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help! (original huh)
my mother 2 months ago got married, to a man she met over one of those dating websites, hes from england, and in the one week he came over to visit, they married. he left for a couple a weeks, and now he will be here till january. hes been here for 2 months so far, and hes annoying my mom, (me also) and he won't pull his weight, and hes not helping with bills or anything, so now my mom said if he doesn't bring in his money for a job he got then shes divorcing him in january. well with that now said how do i explain to my friends, that now i prolly wont be going to england, and that my mom is going to be divorcing the man that she recently married, and met over the internet... its put so much stress on me about my mom coming to talk to me about how she can't stand him, and my grades are slipping and shes mad about that, but she doesn't realize shes putting it on me... what do i do?
-sometimes im miserable, but thats so typical-
-but of all the things i am-
-i am beautiful-
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You probably don't want to but tell your mom that her talking about all this stuff is to much for you. She just doesn't realize it bc of all her stress.
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it's kind of none of your friends business. if you really want to tell them then just tell them the truth.
Now w/ the mom thing...just tell her that she's stressing you out and that you jsut need some time by yourself every once in a while to get things done and sort things out.
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just tell your friends that your mom thought she married a diffrent person, and that they might not be able to compramize with each others diffrences. They are your freinds and they should still like you if you were going to england or not. Good luck! Hope i helped.
<3 Amelia
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I wouldn't get into specifics with your friends until you know what's actually going to happen - after all, you don't want to keep telling them stuff that's wrong. I'd stick to general things...'We're not sure when or if we're moving,' etc.
As far as your mom goes, I would talk to her. Perhaps she doesn't realize how much pressure she's putting you under; you need to let her know that while you love her, you don't want to be the one to hear all about her relationship problems. Let her know you feel the situation is affecting your grades, and that you don't want to jeopordize your education.
Finally, is there someone at school who can offer you extra support? Perhaps a school counselor who can just let you vent for a few minutes each week? Can you arrange to go over to friends' houses after school and do your homework there? If so, you'll be able to study mom-free. Otherwise, you can always stay after school.
Obviously, the perfect solution is that your mom will magically let up her pressure on you, but she's human too. I think if you are open and honest with her things will improve; I also think you need to take responsibility for your grades and make arrangements for working at a friend's, library, or school.
Best of luck.
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tell her the truth and explain to her that it puts stress on u with ur school work and other stuff 2. and tell her if she h8s the guy so much then divorce him she doresnt want to be with sum1 who doesnt pull his weight around the house.
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