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My step-mom hates me. Apology for lenghth :(
15/m
I'm having trouble with my step-mother because she makes it painfully obvious that she doesn't want me around. I've got one brother one step-brother and two step-sisters, and me and my real brother always get put down and have to do all the work in the house.She always complains at me and blames me for everything she also treats me horribly and she makes me feel sooo depressed...
I know this sounds like a whole lot of complaining but I am a sensitive person and I need to sit my dad down and have a talk with him about my step-mother. Her complaining has gotten me to the point of attemped suicide a couple of times. But I can never see him because he is always at work and when he is home I can't build up the courage to sit him down to talk. :(
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You're right about needing to talk to your dad. If you can't work up the courage to speak with him - or find the time - why not write a letter??
Letters are fabulous because you can make sure you hit up every sngle point which is bothering you, what you think should be done, your emotions, your thoughts. Let him know about the depression and suicidal thoughts. Let him know you care for him and hope he'll help you figure out a good way to deal with everything.
This might mean your family getting some counseling. Adults and kids coming together in blended families have a LOT of issues to work through, and they can be so sensitive or angry that only a third party can help them out.
Take the first steps and make yourself heard. It's up to YOU to make sure your feelings are heard and considered.
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Your situation sounds awfully like the one my boyfriend has with his stepdad. Stepdad always tries to make life hard for my guy and all that jazz.
Suicide is NEVER the answer. You'd be giving her what she seems to want! Wouldn't you rather make life harder for her? Lol I know I would...
Sorry, back to the question - You do need to talk to your dad. When he's home, you just have to take a breath and say "I wanna talk to you" before you can stop yourself. It's like over IM, when you type something, are about to hit the delete button, then push enter before you can stop yourself. That's what I do every time I lack the courage to do or say something. Just gather up all your courage - he's your dad. Chances are you've had to tell him worse stuff than "My stepmom appears to hate me, and is causing me a lot of depression."
If you really can't get to your dad, it might actually be easier to talk to your stepmom about this. I know she's probably the last person you want to ask "why do you seem to hate me?" but you may have to go straight to the source of the problem to fix this one.
If you decide to talk to her, let her know what's on your mind and that you don't like what she's doing. However, do try not to be accusatory. That could result in a fight, and fights aren't fun.
I hope this helped on some level - I'm good with family problems, so if you want more help, this is what I'm here for.
-Siren =)
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you should definitely sit him down and talk to him about your step-mother tell your dad exactly how you feel and how she is treating you. as soon as you get a chance to talk to him you need to think about all the crap your step-mother has been putting you through and try to build up the courage to sit him down and tell him. you really need to tell him about theis if you have thought about suicide. if he doesnt believe you get a video camera and hide it in one of the rooms you are in the most with your stepmother and record it and then show your dad. then he will have to believe you. P.S. sorry for makin it so long
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OK this is something important, u need to get ur ass up and tell ur dad, its ruining ur relationship with him and with urself, tell him everything and have ur brother tell him to , and dont let that stepmom of urz get away with this to many people get remarried and 4 get about there kids, let ur dad no he is all u have and need him in ur life...u have so much life and great htings ahead of u dont ever try to do anytnhing to urself u would regret and maybee if u talk to ur stepmom about ur feelings she might get a hint..hope i helped xoxo tessa
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You seriously need to talk to him about it, if he doesnt believe you, just refuse to do the work that your told to, and nothing will get done, because your steps dont do anything, and he'll realize that you and your brother always do everything. *make sure you get your brother to not do anything also*
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This sounds like a CInderella Story to me. Either she is reading to many fairy tales or shes's just plain wicked. Maybe you and your "real" brother should BOTH sit down with your dad and if he is not willing to listen do what the Brady Bunch did and have a whole family meeting and see where that goes. Remember suicide isn't the answer. You feel the pain for a short period of time but everyone aroudn you feels it for much longer. GOOD LUCK!
<3 Jess
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you have to talk with him...maybe write him a note or something. but sucide is not the answer. i know..i've tryed as well. but you deffinitly need to talk to him. maybe he'll see whats going on and talk to her about it. or talk to your brother about it if you want. maybe he can say something like "have you seen the way shes treating him? its not right" or something like that. but dont kill yourself. hope i helped.
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This is a difficult situation. You need to get the courage to sit them both down together with your brother also, and confront them. Have your brother by your side to help you along. Don't say much to your step mother just to your dad. Don't let her yell or walk away, and show your dad that his wife is hurting you in many ways. Maybe bring a small tape recorder with you and record one of your conversations where she is being mean to you to show to your father. I hope I helped.
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