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my new uncle
hey. well this might be confusing so i'll apologize now. in novemeber of last year my aunt got married. i hated my new uncle. i know, thats rude but its also true! i loved my aunts old boyfriend .. he was great! they were going out for 6 and a half years! he was so funny too but then they broke it off. then my aunt met this other guy who she is now married too. he's okay i guess but hes such a freak! he totally changed the relationship between me and my aunt. before they met eachother me and my aunt were best friends!!! now we cant even have a simple convorasation with out him standing there & making sure everythings appropriate.
heres a little about him:
- hes a Church freak ( i guess theres nothing wrong with that .. )
- we have to listen to religious music ( and since he wont let me listen to B96 or KissFm .. i asked if i could listen to country music and he said 'no!! if you want to listen to that sh*t .. get ur own ride!' )
- he wouldnt take me and my grandma to fannie may because he said 'Jesus didnt sacrafice his life so people could waste their money over the stupidest f*ckin things!'
- we have to pray before every meal.. even if were in public. this one time my sister started eating before we prayed and her punishment was she had to say the prayer , she couldnt eat her lunch ; and for the rest of the month she had to go to church 3 days a week.
- he treats me and my sister like were 3
- he wont get cable for the same reason he wont take us to fannie may
what should i do about it? i cant talk to my aunt about it because i know she'll get so mad. how can i learn to like him? please answer.. ill rate high for good answers!!
love,
I HATE HIM!!
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Ah, the zealously, militantly religious people. Here's what I'd do: Start feeding him some of his own medicine. Tell him Jesus didn't sacrifice his life so that he could go around cursing. Tell him Jesus didn't care about how money was spent, he cared about how love was spent. Tell him that God's message is to spread love, not to keep his nieces as downtrodden as possible. Tell him that the world is full of things that might go against God, but you're not going to succumb to them, and you know what's right and wrong. Tell him that people make mistakes, and God's message is forgiveness for those who ask it, not automatic punishment or insincere piety. Start using his own (WAY overzealous) religion to show him what he's doing, and see if it doesn't get on his nerves. :)
~Nevaeh
P.S. If it doesn't work, come back on here and ask again, I'll be glad to offer other suggestions.
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You have to talk to your aunt about it. If you've seen the movie,THE WATERBOY,this boy's mother thought everything was evil or having to do with the devil. But as soon as he talked to his friend(who was also his mother's friend) things changed. You have to be subtle with what you say or it could go the wrong way. HOpe I helped!
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You don't have to like him. You do need to try and tolerate him for your aunts sake because she must love him. Do you live with them? If so, are there other arrangements that can be made?
If not then ignore what you can. Listen to your music when you are with friends. Follow house rules to the best of your ability, and stay out as much as possible. :)
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you shouldn't have to like him he sounds like a total knob tell him that your sick of being treated this way and that he's not gonna take over you life because you capable of living yourself and tell him just because he's married to your aunt that you can't change yours and hers relationship and tell him it's up to you what you do and if you don't like it then it's his problen hope this helps Sophie
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Don't spend as much time with your Aunt and Uncle.
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From what you said, I assume that you live with your aunt. Try talking to her calmly when you're alone with her. Tell her that you miss the closeness you had before her marriage and would like to occasionally spend time with just her. Let her know you don't feel fully comfortable with your uncle and explain why without sounding like you're accusing. I know that sounds hard but try to be tactful since it is her husband. I doubt that your aunt will get mad if you bring the issue up calmly and tactfully.
I don't really think you can learn to like him unless you truly want to. Try simply staying out of his way and tuning him out whenever possible, as long as it won't get you in trouble.
As for the music, try using a headset and listening to what you want if you can without getting in trouble. His issue with non-Christian music may be that he simply does not want to hear it. If you have headphones on, he can't hear it.
Praying before a meal is not necessarily a bad thing. If you're not religious or simply find it offensive to be forced to pray, I would simply bow my head and tune him out. Unless he can read minds, it's unlikely he'll ever know that you're not praying. The punishment for your sister was a bit heavy-handed I think but that's just my opinion. Maybe she was just really hungry.
Hopefully once he realizes that you and your sister are mature, he'll lighten up on the strictness.
I wish I could offer more to help. Good luck.
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He sounds completely arogant and annoying. If I were you, I'd get the both of them together, talk it out, and tell him that you and your sister are not three and shouldn't be treated as such. But I also think you should respect his religion by at least praying before you eat when you are together. As for the religion music, I would bring a portable CD player so I wouldn't have to listen to that Jesus Loves the Little Child crap. Good luck!
♥ Brooke
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call your aunt on the phone, where he cant butt in. tell her you want to go shopping or somehting with her. Then youll get closer and have some alone time.(hopefully your uncle wont go with you) once your close again you rly should tell her how you feel.
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Tell him unfavorable religious experiences can deal with the neglect or abandonment of the religion.
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