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i dont know wut to do..
ok.. my friend lets call her laura and laura's parents abuse her like hit her and leave marks and she hates her life and she chooses to cut herself and she cuts sorta deep and im afraid one of these days shes gonna cut to deep and kill herself.. and she doesnt want anyone to know cuz her parents wont do any good and my parents i dont rilly want them to know either cuz theyll get ideas about me cuz they dont trust me very well and i just rilly dont know wut to do anymore and ive tried to stop her but she wont and i dont wanna tell anyone either but i just dont want her to hurt herself anymore cuz im scared shes gonna cut to deep one of these times.. is there like anything that could like substitute cutting? cuz she would just keep cutting if she went to counseling or something like that so is there anything that could substitute cutting?? i rilly need advice FAST!! thanx s0o0o much!
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Tell someone, tell a counseler at your school or talk to a teacher. Set up a time where you can go in and talk to someone. First tell them of the abuse, and then go on to the cutting. Make sure you can trust the person you are telling and make sure that they won't tell your friend who said something. Just have them say that "there is a person who is worried about you." You could also try talking to your friend if you felt that you wanted to. I have been through similar events myself and with friends and make sure you aren't pushing her into something she doesn't want to do. When you push people to get help, sometimes that will just drive them to do it more because they feel that they can do it on their own and they cant. But be careful that you are making the right choices for both you and your friend and her family.
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Your friend feels trapped and cutting herself is a way that she deals with it. You are her friend but friends need to know when to give help even when it's not wanted. A start might be helping her by talking to someone who can help out her abusive parent problem. She needs help because her parents could go farther than just hitting her. In the long one she will be grateful that you helped her. She can't escape but you can help free her.
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I know you may not want to, but you really need to tell an adult. Pick somebody that you trust. It sounds like Laura is being abused. Some substitutes for self-mutilation can be coloring in a book, writing in a journal, getting a small punching bag or taking out her anger on a pillow, aerobic exercise, or anything else that she can do besides hurting herself. People cut because they feel like their life is spinning out of control, and they believe that the only way to feel in control of their situation is to cut themselves. Laura needs to know that she isn't alone and that there are other ways to deal with these feelings. I wish you both the best.
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if u dont tell sum1 and u kno about this and something does happen 2 ur friend you will fell guility the rest of ur life. you have 2 tell sum1 like ur parents or call social sercurity nad they will get the parents the help they need but they might make your friend find a new family or live with another family member. good luck
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Well instead of cutting she could put a rubberband around her wrist and whenever she feels like cutting she just snaps the rubberband on her wrist. But not snapping it too hard. But I would still get her help some how. Report her parents to an authority figure, because its a serious problem to abuse a child. You do need to tell someone even if she doesn't want you to, because if you really do care about your friend you will tell someone. Because this problem can't stay going on. It needs to be stopped. I hope this advice works and I hope your friend gets better.
*Zoe*
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you cant only get her to stop cutting, you have to get the reason shes cutting out of the way so the next time her parents hit her and leave a mark you need to call the cops if you really care about her thats the best thing you can do because that will stop her parents from hitting her and she wont hate her life as much in which case she will stop cutting. i hope ive helped
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wut she could do is start up sumthing that will keep her from cutting. just sumthing to keep her hands busy. she could take up drawing or painting or a sport. w/e she likes she should do more often to keep her hands busy. it sounds kinda stupid but it does work for a lot of things. if she bites her fingernails it could stop her from doing that too lol. but ya just have her start doing sumthing to keep her hands busy and it should b cool.
hope i helped!
*Oreo*
p.s. if it gets really serious u have to tell sum1 she is cutting. i dunno who but u have too if u dont want her to kill herself.
don't b scared to ask me a question!
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oK sELf MuTaLaTioN iS sOmething thAt is not to joke around with.. you need to tell someone.. dont tell her parents.. maybe tell yours or an adult you can trust.. If She gest into counseling they will help her and give her substitues to cutting.. a Counselor will help her with her emotional problems and get her to maybe not stop the cutting, but lack off on it.. You have to tell someone i know you dont want her to get upset about telling someone, but she will really understand that you are just looking out for her as a friend..explain to her how much you care about her and dont want to see her hurt anymore and thast why you had to tell someone.. she might be upset for al ittle bit... but you are saving her from a lot of pain.. HoPe I HelpeD!
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