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Complicated Relationships
I've been dating this guy for over a month now. Not very many people know about us because i know they wont accept us. I really want to tell people, but im afraid of their reaction.
Not many ppl like him cause he smokes pot and stuff like that. I was going to tell my older sister, but she said if its something shes not going to like .. dont tell her...
I sneak out a lot at night to see him. I'm talkin about 11:00 pm or midnight until 3 or 4 am. I dont get much sleep at night, and i have to get up EARLY (5:00am) for work.
What should I do? Should we just go ahead and tell people about us? or should we just keep dating "in the dark" Also, is there any other way we could see each other without being "caught"
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Ok girl you need to set a few boundaries. Really, when it comes right down, do you want to be dating someone who smokes pot? If you do want to go out with him just because you love his personality, you may want to ask him FOR YOU and YOUR RELATIONSHIP to try quitting. Tell him its only b/c you love him and you dont want to have to see him go. If he quits, it will be 1000 times easier to let the word out that you guys are going out. Another thing, if people know, then you can go out during the day and you dont have to be wandering the streets at late hours, which is kinda dangerous not to mention. If you dont want to ask him to quit, id keep things on the down low, b/c everything could head for mass destruction, but i dont recommend that half as much as my first piece of advice.
Good luck!
XoXO
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Let people know, and it would make your relationship with him much easier. Most people will understand the way you feel. If not, screw them.
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If you really like him, you woulnt care wut other ppl think. Let them think wut they want. And try going out earlier so you can have more rest. hope this helped! good luck!
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At the end of the day it you and him. Who cares what other people think. Maybe part of what makes it so good is that you 2 have to sneak around. I would just consider love love and let the rest of the world be damned
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You should tell people about him. If you really like him, tell your family that and they'll understand. They know that the heart doesn't know about age, money, race, religon, and status. It doesn't care if he does drugs or not, so why should your parents?
Maybe you can get him some help so he doesn't do drugs anymore. That might make your family feel better too.
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you shouldnt care wut other people think. if u really like this guy then u should be with him and if other people cant accept that then tahts their problem. and yea u should tell people cuz stayin up late and sneakin out will one day get u caught and u neeed ur sleep especially if u have a job at 5. so yea tell people because ur love is greater than wut a few people think.
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go and tell people... you cant spend the rest of your lives sneaking around... who cares what people think, hes your man not anyone elses and what he does doesn't seem to bother you
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if he smokes pot hes not the best guy to date...but its your choice... if you are going to date him then tell people its not good to keep a secret for a long time
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You should definatly come out with it. You shouldn't hide your relationship just becuase you're scared of what others think. This is between ya'll two, not anyone else.If they don't like it, it's too bad, if they don't talk to you over it, they werent' real friends in the first place. People might crtisize you for it, but if he's worth it you should definatly take the chance.
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