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Question Posted Wednesday June 29 2005, 6:43 pm

my boyfriend asked me to have sex with him and i dont want to but i dont know how to let him down easily.. what do u suggest i tell him ?

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karenR answered Thursday June 30 2005, 8:18 am:
Simply tell him you aren't ready for a relationship that is that serious yet. Not only is it emotionally risky, the consequences of possible pregnancy are a big risk to take for a young person. :)

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MELiixMARiiE answered Thursday June 30 2005, 12:48 am:
Well you should sit him down and explain all the things that could come from sex: Pregnancy,AIDS,HIV,all sorts of diseases.. and ask him if that's what he really wants. And if he says yes still, just be like," Well I don't want that." And if he uses that," If you loved me you would", excuse, well just be like," well if you loved me you would respect my decision. And if he pressures you into having sex, then that doesn't really seem like such a good boyfriend to me. =/ your smart cause think of all the things that could happen to you like I listed above, and theres so much more stuff than that. So just explain to him what all could happen and how you feel about the subject. It's your decision not to, and he should respect it. Hope I helped!! =)


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laurentaylor927 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 10:11 pm:
it doesnt really matter how you break it to him, the important thing is that you get across your morals to him, and if he doesnt except that then he isnt the right person for you! hope i helped!

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grobanitegrl227 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 10:08 pm:
tell him that you arent ready to make such a big commitment. and if he cant just back down and respect you and your feelings, then he's not good enough for you.

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imperfectlovex3 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 10:02 pm:
ehh dont ever let a boy pressure you into havin sex cause its most likely bc he jus wants you for sex..if you tell him no and he respects ur decision hes a keeper..otherwise dump the loser

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hawty_xo answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 9:59 pm:
One thing in a relationship that is a MUST is to be OPEN with your partner. If he doesn't respect you and your belifes or your wants then he isn't right for you. You need somoene who loves you and isn't going to want you just for sex because that is stupid anyways. You need the LOVE, sex is nice but a relationship shouldn't revolve around sex by any means!

..hope this helps!

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rosiecheeks520 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 9:59 pm:
Well, if you really love or like your boyfriend then you will be honest with him. You need to let him know that you are noy ready and that you hope he respects your feelings. And if he really loves/likes you then he will respect your choice not to have sex with him. If not, then he doesn't respect you and you need to get out of that relationship.

I hope I helped!

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ThugGirl041790 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 9:52 pm:
Just tell this guy you dont want to hvae sex with him.. tell him your not ready.. ♥ Dez

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HeathaAa answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 9:37 pm:
just tell him that u dont feel that you are ready for it yet. if he is a good bf, he will understand! whatever you do, DONT let him pressure you into it!

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xplisit15 answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 9:13 pm:
alright..heres what you do. Just tell him you arent ready to have sex yet. Make sure you say YET, because u dont want him to think you arent attracted to him like that. if he really has any respect for you at all he will have no problem with this. And if he does, then hes just not worth doing in the first place!

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 8:20 pm:
Just tell him. It's not too hard. You don't need to let him down easy if you really don't want to. And if he gives you any trouble dump him. It doesn't matter how much you think you love him (you may but it's not likely looking at the age group on this site) you have to let him go. Too many girls are throwing themselves away today. Just say no. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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poa answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 8:08 pm:
"Hey, im not going to have sex with you. Im not ready."

Or if thats a lie.

"Hey, im not going to have sex with you. I hear you are terrible in bed."

If thats a lie also - just bend that sentence with the excuse that fits.

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*BraNdi* answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 8:08 pm:
Just tell him how you feel about it and tell him you're not ready for this kind of thing and you need some time..if hes a good boyfriend he'll understand..if not then he's definately not worth it!

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xXxpinky615xXx answered Wednesday June 29 2005, 8:07 pm:
Just tell him that you like him (or love him) alot but you're just not ready to take your relationship to that level just yet. Tell him that you WILL concider it, but odds are you won't want to any time soon. Say [insert boyfriend's name here] I love you alot but it's just not the right time for that YET. Also tell him that you hope that your decision won't affect your relationship and hope that he understands. If he starts complaining and begging for it then you know he's only in the relationship for the sex, which by the way is not a good thing. Good luck with everything I hope everything works out for you =)

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