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Is there something wrong with me?
Theres a lot of things wrong with me when I have sex. To most guys my problems sound like a dream come true, but in the long run they are a huge problem. When I have sex, sometimes I can't get all the way up for a while. I'm not even 20, so I doubt I need viagra. A lot of my friends pop a boner the second a girl starts cuddling with them and they hate it, but I save myself the embarrassment and just can't have sex when the time comes. Also, a lot of my friends ejaculate too early (after 3 or 4 minutes) but I personally last for an hour maybe two one end. I know this also sounds like a dream come true, but in the end I usually end up getting tired, bored, and I rarely even finish. I know it's good for the girl, but what about if I ever want to have kids?
I thought about whether I was gay, but I have absolutely no attraction to guys and I really do like girls, just more emotionally than physically. I enjoy the cuddling and long evening walks in the park to getting drunk and fucking in a back room kind of thing. Is there any thing I can do without seeking medical help?
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dear is there,
well that does sound like a dream. lol. but it must be hard on you. well first of all you have to consult with a medical professional. just call: 1-800-330-7847. it's called nurse first.
it's totally confidential and free. it's an advice line where you speak to medical profesionals. just tell them your situation and they will tell you all that they can.
hope i helped. *~~~shana~~~*
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I'm a female, but I might be able to help you out.
I do understand where your coming from. It might not be a big problem for the girl, but it has to suck when you have sex and don't always get to have an orgasm.
But what you don't know, is that can be a problem for a girl also. When your cuddling with someone, and you want it to turn into more, then it might make the girl feel unattractive or unwanted if you can't get it up. And when you last for hours on end, the girl could also get bored. Most women aren't able to have orgasms through sexual intercourse, as opposed to clitoral stimulation. So, if you know you aren't going to cum, it can just get repetative to have sex for hours without an orgasm.
Have you ever tried the whole getting drunk and fucking in a back room kind of thing? Not exactly that, but, just spicing things up. Maybe find a semi public place, have sex in a secluded park, in a car, or anywhere out of the ordinary. You could also look up some karma sutra positions, try watching porn with your girlfriend, try using toys. Just do more things to spice sex up for you. Sorry if this is a bit too graphic, I love sex and trying new things, but don't get me wrong, cuddling is still the best thing you can do with a loved one. That and slow, "I love you" kind of sex.
Maybe you just haven't found the right girl... The girl that gives you chils when you look at her or think about her.
And yes, maybe there could be something medically wrong with you. I'm not sure, but I don't think impotence really has an age limit to it. Maybe it's a mild form of it.
Cuddling is absolutely great, and maybe you just need to find a girl that your more emotionally attatched to, and someone who's more emotionally attatched to you.
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ok yea im a gurl but so what ... my ex went thro the same thing with his last gurl friend and he told me before we started going out.. ok i know you might say omg shes crazy but just try it ... before your with the gurl wash your self with a warm wash cloth. ok when you get to the 4play... just think about having sex and how good it feels blah blah.. but u have to imagen the greatness of it .. and the longer it takes the more the gurl will love you.. but if you start to get tired .. or whatnot try it from the back and move from side to side if u understand that.. and if u cant figure out a way to make things easier and better just try going to you local doc. maybe he'll help you out.. i wish the best to ya!!
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i think that guys should be more like you. girls may want to have fun but not all the time. i dont think theres anything wrong with you. maybe you're worring about it to much so it doesnt happen. but for now dont worry about it. enjoy what you like doing. girls wont always want sex.
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You may be under some stress right now in your life and just aren't thinking about the sex. There's a chance something could be wrong with you,but you seem ok otherwise. I'd still see a doctor anyway to get some professional advice. You may be a guy who just doesn't get sexually excited as easily as some others do.
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I dont think anything is wrong with you at all. There are plenty of girls out there who are more into emotional guys. You'll find youre girl one day and she'll make you the happiest guy on the earth. Sex isn't everything, I mean it's great and all, but sometimes its nice to just cuddle, and some girls would much rather cuddle then have sex. Dont worry so much about it, when you get older and start thinkin about having kids then maybe you will decide to go to a doctor and see if theres anything you can do, but untill then just relax and do what you can. Hope i helped. Need anything else youre more then welcome to hit up my inbox!
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hey hun.. i dont think nothings really wrong with you- its just that your the more kinda emotinonally type guy- rather than physical.. and alot of girls out there like that.. If you ever wana have kids i suggest in the future you could contact a doctor about that type of thing, even though as of reading this i dont think nothing is wrong with you! If you need more advice on this just drop a message in my inbox.. i hope this sorta helped you-
xOx * jenn
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