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can best friends date?
I am sure that this auestion has been asked before but I'd like some answers pertaining to my exact situation. I ussually hate online advice forums, but thougth I'd give it a try before I critisize it. Ok, so enough, here's my problem.
My best friend is a girl. She (and I) are 15 years old. I've known her for about two years now. We have been through so much together and help eachother out in so many ways that I see our friendship permanent unless I personally screw it up. When we first met, I immediatly liked her and wanted to date her. When I found out she felt the same way, I planned on asking her out. But some stupid girl found out that she liked me and proclaimed it to the school and also wrote a letter from me (which I didn't write) to her asking her out. Then this menace of a girl embarrased her in front of the entire cafeteria by starting a chant of "ask her out (then my name)". After that, we just became friends and never really brought it up again. It's been two years since then and we have both had at least one boyfriend or girlfriend. I am starting to really like her and it haints me that we never even gave it a shot. But I am not sure if she likes me more than a best friend or if she would agree to go out with me. She is the only person I trust and I can't give her up as a friend, which is why I haven't risked our friendship by asking her out. So, where do I go? What do I do? What do I tell her? What will she say? If she refuses to go out with me, will our friendship be awkward and ruined?
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if you both like each other than go for it if your friendship is that strong if she says no you cn still be friends
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She probably still has feelings for you. You'll have to decide if being with this girl is worth the risk. Is it possible that you could want to just stay friends? Or would you be losing out on a possible love for your whole life? You need to think about that and decide what shes worth to you. If you read those questions and thought 'Well duh, she means the world to me' well then - what are you waiting for, take the change and ask this girl out. If you dont ask her, you will never know what might have been.
If you are worried about wrecking your friendship, try and think about it this way: What if she has feelings for you and is really hoping you will like her too and you dont, she may come to resent you or feel a bit rejected by that, that could jeopardize your friendship anyhow. Also, if you neglected to ask her out and she went out with someone else - wouldnt that tear you up inside? How could your friendship stay the same?
Take the risk, ask her out and if she says no, well then you can yell at me.
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Hey,
ok this is a hared one.I thing you should bring it up like a wanna go see a movie with me sometime, like nothing. She may wanna date you but hase a problem asking you as well.
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Well maybe you could just take her to the movies before you to are a official couple just do things like that but make sure you both know it means more then just being best friends though. If it seems to be going well I advize you to ask her out but just tell her how you feel being that you 2 are best friends it shouldnt be extremely hard just a bit hard and she will probably feel a bit wierd at first because what happaned with the whole chant thing but thats what i would be like to but if she doesnt refuse to go out with you then your good but if she does say you understand because you wouldnt really want to risk the friendship on loosing such a good friend-trix
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Just casually bring it up...say well have you ever thought of us as being more than just friends, or would you want to be because i like you. if she refuses then your friendship will be a lil awkward but eventually it will get back on track. you have to tell her cuz if u dont u will regret it forever!!
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My personal experience of this type was that I dated a good mate, things went sour, but after a while we both bounced back, and we became even closer.
What I'm trying to say is if you are really good mates then if things go wrong, you should be able to remain mates. However all this is very dependant on the type of person you and your mate are.
Maybe you could do the hypotheticaly thing; 'Hey, Y. What you say if I asked you out. Hypothetically speaking'
A lot of what you are asking will depend entirely on the sort of people you and she are, so it will be impossible to predict exactly what aill happen.
Good luck whatever you decide :)
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