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What can I do?
Okay, so I'm engaged.
I have a friend with whom I used to be extremely close. I found out, though, after I started dating this guy, that she'd had a crush on him for quite a while.
Just so there are no misconceptions, I'm going to emphasize that I didn't know she liked him before I started dating him. If I had known, I wouldn't have gone out with him.
I was talking to my fiance - he's friends with her too. From what he told me, I think she still likes him. She doesn't know we're engaged. He started to tell her on line, but she signed off before he could and hasn't spoken to him since.
She's going to find out at some point, but I'd like to tell her in a way that won't...hurt her too much, I suppose.
Is there a way to tell her without going "oh by the way we're engaged" so heartlessly?
The thing is, I could say that, but she'd never admit to me that she still has feelings for him because she wouldn't want me to feel bad.
Any suggestions?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down.
Thanks in advance :)
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well you should tell her cuz she deserves to know. And to say it nicly tell her that you guys feel in love and that you would never want to hurt her but you think she should know and tell her that she needs to go out cuz she could find somebody better than him she may never know if theres someone better if she doesnt stop liking him. And if she still liked him, wouldnt she want him to be happy? And when you tell her that yall are engaged say it in a way where you care that she has feelings for him im sure shed understand and yeah she will be bumed out about it for a long time maybe but she will get over it.
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if she is really a close true friend, then she should have opend up straight away, oh i like him, to make you aware of the actions you may chose to persue, as a true friend she should also have told you that first, you going out, im sure she knows and deals with, may be she believes if she waits long enough, then you two will break up and she can have a chance, he may have given her some chance, or a simple typical glance, find out how she feels, and if there was anything she may think could happen, take her out, ask her to be honest, and then break the news, if she loves you as a best friend, she will be happy for you, and may be you could do a typical friend thing where you say that some one will seriously be waiting to meet you, and hat she is a wonderful person, throwing aside any possible obvious signs, congradulations btw xx
i hope this may have done something, but may be not?
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I do think if its possible you should tell her in person. If not then you should at least tell her before she hears it from someone else. I think if she still has feelings for him she will be hurt regardless. I think you will just have to come right out and tell her you two are engaged. There really isn't any other way to put it. congratulations! :)
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Hola!
Okay, like mentioned before, you need to tell her. What if she happens to be out grocery shopping one day and someone who does know comes up to her "Oh, did you hear about 'Mark' and 'Stacy'! Such a lovely couple, and now they're engaged!". Let me tell you, if there was ever a better time to fall into a black hole at the supermarket, somebody better tell me. If she's your friend, she would probably feel betrayed that other people knew before you evened slightly mentioned it to her. I think you should take her to a little coffee shop, sit down, make casual conversation, and after a little while just say 'Hey, there's something I need to tell you. I hope you won't be hurt by this, but you need to realize So-And-So and I need to be together. That's why I'm coming right out and telling you this: we're engaged. I hope you'll be supportive of our marriage, and I hope I haven't hurt you.'
If that doesn't work, perhaps you would be better off in the long run without this friend.
Sounds like a perdicament,
OhSoFamous
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I think you should tell your friend before she finds out off someone eles. It would Be much worse if she herd it of someone eles. you should talk to your firend about how you love your fiance but let her know that you care about her feelings and you don't want this to effect your friendship. If she is a true friend she will be happy for you. In time your friend will hopefully lose the feelings she had for him.
Best of luck and congratulations on your engagement.
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ok thats pretty tough.i think you should just tell you're friend but be like hey guess wat im engaged.and ask her if she has feelings for him and you can tell her im really sry i dont want to hurt you but this is the man i love im so sry.you sound like a good friend and hopefully she want get mad or anything.i hope everything goes ok and good luck at the wedding.:)
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just let her know how much ou love him and how you would do anything for him. i mean f shes a true friend then she'll understand taht you've found someone that you love and, if your engaged, you want to spend your life with..hope i helped? :)
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