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im 13, and my dad is turning 60 soon. i know thats not too weird if you have older parents, but my mom is only 40. and my dad is overweight but he's losing a lot. he used to be 300 lbs now he's 260. i know that thats good for him. and his dad lived to be 85, and his mom is 80 and shes still living. but im so scared of losing him before i grow up because i know all my friend's dads will be walking them down the isle when they get married but im soo scared that he wont be there for mine. how do i stop worrying? and im scared i'll break down while im talking to him about it so how can i? thanks
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Hey sweetie GOD has a time for everyone to leave this world when HE calls them home!! Think about it this way in 10 years he will only be 70 and you will be 23 and 70 is kinda young just remeber GOD will call him home when its his time! Hope I helped! love ya lotz! ~*+Kayla+*~
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If you're afraid you'll break down, write him a letter. Don't mention death; be positive and say how happy you are that he's been trying to take better care of himself because you care about him. It'll mean a lot to him and he'll definitely be motivated to keep working on his health - especially if you mention the walking-down-the-aisle thing. Daddies are suckers for that.
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I have older parents too,so I can relate!I'm 20(almost 21) and my dad is 58.He's had problems w/weight and he's had heart trouble all my life(a heartattack when I was 5,triple bi-pass surgery when I was 15).It's hard I know.You worry about them so much.There have been nights when I've sat up all night listening to my dad snoring,cuz as long as he was snoring,I knew he was ok.Haha,it's those kind of weird irrational things you think of.I wish that there were some magic words I could tell you,but there aren't.As long as your dad is getting his health under control,and obviously he has genetics on his side,there's no reason he won't live to be 110,heehee!!You just cherish your dad,love him,and have fun with him!!!If you start to worry all the time he will see that in you,and then he'll worry about his little girl!!That's how daddy's are!!And if you spend your whole life afraid of,or trying to prepare for death,then you're not really living.Always remember that.If you need anything else,feel free to leave me a message in my inbox!! :)
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Don't worry about your Dad. He's taking perfectly good care of himself, and he's in great shape. You're only 13 - and you don't have to trouble yourself worrying about your Dad's health. I'm sure he'll be there for you to walk you down the isle =)
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He'll Be just fine dont worry about him, hes a big boy he know how to talk care of himself, and if he does pass, just remember he is in a better place, and when u do walk down the isle, wether or not hes there, he will always be there in your heart, you could also talk to him about it. Hope i helped
<3 Nicole
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Wow...this is probably the best question I've ever heard.
You're problem is very very common for teenagers. You're handleing it in a very mature way as well.
You don't need to worry about breaking dad in front of your dad. That's what our parents are here for. We can tell them everything, and no matter what...they'll usually forgive us for our sins...and He knows that you'll cry. You'll cry because you care a lot. So when you start the conversation out...you have to let him know how you feel about it at first. Don't refer it as in a wedding...but maybe graduation, or him taking you to college for your first day. Something along those lines. You of course can't turn back time, and be born in a different time, but...what you need to do..is make sure that he knows how you feel. If crying is involved...then, sweetie...That's normal.
I'm 18 and getting married in about a year...so the walking down the isle thing...ya. Planning a wedding, stinkS! *wink*
I hope I helped...and please just hang in there. It's alright to cry, especially in front of your dad, because you're still Daddy's little girl,a nd always will be! :) Have a great day sweetie! <3
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hey girl :D wow i have kinda the same thing going on - i'm almost 16 and my parents are 2 years shy of 60...so i know how you feel...my mom's mom died early, and my dad's dad died early...there's also health risks in the family...heart attacks, etc. so i know how you feel sometimes- if you want to talk to him...don't be scared of breaking down- it's totally ok to cry and he'll see how much you care even though he already knows it...more likely than anything he will be walking you down the aisle at your wedding...and never compare your parents to others- because no matter what, your parents will always be the best ever to you...and that's all that matters...i heard of girls whose dad's didn't live to walk them down the aisle and the girl's remembered their dads on that special day...no matter what he will always be with you walking you down the aisle and through life...whether he is physically there or there in spirits :D hope i helped ..good luck, let me know how you're doing!
<3 elle
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If you want to talk to your dad and are afraid of breaking down, why not write him a letter? You can say everything you feel without worrying about getting too emotional to finish talking.
The other thing is that to consider that anyone could die at any given age - just walking across the street is a risk. Your dad is minimizing his risks by losing weight; maybe he is realizing that he wants to be healthy and stick around as long as possible.
There's nothing any of us can do to make our parents live longer, and your best bet is to soak up as much of your dad's love as you can now. Tell him how much you love him - and don't forget to do the same with your mom - and be sure to live your lives together so you can have great memories to keep you warm when YOU are 80.
Worrying about this stuff can make you crazy - I know, I do it too - but it's ultimately pointless. You have to make a choice; do you want to worry about your dad dying all the time, or do you want to spend your time with him enjoying his life?
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