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my mom and 2 brothers and 1 moved in with my grandma and aunt. they treat us like crap! my mom is so depressed i try to stop the fight i do but then 4 sec. laster my grandma will open her mouth again and its non stop fighting and i stick up 4 my mom and shes is always upset and it bothers me .. my life my mom and my 2 brothers life r not right here and were tryin our best to move but we cant yet cuz we dont have enough money.. but my mom is soo upset here.. im tried of all the fighting but i cant stop it my grandma thinks she does nothin worng and its all my mom and that also makes my mom upset.. what should i do to help? what should my mom do? and what can we do to stop the fighting? p/s we tell them to leave our stuff alone but they dont and thet ruein our clothes in the laundry cu the ammonia and we say were gonna wash our clothes but they wash ours neway... what can i do??
Ashley
13
female
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Hi Ashley,
First of all, I know how family fighting is soo horrible, I`ve been in the middle of some some bad ones. You should talk to your brothers, maybe if they are old you can tell them how you feel and how its possible you can team up and confront your mom and grandma together and tell them how this isnt working and your need them to stop because its really starting to hurt you. You are 13, so many people would think you old enough to get little jobs such as babysitting, maybe mowing or raking. That could help with the money issue a bit. This bit is none of my business, but perhaps your grandma is just getting old .. =[ i know my grandmother sometimes acts like that and it bugs me s0o much .. as for clothes, as soon as you have dirty clothes, wash them then there is no chance your grandma can ruin them. You should also listen to what the fighting is about and what you are sticking up for with your mom. It could just get worse if you are sticking up for the wrong things (you might already have done this).
I really hope things get better for you! Good luck. -xox-
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aww hun, i'm sorry your in this situation. dont yell @ anyone though because its pointless and it isnt going to help in anyway to make things better. your grandma understood why your mom and you guys needed to move in there, she should understand how shes hurting your feelings. no matter how hard it is, you need to talk to her, and maybe your aunt too. catch them when there in a good mood, and ask if you can talk to them. i know this is harder than it sounds and a little on the cheesy side, but im sure it'll make things better. if it gets worse..ask for advice to me again because im sure the situation will change after you talk to them. give it a try, it wont hurt you!! xo andrea
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ohh im sryy that yer life is like this..first what you can do is yell at your grandma if she treats you like crap and shit like that stand up fer yourself ik that its hard but you need to..u have been nice now you need help! be like when there fighting * STOP it right now cnt u guys see that it makes our lifes misserable when you guys fight!! its like living on hell..if you guys dnt stop im gonna seriously like kill myself --dnt really its juss to make them stop-- i love all of you and juss want us to live in peace and not fight!!! * and juss go on and on untill they get the picture!! What you can do about your stuff is you can hide your dirty clothes so that they wnt touch them and then wash them yourself..make sure that you pick up all your stuff so that they cnt get there hands on it!! And to move out of the house faster you can get a job like babysitting and stuff..if you make about a hundered dollars a summer you can really be helping your mom out! and if she wnt accept the money slip it into her purse er sumthing!!!
Hope it helps
x0x becca
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I am not choosing sides when I say that there is a lot of stress when a family of 4 moves in with 2 other people. Everyone has their own way of doing things and that many people can get on each other's nerves. Talk to your mom and find out (basically) what would help put your grandmother at ease. If your grandmother gets edgy and begins to argue with your mom......urge your mom to get out of the house for a while. She, or the two of you, could go for a walk, drive to the mall and walk around and have a Coke (you don't have to spend money). Offer to help your grandma around the house and encourage your brothers to do the same. When your grandmother & aunt see that everyone is making an effort to work together, she might ease up. This situation is temporary, so being polite and laying low could help get you through a hard time.
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tell your grandmother that your mom can do what she wants....she is just probally real prtective over your mom and sometimes that sense of being protective can come off as running your mom down or being rude. Im sure your grandmother doesnt mean to hurt your mom...thats her daughter after all. But when she starts doing that, just do whatever you have to do to get your grandmother to leave your mom alone and then explain to her that your mother is a grown woman and can do what she wants and does not need her critizing your mom about everything she does! As far as you helping out..just knwo what your mom is going through and try to help her out in any way possible and always lte her know that you love her and that your her biggest fan at the end of the day!
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