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Okay i`ve lived here in *fL* for 15 years..i love it here and my dad has had over 20 jobs in the past 10 years. He wants to move somewhere else like southcarolia...or north carolina..that means i'd have to leave all my friends that have been there for me..my boyfriend that i have the best relationship with..and i also lose my scholorship AND my mom loses her retirement..all for a couple more dollars a month. Okay i am in my EARLY years of teenage years and he`s taking everything that a teenager reallllly needs away to a place where i don`t know ANYONE!...anyone have any suggestions to say to him? =( Plz help!
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oh man..i lived in Florida for 10 years..left for Sc..just say no..tell your dad he WILL hate it here...oh man..hate it!!If he is not from the South..he will never be accepted like me..and unless he will get a really great job and live in a good school district..YOUR life will be hell too.
Seem to me your dad is a serial job seeker..been one so I can totally call it that. Does he get bored often? Sit him down and tell him what you told us..what it will do to everyone..not just him...the cost of living is less here..but the property taxes on the CAR..yes the car..THEY tell you what it is worth and the state tax..take away any money he may make.
Trust me..if sc is the place tell him..JUST say no!!
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ok tell him excatlly wht u told me! just be open tell him how it isnt worth a couple more dollars. u need to expres how u feel it would hurt ur life if he took the job. and i know its hard but if u dont be completely open then he will never know how u feel and that is the worst case senario...GOOD LUCK!@
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Ultimately, the decision really isn't up to you. I would write out everything you just said in list form, and then I would ask your parents to sit down with you. Try to have a serious talk with them. Let them know your concerns. Do this without yelling or being accusatory - they won't be able to take you seriously if they are immediately put on the defensive.
As another adult, I'm thinking that your dad moving for a new job really doesn't have to happen - it sounds like he wouldn't keep it anyway. Even if that's the case, I would be very careful about how I worded it.
If you think you cannot talk to them without getting emotional, type out a letter explaining what you think. It'll give you the chance to air all your frustrations without the fear of crying, getting into an arguement, etc. Make sure you let BOTH parents know how you feel.
Good luck.
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Tell him exactly what you just told me, and prove your point that way. Hopefully, your point will get across and you'll be staying in florida. Hope I helped! -Kayla
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I really think he would understand you more if you sounded like you were thinking for him too, like offer to do something simple to help him get work done maybe. You never know...maybe he's just stressed and needs someone there to help figure stuff out with him...give him a whole bunch of reasons why you shouldn't move.
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tell him how good of a life you have now and you rly dont wanna screw things up tell him its not good for your social life to be moving around soo much or such a distance away from where your comfortable
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Just tell him that you don't want to leave everyone you have there. And tell him about your mom losing her retirement and stuff, and that it would be a big deal to move for just a little more money..Hope I helped
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