can do is be there for him and let him know you care. That isn't always enough to help someone though. You might want to read about it at this web site. It has a lot of information that may help you understand why he does it. :)
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wOW. the main thing to do.. is show him a good time.. take him on more dates.. get him to laugh and enjoy life.. always tell him you love him and make him feel special.. maybe you should talk to his parents about his cutting or another adult so that way they can make him stop.. take him out with your friends and his friends and just have fun.. having a conversation about how he shouldn't cut could make him even more upset.. just tell him.. you belong here and alot of people would miss you.. especially me.. and then say.. cutting isn't the answer.. and then end the conversation unless he wants to talk more about it.. just help him have fun and enjoy himself.. hope i helped
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Been there. Done that.
Tell him that he doesn't neet a razorblade to solve his problems;; that he has you. Tell it hurts you when he cuts himself and that you're always there to talk.
It takes time
--Social Suicide
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Well i use to do the same.It was like a faze,but i snapped out of it ...after a long time.Best thing to do,is care for him alot.
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well....i youst to be a cutter...and all my friends helped me...you just need to talk to him...tell him he belongs here...tell him how much you love him...how much everyone would miss him ....and stuff like that
but im not sure how to put it on here
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hope i helped...
britt
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take it from someone who was in a VERY similar situation: just talking to that person won't help. yeah, they might stop it for a while, but they're going to keep doing it. the only thing that you can do is talk to an adult about it. get some help. your boyfriend might get mad at you, but look at it this way.. would you rather him be mad you or you feel guilty if he ever cuts a little too deep and seriously hurts himself? .. maybe even die?
♥ ♥ ♥ daniella
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o wow, that is one of the questions i asked here a while ago. my bf used to do it too. look take it from someone who has had a bf who does that and has done it herself. your bf is in a very depressing stage right now. you need to tell him you care about him and you would miss him if he was gone. tell him everyone feels down at times but he cant let it bring him down. but dont sound angery or dont use a firm voice (that only makes problems). just use a soft voice. tell him he really needs to talk to you. tell him that you really want him to stop bc you care about him. i really really really hope i helped you out. and good luck with your bf!
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you need to let him now that you would care if he died.. look him in the eyes and tell him in person so he nows that you are serious... tell him you owuldn't know what you would do with out him.. and that you want to be with him forever.. and that you love him dearly.. etc. kinda like sweet talk him... hope i helped and if yo need anything else let me no
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