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i dont want to be mean....
I think the way I come off to people is just mean and that I don't like anyone. Today I heard some kid say (about me) "Yeah, she hates everyone" and that is not true. I tend to tell people to shut up and I guess I'm not the nicest person... so how do I begin to change? I don't want to seem a rude, hateful person anymore!
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start to talk to people more and become friends with people then let them get to know u and they can end up seeing that u arent so bad after all
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sry, taht is prolly like the worst feeling in the world when people think you hate everyone. neways, first off i think its great that you realize that its time for a change and obviously, you'll do what it takes to change! whenever you see someone you dont like, ignore them, do you know what i mean? like, dont exactly BEfreind them, but stay neutral. You need to make friends with everyone. Nerds,gothic people,preps,the whole shabang. you never know when u will need their help. compliments will help someone like you. if you notice a necklac eyou love on someone who doesnt no you, say you like it to their face and there you go, you have someone who thinks your nice! good luck! - shelby
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just do what I do, focus your inner rage and anounce that you will petition the pope to launch a crusade against your hated adversary.
choose a pacifist group, like penguins or something.
-hitler
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Okay everyone already told you "don't be mean, think before you say 'shutup'" etc so I'm gonna give you some more tips. For one, smile. It makes you seem more friendly and approachable. Second, don't cross your arms when you talk to people. It makes you seem like you don't want to open up to them. Put your hands in your pockets, or just do something else with them. Having your arms uncrossed makes you seem more approachable also. Third, make eye contact, and listen when others are speaking. Every once in a while, nod, or say "uh huh" or "yea" so the person knows you are paying attention and care about what they have to say. Fourth, don't wear dark colors. Wearing bright colors makes you seem more cheery and friendly. If you need any more help, leave one in my inbox. Hope I helped!! And remember to SMILE!!! :-D
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I tend to be mean sometimes but I'm really not. I know I can control it but then again, I can't. Before you are about to tell someone to "Shut up", think before you actual say it and come up with another way to make this person not talk. You do need to change and changing takes time. Start being friendly with everyone and greet people in the hall. If someone needs something like a pencil or pen, lend them one. You just need to be nicer and people will then see that you aren't that rude and a hateful person. Don't worry, there are tons of other people that are even meaner and you are no where close to that. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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well, if you want someone to talk to in class just say hey, im really tryin to pay attention but i dont understand it can u help me? And ask that person to sit at lunch with you. try not to use the word shut up as much and try giving atleast 5-10 complements to people. Things will flow from there. I have more suggestions if u wanna leave one in the inbox ill help you.
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Being mean is not a personality defect.. It's a way of life.. If you stop.. you will most certainly die.. so be mean as much as possible!
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I think.....think before you speak. Sometimes, people don't want to hear exactly what's on your mind. I'll give you props for realizing your problem and trying to fix it. Just work on keeping some things to yourself.
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well be nicer to people or get more friends it will give people a better impression.
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just think before you speak... before you come off and yell SHUTUP! think about it and be like can you please be quiet... say hi to people that you dont usually... all you really can do is try!
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You have to change. You can start to be nice and caring about people. Try to help people out and show them you are not rude and don't hate anyone. This will be on your reputation. You don't want to look back later on and say that everyone thought you hate them and was rude. Begin to change. Hope i helped.
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