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Does It Hurt? >_<
My boyfriend and I have been together for months and we've decided to take our relationship to the next level by having sex.
I'm hesitant, though, because friends have told me that it hurts. I understand quite a bit about sex for my age. I know that if he goes slow at first, it won't hurt quite as much. But I still feel scared.
What should I do?
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The first thing you should do is think. It's excellent that you feel well informed about sex, but think about the emotional side of things as well. Sex changes a relationship forever, and it doesn't always end up the way the couple genuinely wished it would.
If you decide that sex is truly right for you (and by saying this, you acknowledge that you are losing your virginity to someone you will probably not end up with - sad to say, but look at the statistics), there are some things you can do.
Don't rush right into intercourse - spend a long time warming up. Have some lubricant on hand, and have him smooth some over his condom before trying to enter you. Have him move slowly and know that it WILL hurt; the more tense you are, the worse it will be. If needed, he can stop where he is and allow you to breathe in and out deeply a few times.
Finally, have excellent communication. You need to be able to tell him what will make the experience better. I'd talk with him beforehand as well.
Before any of this happens, though, I'd spend some time thinking about your fear. It could be a fear of the pain, or it could be a fear of the actual act of sex. Sex, at the right time, still hurts initially, but emotionally it shouldn't leave any scars.
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umm dont do it if your scared.. and yes it will be scary/fun?/hurt at the same time but if thats what you wanna do go for it.. just remember to have safe sex!
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well i think that you and your boyfriend should sit down and talk about it and if he's ready and your not and he threatens to leave you then he's not the right one for you becuz he should respect your actions and wait till your ready
love, sarah
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if you 2 really love e/o...then ull both take ure time. You both need to be open about what feels good and what doesnt.....if he starts to hurt u then tell him! dont be scared or ashamed...its good to be open about sex with ure partner...
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Well you have to know your ready! And i wouldn't do it if you are young b/c you may regret it your whole life! You can always talk to him about it to. Hope I helped!
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~Brooke~
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what the fuck, hey your friends are fucking with you why would it hurt only if your gay or somthing
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well it is true that it can hurt the first time during sex, because there is a layer of skin covering the vagina (a hymen) and it may hurt when penetrated. it is also true that it can be broken by tampons, or even masturbating, and some women are in fact born without one. you can help by streching it yourself with your fingers before you have sex(in private of course)
good luck
michelle
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yeah, its going to hurt no matter how fast or slow he goes. you cant really do anything about it
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whether he goes slow or not point blank that shit is gonna hurt. you're being basically ripped open. think about it. it hurts. theres no way to get around it.
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put in a tampon 2 pop ur cherry so it wont hurt!! lol bc i think it only hurts bc he would pop ur cherry but if u do it forst then it should be fine! n if it still hurts tell him it does n yall can figure out wut 2 do
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