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Broken Up, But Not Hurting (That Much)
Recently, I broke up with my boyfriend (I ama female, if you were wondering). I'm 16 and he is 15. Although, it was a teenage relationship, we did love each other. It might not have been that deep and meaningful kind where people get married, but it was love nonetheless. Whenever we hung out, I'd get butterflies and I would be happy, something I haven't felt in a while. Towards the last few days before I broke up with him, he wasn't really there. I felt like he was avoiding me, he wouldn't tell me anything when I did ask him, and we barely talked. Then the day before I did end it, he told me he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me or not, which made me decide to end it. On the day we broke up, I cried...a lot. Then, that was it. Every now and then I'll think about him and get a bit sad, but otherwise I am very happy. Being as he was my first love, I relaized there will be others and that I should move on, and I am trying to be positive.I can't help but feel guilty that I am not that sad over our breakup. Any advice?
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I think thats just a normal feeling and your just getting used to the breakup i dont doubt that you dont have feelings for him because im sure you do but your just accepting the fact that you arent with him anymore and your just not letting it blow you over. Your story sounded pretty identical to mine except he dumped me yesterday :( but im sorry about all this and i hope things get better but you shouldnt feel guilty-trix
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dont feel guilty you shouldent it just mean that you were better off with out him thats all and your now happier then you were with him
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Don't feel guilty. If you weren't happy with the relationship, there was no need in prolonging it. The fact that you aren't miserable over the breakup and that you are content right now just proves that you have made the right decision. You can't control how you feel, and you can't make yourself feel sad about something you aren't sad about. It's too bad he decided he couldn't be friends anymore, but that is his loss. You obviously feel you made the right decision, and you seem like a very mature girl. Every breakup doesn't have to have a long, drawn-out recovery period...so be glad that you were able to move on quickly! Hope I helped...
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Good for you for braking up and thinking of positive. I know braking up with our first love is hard but you have to and sure you'll be sadder then you have ever been but you did good thinking of positive and more. And it was a good thing you did brake up you both didn't seem to pleased with each other.>3 Chrissie
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You did the best thing in breaking up with him. It was obvious niether of ur where happy in the relationship. I think you need to let go of feeling guilty about being happy adn just be happy. xx
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Well, if you are happier, obviously the break up was a good choice. Sadly to him, it wasn't. But, you guys hanging out with him not being over you, is probably not too good. You'll keep leading him on, and it will hurt him even more. But, I am thinking that you just might be more than past the halfway mark of being over him. But, the break up sucked, so, maybe you guys could talk it over and tell him why you broke up with him, sounds like to me you left him high and dry with no answer or explaination of why you broke up. To him, it was probably more than love. But, you should talk to him, and work things out, and maybe next time if he says he doesn't know if he wants to be with you, talk to him, don't just put an end, you have to ask him why. Whether it be another girl, just not ready for dating, no longer into you, or any others, you should know, and its better to talk. So please talk to him, and be calm with him.
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Not sayin that you dont know how you feel, but for you to be able to break up with him even tho liked him, you are a very strong girl, most of us would just wait it out for them to end it. At least you got the hint when he said he wasnt sure anymore about you and him. And how your not all sad and stuff, more than likely you just love him, but your not IN love with him, theres sort of a difference. But your right he was prolly your first love, and theres more to come, so just keep being positive no matter hard your life gets, and sooner or later, all that bein positive will pay off. Just some random advice, dont ever let a guy get to you, cause their never worth it.
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Not sayin that you dont know how you feel, but for you to be able to break up with him even tho liked him, you are a very strong girl, most of us would just wait it out for them to end it. At least you got the hint when he said he wasnt sure anymore about you and him. And how your not all sad and stuff, more than likely you just love him, but your not IN love with him, theres sort of a difference. But your right he was prolly your first love, and theres more to come, so just keep being positive no matter hard your life gets, and sooner or later, all that bein positive will pay off. Just some random advice, dont ever let a guy get to you, cause their never worth it.
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