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What should i do? help
my best friend changed so much in the past year. when i first met her she was almost prude and she was such a lil goody goody. she said she would never let a guy go up her shirt and how she would be afraid to jerk off a guy because she would think she'd hurt him lol. well she has been with this guy for about a lil bit over a year now. she has changed so much. she's drinking now, she has sex.. like too much sex (she does it with him every night like 3x) i really dont know what to do. i hate the fact that she has changed so much. all of our friends say the same thing and talk behind her back. they say stuff about how shes changed so much and how gross her and her boyfriend are when they are out in public with us. a little while ago her and her boyfriend were on me and my boyfriend's asses about how we hang out too much.. well now they are being hypocrits bc ever since they started having sex, they have been hanging out like everyday. i wonder if its because they wanna have sex? idk but i really need to say something but i dont know how.. what do you think?
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i kinda know what you mean, my best friend who ive known since i woz like 3, has turned into such a slag, having sex like all da time wit her bf's. she used 2 b luvly and really nice, now shes hangin round smokin and gettin pissed. I really wish she went back 2 how she used to be. Ive still stayed in touch with her but weve gone our separate ways, it is hard but if thats what she wants to do then you cnt change that, but i would talk to her and see if you can sort it out first. hope it goes alrite hun xxxxxxx
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My bestfriend was the same way! She still is. It drives me crazy because we use to be so close. I would spend the night at her house everyday and made sure our classes were perfectly matched up. We were like the sister we never had!! But this past summer it just chnged in the blink of an eye! She smokes drinks does druge i mean the whole 9 yards! She tells her mom shes sleeping at my house but she really goes to see this guy and has sex with him. I finally put my foot down and told her I had it! Shes completley changed and its like shes draggin me in. If she were to get caught her mom would probably think highly low of me for letting her lie and say she was at my house when really she was out drinking and havin sex with every guy she saw! To this day I see her huddled up with her group of druggie guys and she says hi but its not the same. I think I should of confronted her a longgg time ago. That was my biggest mistake ever!!! I wish I could go back and re-do it. So my biggest advise on this is to confront her and confront her now before things get WORSE! I lost my best friend to a bunch of druggies that take her for advantage!!! Sorry for the length of this but I hope I helped a little. If you want you can keep in touch besause I would like to hear more. I dont want you to lose out on one of your good friends over sex and drinking. to sum it up...stupid things she knows is wrong!
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Listen..I had a friend once EXACTLY like your friend..I had a rough time trying to talk to her Bcuz she was alwayz with her BF. It was hard for me Bcuz she started doing crack, smoked, drinked..HELLA!..and mostly every drug. It was very hard for me Bcuz I knew that she was a hypocrit! In the beginning I didnt really care Bcuz everyone was doing drugs but it did bother me that she was doing it. Later she started getting into it more and she started having sex ALL THE TIME! It was so scary! But then I couldnt handle it anymore I told her hey you know what everything that you are doing is REALLY Bugging me! I cannot do this if I know that you are going out having sex..doing drugs..and God knows what else! Please stop! Its alright if you have sex like once every 2 weeks and do weed like 1 time a week but hopefully you dont even do that shit at all! So if you are my friend and if you do love me..Then you will try your hardest to stop...she did try. But she didnt succeed. I stopped being her friend Bcuz I asked her to stop..I asked her if she loved me she would stop. No..I guess I asked 2 much. She almost died Bcuz of drugs. Shes in the hospital and I do go to see her..But I cant put all me trust to her. Thats what you should do..Talk and simply ask.
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My friend has been going out with a guy for almost three years now and they did everything backwards. They had sex before she did anything else to him. That was at 4 months. Now they get in atleast one fight every day and she's afraid they'll break up and she'll feel strange because she lost her virginity to him. So she trys to make it work by being with him all the time. This actually doesn't help anything. It just makes them more prone to fight. So I think your friend is trying to stay around him because she thinks if she leaves for a while he'll find something better and leave her. The drinking and everything else is probably just her way of dealing with the stress. Giving in to sex in a young relationship is a stressful thing and it can have a lot of different effects on the mind. She needs to wake up. Tell her, while you two are alone, that the way she's acting and what she's doing is hurting you and it's hurting herself. Ask her if you can go back to the old days of hanging out like normal people and if you can start it off with something like a girls night in, like watching movies or something, or a girls night out, like going to a new movie with an actor in it you both think is really hot. (Lol.) If this doesn't work then tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend over a guy, and remind her of how stupid it is to give it all up over a guy
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well do u LIKE the new her? if u don't just tell her that u don't want to hang out wit ppl like dat. if u do still want to be friends wit her explain y u don't like how she acts and how u feel when u r around them. maybe u shouldn't hang out wit her as much as u used to. but don't be harsh cuz remember it's her life and she can live it how she wants to. i hope i helped.
~Reenie~
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Ok hey this happened to me but without the sex part and the boy friend my best friend in a small amount of days she changed just like that became more bitchy preppy and trying to look all cool and acting slutish...what I did was send her an email send her a letter and talked to her on the phone not in person cuz I was about ready to punsh her lights out...she understood me very well and then became back my good friend for a weekend...lol...and if you tell her and it doesn't last well guess what she's changed purly oh and warn her that if she has alot of sex chances are the condom might break or sum and she might get pregnant which is very sad...just reason with her and be truth full to her u'll see u'll feel way better and includ the other pplz in ok?....cuz your not in this all by urself
hope I helped rate me plz
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ok well first thing its her life and if she and her bf want to have sex then its their choice. there is nothing you can do to change that. but just let her know that people are talking behind her back. and let her know what people say. and tell her that when she goes around telling ppl what happens between her and her bf to keel it on the DL. (down low, i case ya dint know). just tell her as a friend that you dont wanna see her get a bad rep. and your just concerned she might.
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