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break up
ok....i no its right before christmas...but is it rude to dump my boyfriend... i mean i don't like him anymore...im worried about breaking up because im worried he'll do stuff to himself...he said he would try suicide if we ever broke up....but at the same time im not happy! PLEASE HELP ME!
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Let him down easy if you know his parents tell them the situation. im sure they will take away all his pointy objects and stuff. And its your life hun, you gatta do what you gatta do. <3 American Girl
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You shouldn't let another person's problems interfere with your own life. If you're not happy, then just break up with him! But make sure you let him know it is for the best for BOTH OF YOU because it wouldn't be fair for either one of you if you guys were going out when the feelings weren't mutual. Maybe you could even try to find another girl for him.
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I THINK it is to late for the christmas thing because he probably already got a really nice gift for you... so i say fight through it for a couple more weeks... but when you do break up LET HIM DOWN EASY... make it seem like there is still a chance for you two to go out again (but you know there won't be, but he won't know that) just be really nice about it and make him feel real special when you do it... now normally i wouldn't say something like this but i would just be nice cause you don't want to force this kid to hurt himself... oh i thought of a decent excuse i know it is overused but it really works ... just tell him (you would say something like) "well i was thinking about it, and i would much rather have you as a friend, because i want you to be there for me when times go bad," and tell him "i would rather have us break up before we get more attached to each other, and i would rather us still be friends after we break up, than be at each others throats" but just try to be as nice as possible...because it sounds like this kid has got some problems that he needs to work out himself... and after you do break up keep a firm grip on your stance... because i guarantee he will try to tell you some dumb things that will make you feel bad for him... but jsut listen to him... AND REMEMBER BE AS NICE AS POSSIBLE...
hope i helped
good luck
kev
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wow, that's tough to answer. You should take him out on a final date to like a restraunt just you and him. Then slwoly tlk to him about how you feel and how you worry about him. Take everything smoothly and slowly, everything will be alright. You should always be happy with you self, hopw i helped....luv always roxy<33
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Heh, I agree with those who said to go through with the break up. Anyone who is stupid enough to commit suicide after a break-up, especially in their teenage years...well, let's just say it's hard for me to shed a tear over it. Do you really think that kind of mental instability could produce a productive member of society? Granted, not everyone who has any kind of mental problem won't succeed, but it's the extreme cases such as this that make me hang my head in shame for the human race.
Most likely, however, he is using that as an excuse to keep you from breaking up. 999,999 times out of 1,000,000 that is the case. He thinks that he can control you, and keep you with him, with empty threats. Prove him wrong. Show him you know the game he is playing, and that you can play it better.
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oh my, i dont know anything about you but i felt exactly how you do now about 3 months ago. I had been dating a guy for about 3 weeks and he took a vacation to a foreign country. We lost our closeness and i was no longer interested. I broke things off and he talked a lot about suicide. I told him that because i didnt want to be with him didnt mean i didnt care for him, and we kept talking occasionally so he knew i didnt dislike him as a person, just as a boyfriend. When he came home we continued our friendship and i let him know that he did nothing wrong, but the relationship was just not right for me. So talk to him about your reasons for the relationship split and be sure to tell him you're still there for him no matter if you're a couple or not.
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Well that can be touchy just make sure you remain goooooooood friends! You dont want to put someone in that possession! but if you think he was serious i would tell someone about that cuz that can be a serious cry for help. But i think it was 75% of the people that talk about it dont actually do it and the people that dont say anything about it and dont show signs do do it. So maybe this one is serious but you judge on your own! but dont keep leadin him on though cuz that can be mean
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Let him kill himself.
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