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i cry to the point where i want to die..
im 18 and my sister is 24. me and my sister dont get along much. once in awhile, were fine, but other than that, shes always screaming at me. a lot of my friends dont like her, nor does my guy. as the years gone by, ive learned to adapt to the way she treats me, but lately, it has gotten too out of hand and it makes me cry a lot. i told her plenty of times before that she hurts my feelings and shed apologize, but the next day, she still treats me like shit. i know that sisters are supposed to be there for each other through thick and thin, but its more like i have her back and she just brings me down, because basically, she does. she makes my parents go against me, which causes me more pain. what should i do? ive tried talking to her numerous times, but that doesnt ever seem to work? help.. because its literally killing me inside..
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If she wont listen to you and always treats you like that then just dont let her speak to you. When she comes up to you tell her, until you learn to speak to me like a mature adult, I dont want to speak to you. Talk to your parents and ask them to speak to her. Dont let anyone ever put you down that badly. Walk away from her, if you dont say anything, she will eventually realize your too mature for this, and quit. GOod Luck.
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I know exactly what you mean. I have two older sisters, and sometimes I think that they just plain don't like me or want me around. But then there are little things they do that make me feel like, even if they don't show it, they love me.
You talk about how your sister treats you so horrible all the time. Aren't there SOME times that she has also done something nice for you? It may be hard to see at first, but try to think of just some little things that she has done. There are some. There are always some.
And I think I'd have to know what you mean by treating you like "shit." I think my older sisters do too, but my mom explained it as being a big sister thing. They want to boss me around because they feel they have to protect me. It doesn't make a whole lot of sense until after you've thought about it for a while.
You should just tell your sister that being around her makes you feel really sad and you are in pain from how she treats you. Tell her you love her so much, but you feel somtimes like maybe she doesn't love you back. Add how much you want to be friends with her, and that maybe you both should make a pact not to fight with each other. And if one of you starts to get snappy, the other one just leaves the room for a minute so you both can get yourselves under control.
Good luck!
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I kno this might seem so obviouse to say but talk to ur relatives and if that doesn't help try to get into thrapy or sumthin like that. An eventually u'll get to the point to where ur parents and ur sister will go with u to therapy and they will finally here u out, and realize how much pain they put on u, espacially ur sister.
Hope everything works out!!!
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write her a letter explaning this to her. use examples of what she says thats hurting you. sometimes people need to see things in order for it to get stuck in their heads. tell her that you need a sister who loves and looks out for you right now and not a person that hurts you and makes you feel bad about yourself!
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I'm in a situation much like yours, and I have been my whole life. I always looked up to both of my sisters, and thought THE WORLD of them. I did everything for them to accept me, and sometimes they did, sometimes they didn't (I'm the youngest by the way) It took me SOO long, but I finally realized that I was never the screwed up kid, because that's what I thought. I thought I don't fit into my family, so I must be the failure, but really....
My sisters are two VERY selfconsumed people...perhaps it's the same way for you!? It seems like you do a lot for her but she's not willing to return the favor, and that isn't right. I learned to be like them (but only to them) when it comes to my sisters, I will do certain things for them, but I always sit and think would they EVERR do this for me!? and if they wouldn't I don't do it for them, I don't do it to be mean, but sometimes you can't just be the 'nice guy' if ya know what I'm saying. Also, take into consideration your sister's life...maybe something is bothering her, and just the same way you need to vent about your sister, she needs to vent about something as well, maybe you could ask her if something is bothering her when she yells at you rather then getting into an argument. Well, I dono that I helped, but it's the best I got and I hope I did some good! =)
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okay instead of talkin' to ur parents or ur sister talk to ur relatives or something and tell them how you feel and they will talk to ur parents which will talk to ur sister or if you know any of ur sisters friends and they like you or something maybe you should talk to them and they would say something to her
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you should try family counseling, maybe that will work. and you should have a really long talk with her and ask her why she treats you the way she does, maybe she doesn't realize she's making you feel this way.
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