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okay theres this and she kind of used to be my friend (we don't go to the same school and shes a grade lower than me) and she is a total prep (you can ask anyone and they'll tell you shes a bizotch), so i guess thats why were not friends anymore. I skateboard and i wear stuff from like zumiez, pac-sun, and somtimes hot topic, and she shops at like abercromie, A.E, and those stores. well the other day she shows up at this place wearing the same shoes as me (grey & pink etnies) and i was like "you don't skateboard" and she said shes learning, so i asked what kind of skateboard she has and she said she didn't have one. hmm... how do you learn without a skateboard? and none of her friends have skateboards cuse there all preppy bizotches too. then i saw her at youth group and she had on the same frikin pants as me too! (they were dickie's skateboarding pants) and then shes like "oh! look jeanine!! we almost have the same outfit!" and she was wearing this abercrombie shirt with it that looked so with the rest of her outfit. she tries to hang out with me 24/7... she calls me to talk about "skateboarding" and she doesnt even know what an ollie is. and she buys the same cds as me AND she got her hair cut and highlighted almost exactally like mine! HOW DO I TELL HER I DON'T LIKE HER TRYING TO BE LIKE ME AND FOLLOWING ME AROUND EVERYWHERE? AND THAT SHE SHOULD STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE SHES NOT?? help please. thanks.
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HOW DO I TELL HER
"I DON'T LIKE HER TRYING TO BE LIKE ME AND FOLLOWING ME AROUND EVERYWHERE? AND THAT SHE SHOULD STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE SHES NOT??"
--- tell her that?
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You should be honnored!!
You're soo cool that she wants to be just like you! :)
xoxo-
Cupcake
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It sounds like you don't have a problem with being her friend...just with her copying you. If that's the case, why don't you ignore these silly labels? Friendship is so much more important than funding these super rich stores any way. Have you thought about maybe doing something she's into? If she's prep maybe she's smart? Maybe you could do an exchange, skateboard lessons for homework help or something?
Just try to look past all this surface stuff and into what really matters, seems to me like this other girl is pretty sweet, and obviously willing to get out of hercomfort zone to be friends with you...I'd feel privilegged!
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ok maybe she is just trying to be your friend again. it shouldnt matter if she is a skater or a prep. you guys were friends before so why cant you just put your differences aside and get along again. just becuase yins didnt dress the same as each other, doesnt mean that you should of threw away your friendship. and you dont have to be skater to wear etnies, and dickies and shop at pac sun. and you dont have to be a prep to wear and shop at AE, or A&F. Prep and skater are just labels that people give you. But heaven for bid if you should mix the too cause all hell would break lose. It shouldnt matter how the person dresses or what music they listen to.. what matter is what the person is really like. People need to grow up and quit judging people just because of how they dress. You know what she was like when you were friends. All you need to do is explain to her that you will be willing to try and work your differences out and that she doesnt need to change who she is for you two to be friends. And if she really does want to learn to skate then maybe you should offer to help er learn... what... What would it hurt? But if you're that shallow to see past her clothes then just tell her to fuck off because it would never work.
hope this helps. Dont mind the bluntness.
Good Luck and have fun.
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okay first of all, i have those etnies and im not a skater either..you don't have to skate to wear them..and i love those pants..but im not a skater..okay but anywas..she probably just wants to be your friend again and be more like you since thats why you arent friends or she wants to learn to skateboard! you should try to teach her or something..
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i really don't tihnk its her fault. she probably wants to change from the preppy bizotch to a skate but she's only half way there. she has the right to dress the way she does and if it makes herself confident then i don't see why you should get anoyed. your judging and thats bad sorry. but if she starts annoying you tell her you need your space like a 2-3 day break or something clear your mind. but i would be flattered if someone tried to do that to meh i mean she is liking your look!
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You won't like this but, did it ever occur to you that (1) imitation is the greatest form of flattery and (2) she might be trying to be a friend to you again? From what I gather, she was a friend once. Hey, I've an idea. Why don't you teach her -- privately -- how to skateboard?
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Not to be mean but your friend can wear any type of clothes she wants to and can be a skateboarder if she wants. Maybe she thinks that u being a skateboarder is cool and thinks it wouls be interesting to try.
~Brina~
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