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Me and my friend and her boyfriend
So my best friend had this crazy idea... she wants me and her boyfriend and her to do like sexual things... i was all for it before but now im thinking twice... i don't have a boyfriend so i have no one holding me back... but im looking fo someone and idk if i should be doing this... i told her ealier i would do anything with them exept having sex... cause im waiting till i get married to have sex... but idk if im going to find that somone and im soo condused... she is my best friend and i love her to death... and this is something we could do together and me and her have been kinda fading... but im scared im going to regret it and me and her are going to have problems and i love her...
Confused and lonely girl
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nothing will go wrong between you and her. If she knows that you want to wait until you get married then she wont be mad for you telling her no. You should wait for the right person to come along.
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don't feel pressured to do something you already feel you might regret. things may be fading with your friend but this isn't the right answer. reflect on your morals or your principles that you think are key. i'm thinking since you already have second thoughts about fooling around with this this guy and your friend you should not do it. if you want things to stop fading with your friend, suggest going shopping or something else that's fun that might help you stop fading away from each other
good luck!
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Well, before jumping into any sexual situation, you should make sure everyone discusses and agrees on the answers to the following questions:
1. How far do you want to go? You said "no sex", but does that include oral sex?
2. Birth Control and what to do if it fails.
3. STDs. How often are you going to get tested for them, and how are you going to prevent transmission between tests?
4. Outside Partners. Is it ok for one or both of them to engage in sexual activity with someone not in the trio? Is it ok for you to look for a boyfriend? How far can you go with a potential date before needing to notify them or get their permission?
5. Inside Partnering. Would it always be you with both of them, or would it sometimes be you with only one of them? Would it be primarily them with you as an occasional thing, or would it always be the three of you? Are you both his girlfriends, equally important, or is she his primary? Is your loyalty to both of them equally, or mainly to your best friend? What about on her part - does she value your relationships equally, or is one more important?
6. Sexual attraction. If there's no spark, it's not going to develop just because it would be convenient. As a general rule everyone should be attracted to everyone else that they're involved in sexual activity with.
OK, I think I've given you enough to think and discuss. If you want to discuss it more, or want clarification on any of these topics, please feel free to ask. :)
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I think that you shouldn't listen to anyone but yourself. Follow your heart.
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I would say that if you are already having doubts then you should not do it. Sexual activity can cause a lot of chaos! You could end up getting pregnant or getting an STD. Sex is something you have to be 100 percent sure about. If not, then your not ready. Also, just think about what could happen to your friendship. I dont know about your friend, but it would creep me out to think of someone else doing things with my boyfriend. Hope this helps and I hope you make the right choice.
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ok? so she wants yall to do a three sum? well.... if i was u, i wouldn't do it because if the dude doesn't wear a condom (etc....) one of yall could get pregant (or both yall)so just leave it alone.
hoped i helped!!!!
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ok..... if you, her boyfriend, and her start doing sexual things together then your friendship will totaly be differnt. I mean how can you look at her the same knowing that you did a sexual thing together and her boyfriend what if he starts likeing you while yall are doing these sexual things. And worst of all... What if he tells his friends that he had a 3some and yall business gets around.You should really tell her no to this because if you, her boyfriend, and her start doing sexual things together you won't be just be best friends with her, you'll be friends with benefits think about it. And that will never improve your fading friendship.
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I don't think its such a good idea. Will make enemies of you in the long run. I think you would regret it big time! I think you should stay as far away from this situation as possible.
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Well if you 2 are like really good friends there should be no reason someone should get mad or anything like that 4 a stubid reason or ne thing. So if you really want to do it then...just be like i know i promised you i would do......but i dont have ne one to do it with i dont have a bf wut do i do? and then she would answer and tell her you want to do it with someone you like or something ya know? Keep ur friendship close hang out more.
hope i helped good luck tell me how things went and if u need ne more advice just give me a ring =)
sunny411
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You are already having problems. Don't fold on your beliefs for a few minutes of pleasure. You will not feel good about this at all. You will create a rift between you and her for starters. You can get pregnant or a disease from this kind of behaviour. Even with a condom. You will find someone, don't lose your patience now.
This is not a healthy way to have any sort of relationship. Later, you will feel creepy around them anytime you meet up because you wonder if they want you to do that again. And it makes you feel like a slut.
She may get mad at you, but you really don't need this kind of friend to pressure you into things you shouldn't do.
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