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Runaway advice
How do I help a runaway whose parents are verbally abusive, and I thing are overall crazy! Her parents are longtime friends of mine but their style of discipline seems crazy. The child in question ("SUE"), is 17 and is basically a great kid. She's mannerable and has just started to show interest in boys. She was adopted by my friends when she was around 5 years old after being abandoned by her natural mom in a homeless shelter. She has adjusted well overall but I can understand that she has to deal with the past in her mind as well as deal with the problems of growing up. They have changed the locks and told the other kids in the house not to let her in but they tell me she was not put out! What do you call that? THey refuse to let her get any clothes and went to her job and got her last paycheck so she relies solely on me (which I don't mind). I took her home because they tricked me into thinking I could get some items and they blocked the door and took her! I could hear them shouting, calling her names, and now I fear that they have taken her to a receiving home. I am DEVASTATED!!! I hate that they are doing this to her and feel helpless. I also feel guilty that I actually believed them only to be tricked and now she is suffering. What should I do or could I do?
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you did a good thing telling the police thats what friends are for always looking out for each other.
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I know its hard to see a good friends get hurt exspecially by another friend of yours so what i would do is quickly call somebody asap and get her out of that home and into a new safe one. before things really start to get bad unless they already are then worse. cuz i know you or noone would want that-trix
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I know that it is hard to see a child grow up in a home like that. I also grew up in an abusive family. I to had to rely on fellow friends. It is very tough. If at all possible, take the child in question and ask for adoption rights. If there is any visible evidence of foul play the court will immediatly pull her out of the house and place her in foster care. So if you love the child and feel that you can support her in every way needed, get her out of there. I am studying criminal justice in college and child abuse will follow her for the rest of her life. I had counseling for a little over 2 years off and on because of my past. It is not easy to deal with. She really needs someone right now. It must be hard for her to rely on you. No one wants to feel like they are a burden. Let her know she is welcome and that you will try to help her in every way possible.
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well there is really only one thing you can do.....its call the cops
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If they are abusive, I would report them. I would never try reasoning with them again, they sound unbalanced. Try any means possible to get her out of the house.
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