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best friend issues
My best friend & I have known eachother about a year. We have the best times together, have alot in common and even look alike. The problem is she has some bad qualities. She only talks about her problems and thinks they are worse and bigger than anyone else's. She is extremely sensitive and defensive. When I bring any of this up, she flips on me, thinks I'm wrong and being hurtful. It seems like I can never get a word in about my life at all! How do I get her to listen to me for once, without hurting her feelings?
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Next time you are talking, just talk about your problems. When she butts in and starts telling you hers, listen. But instead of discussing what she said, go right back to talking about yourself, totally ignoring what she said before. After a few times she will hopefully get the message. She's supposed to be there for you too.
Lovely.
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It will seem rude...and well is really, but it may work. Next time you are talking, just talk about your problems etc. When she butts in and starts telling you hers, listen. But instead of discussing what she said, go right back to talking about yourself, totally ignoring what she said before. After a few times she will hopefully get the message. She's supposed to be there for you too. Your friendship with her is sort of one sided at the moment! :)
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Sit her down and say _____ I need to talk to you. Tell her that she is your best friend but you fell like you can never get anything in your life out there. Tell her that you think she should let you geta few words in every now and then.
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Ok, I think I might know who this is but I'm not sure. If these are you're initials IM Lily: W.T.H. Look, I'm really sorry for being like this and I am trying HARD to make a difference. You really mean a lot to me and I don't want to lose this amazing relationship that we have. You are my best friend in the world and I don't know what I would do without you...
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You say that your frtiend and you are so alike and that you have this GREAT time with her, but it sounds to me like thats not true. How can you have good time when she is sooo conceded? I think that you better hit the road and fast.
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