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me and my friend have been best friends since 8th grade...were now in 12th grade and as the school year is coming to an end and were going to be graduating i feel like now is the chance that we need to hang out and reminice on our inside jokes and everything. the problem is..she has a fiance..she is 18 yrs old n has only been going out with this kid for 4 months... they spend every minute of there lives together and its like there is no need for me anymore. Well i've talked to her about this so many times i've decided to just give up. So i started to just hang out with my other friends. Well all of a sudden she said to me "it feels like were not friends anymore" and i said well why do you feel like that and she said " because we dont talk alot n stuff". Well the thing is everything i try n talk to her she just says oh were still friends and goes on her way. Everytime i try and hang out with her it's either oh im doing something with Russ tonight (thats her fiancee) or its well u can hang out with us if u want. I dont want to be the third wheel..yes i have a boyfriend but she doesn't like him so what am i supposed to do about that? im trying to please everyone but its not working. And when i try to just hang out with her and just me and her its like her fiancee gets all mad at me and everything. I really don't know what to do!!! can someone please help!!?
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You need to tell her this. You will soon be graduating.She will be getting married soon.Once people get out of high school they usually go thier seperate ways and don't see each other a whole lot.So maybe she could take the time to give you at least one night of just you girls for old times sake.Soon you won't have the time.I hope all works out well.
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Talk to her. I had this same problem with a close friend of mine and I lost her, regretfully. I wish now that I had taken her aside and told her clearly how I felt. Ask your friend to set some time aside just for you two, a girl's night out. Her fiance needs to realize that she has a life outside of him.
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If her fiance was a good guy maybe he will talk to her and say..."hang out with your friends tonight..you guys have some catching up to do." You've been working really hard to make everyone happy..but its your senior year! Theres only one of those..so you gotta live it up! What im saying is..take one more shot at this by talking to her fiance..or having someone whos close to you and her fiance to talk to him. Maybe he'll realize that she needs to get out with her friends..and i think she'll listen to him if he says "go ahead and hang out with your friends." I've seen it happen to many times...girls just dont know how to balance a guy and their friends..and when they break up..the girl goes running back to her friends. You've done your job by trying to get her to hang out with you..after you make one more attempt by talking with her fiance..i would give it a rest. Hopefully she'll come around and listen..if she doesnt and she deicdes to neglect your friendship..its her choice (which is the wrong choice) She'll regret it later..but in the mean time..make sure you hang out with your other friends and have the time of your lives!
-melis
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I think that you should stop trying to please everyone at the same time, and just be yourself. Nobody can please everybody that comes into their life all at once. Maybe you should talk to Russ, and tell him that you want to hang out with your bestfriend by yourself WITHOUT him around and without him gettin mad at you for it. I mean she was your bestfriend before she was his fiance. Tell them both that you feel like he is taking your best friend away from you and that you really dont want to lose her at all. I did that with my bestfriend who had a fiance and then it helped and he didnt let her take him from me.
HOPE I HELPED!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
signed:~DeSy~
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