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Well I have this best friend I have known since 1st grade. We were always together. Well as we got older we started not to talk. And now that I am in Jr. High I never even see her all that much. Well just not that long ago, I heard some news about her that really hurt my heart. She has been involved with drugs. And when I say drugs I mean the really bad stuff. The next day I pulled her aside and told her how much I was worried and that if she needed help I was willing to give it a try. But unexpected she took it the wrong way and started yelling and saying how I need to say out of her life and that noone can help her. And so I dont know what to do at this point! I really dont wanna see a best friend of mine ruin her life infront of me. What do I do???
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I think you should write a long letter saying how you meant it when you told her she was worried, but I doubt that will work too, so theres really not much you can do about that.
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shes in denial- she needs a friend and she needs help. she wont admit it- but she does. remember.
even if she gets mad at you- in the future- she'll thank you- if not out loud- in her hear- youre doing the right thing to help her or tell someone
xoxo-
Kels!
always here for ya!
at least you'lll know youre right and you did the right thing! :):):)
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This is a time where she needs you most, so no matter how much she tries to push you away, continue to pursue your friendship. And although it may seem to kill your friendship now, her parents need to know about this. If you cant get her to tell them herself, you or your parents should tell them. The best way for her to get help is through her parents. However she treats you, be supportive.
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tell her again, but say it in a diiferent way and if she still yells and shouts at you, then say that she's taking it the wrong way and ive her a bit of space.
hope that helped love nicki xxxx
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First of all, I would not try to work my way into her life or befriend her again. The two of you grew apart, which is completely natural. Trying to suddenly become her friend again once you find out that she's in trouble makes you look pedantic and patronizing.
On the other hand, you probably can't go to her friends, because it's likely that, if she is quite into drug usage now, her friends will be similarly engaged.
Therefore the friendship route is out. What this leaves you with, for the most part, is telling someone who has some control over her life - her parents, most likely. When you can secure some concrete evidence and/or multiple people who will attest to your old friend's bad habits (parents aren't that likely to put lots of trust in a random kid saying "Your daughter's on drugs. Bye."), gather them together and make a strong case before her parents.
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People make a lot of mistakes that cant be helped with. Its great of you that your trying to help her but she will just have to find it out on her own wut shes doing is wrong even if it can ruin her life. Talk to a guidance counselor about like secretly callign ur friend to her/his office and talk to her about drugs and stuff. Good Luck to ur friend.
~Brina~
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Well if I were you i would tell a counselor at school. I would also call her and try and talk to her and find out why she is doing drugs. If she lives close enough then i would walk to her house and try to talk. if this doesnt work then you might have to let her do her own thing for a while unless it gets to bad!!! good luck email me: lilflirt180@yahoo.com
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I know this might sounsd really mean but you need to either tell your parents or tell her parents. She obviously needs help. Or you could talk to one of her other friends and get exactly whats going on. Good luck nd i mean it! xO ali
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