I am 18 years old and about to start college. I know that the world can be tough and that people can be cruel. I started this advice column to help all people. Age, sex or nationality does not matter to me. I just want to help people through their problems and be a shoulder to lean on when no one else is there. Whatever the topic is, I am certain I will have some great advice for you. Love, school, boys/girls, family, friends, work, PARENTS!!!, anything you want advice about. I have been through a lot and have had friends who have been through a lot. I know how things work. When you need a shoulder to cry on or hair advice for your big date tonight. I have it. All you need to do is ASKAMANDA!!!
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Ok, there's this guy who I met through my friend. She had a sweet 16th B-day party, and this guy was invited. I think he is her cousin's best friend. Anyway, I haven't seen him since the party, but lately, we started IMing on the computer. I got the screename from my friend. And he sent me all these emails telling me that he likes me. I like him back and we both wanna be in a relationship. The only problem is, my friend likes him to. He's told her that he only likes her as a friend and she knows this. I told her about everything and she says she doesn't mind and she thinks it's cute that we like each other and everything. I just don't know if it's right. Should I go out with him? I'm sooooooooooo confused. Lol. Thanx a bunch.
Btw, I'm a 15 y/o female. (link)
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No, dating a guy that your friend likes will only cause problems between the two of you. Now you can talk to your friend and tell her that you have feeling for this guy and see what she thinks. If she seems upset then it is definately a BAD idea. If she doesn't seem upset then she may be hiding her feelings from you. Wait a while and see how she acts towards you. hope i helped you. If your frienship doesn't mean that much to you guys, then go for it, but don't try to hurt her.
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Me and one of my good friends of 5 years had a fight over something really stupid...but it turned into something huge! She ended up telling me that she was never my friend all these years...that she really just felt sorry for me. Even though when we friends we did alot of stuff together! When she said this I was extreamly hurt and cryed all night long. We have not talked in a few weeks and I miss her...I really want our friendship back especially since we are both entering highschool next year and we will often see each other around the neighborhood. How should I go about getting our friendship back? Please help! (link)
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Relax... maybe your friend just has a lot of stress built up right now. Give it a little time and things should return to normal. If you guys were as good of friends as you say, then she probably feels the same exact way. Just try to talk to her and tell her how you feel.
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I have been having these major break outs around my hairline and on my nose..I have tryed alot of stuff that just dont seem to work any ideas? (link)
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Ok this may sound strange but it realy works. Apply solid deodorant right before you go to bed, and then wash it off in the morning. Other things that work are non whitining flouride toothpastes. This is guaranteed to minimize the size of pimples. To get rid of the redness apply some red eye drops directly on the blemish and voila!!! Say goodbye to pimples, and everything that you need should be part of your daily hygeine care.
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OK, I'ma be blunt: my b/f and I have been having sex. He comes every time, but I can't seem to. It's kind of been bothering me. We've been experimenting and stuff, but I just haven't come. It's bothering him, too.LOL I think he thinks hes doing something wrong or something. Anyone have any tips?
He does know what I like, by the way...he knows it better than I do. Does it, like, take awhile for the girl to be able to orgasm? Or something?
If you can, help me out, would ya? I mean, I was told girls are hard to get to orgasm, but I didn't think it was this hard!
i'm 16/f, if that makes any difference. (link)
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Ok. Whenever you are having sex and you feel yourself get really wet you are cumming. Not everyone can orgasm. I thought something was wrong with me, so i went to see my gyno and she said it was perfectly normal. Not everyone can experience the big O. If you feel differently, try different positions with your guy. Sometimes you can get off better doing it in strange ways, other than the standard missionary. SO my advice is to buy a kama sutra book and try all of the positions in it. If this still doesn't work try oral sex if you are up for it. If you still have nothing i recommend going to see your gyno. They will definately be able to help you with the problem. Good luck!!!
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how do you use a vibrator? i mean i really dont know if there is any spacific way to or not but i want to use one (link)
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get yourself excited and wet by touching yourself with your hands and fingers. If that doesn't work put in an x rated flick. it is important to be turned on before trying to use a vibrator. After you are turned on just rub it all over your erogenous zones. Very simple!!! there is no right way to use one. whatever turns you on is fine.
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well i'm getting bored with my usual masterbating so has anyone got any tips? im kinda too young to use vibraters. i'm a girl. (link)
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try masturbating in the bathtub. turn out the lights and light some candles. close your eyes and imagine you are in a far away place. gently rub all over your entire body. The sexier you feel, the easier masturbation will become. It will also be more fun too. Just relax and let your fingers take control. Don't do any work with your body. Just let your hands touch you without thinking to hard about it.
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I am 18 years of age. My family and I have dreamed of moving to another country for 12 years. We finally have the opportunity to do so and we have taken it. However, my sister now has a boyfriend and is threatening to stay behind. She wants to marry him as soon as possible. She is 16 years old. This boy is 19, has quit school, has been unemployed for most of the last 3 years as he is continually fired, and is known to lie frequently. How can i make her see that she is too young for this and that he is not worth giving up her family and her future for? (link)
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Your sister is going through a very familiar stage. SHe is rebelling because it will get her noticed more. I am also 18 and my sister is 15. she thinks she is in love and wants to marry this boy who will be 18. He to, has the job problem. he also dropped out of school and ironically he is 3 years older than my sister. It is very common for the younger sibling to feel detatched from the rest of the family. But since she is only 16 and cannot provide for herself yet, your parents still maintain control of her life. Unless she becomes emancipated, but then she would have to prove to the court system that she is able to provide for herself alone. Older guys have a way of coming over younger girls. But don't worry. there are lots of things that you and your parents could do. What is the legal age for sex where you are at? If worst comes to worst you or your parents could always get him for statutory rape. Then your sister would have absolutly no choice. SHe would have to leave with you and the rest of your family. Hope i helped.
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okay well there is this guy that i went out with for like 3 days yeah short time i know his ex gf came into the picture well were still friends and him and his gf recently broke up and i still like him and i have liked him sence we broke up im not to sure how he feels about me but can you give me some tips on how to flirt with him like what to do? thanks for the help! (link)
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go for it. guys appreciate a girl more when they go after what they want. be bold and do not let anything stand in your way. furthermore, if you impress him with wit and boldness he will realize that you are serious about pursuing a relationship. Be firm but do not be pushy. just do enough to get your man and keep him. to much boldness will make him think that you are pushy, controlling, and overbearing. GO FOR IT GIRL!!! Show him how you feel. Do whatever you have to do to get the guy. Remember to be charming and charismatic. That is always a total turn on for guys. I know you saw the bachelor on T.V. do you remember the southern belle who lost? well then he realized what a mistake he made and went to find her. they ended up getting married. He said she was just so charming and ladylike. Same scenario!!! Good luck!!!
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hey okay im 14 and ive never really made out with a guy bc ive always been scared that im going to do it wrong...but like this coming weekend *tonights sunday and next saturday* im going to my bfs house and were going to be alone so i was wondering if you could tell me what ways to move my tonuge! please help!!! (link)
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when u are kissing a guy just follow his lead if u are unsure of what to do. there is no right way to kiss a person. if he is experienced at kissing he will lead. all guys kiss differently, so just relax and don't push. the secret is rolling your tongue lightly around his in a gentle motion. hope i helped. let me know.
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ok... i like my guy friend **bob** :) he-he bob... ok ne ways, i know he has a physical attraction to me. how do u go about asking if he likes u all in all? can u give me some pointers?
thanx f/16 (link)
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just ask him bluntly if he is interested in you in any other way than "just friends" he will totally dig your bold moves. guys like chicks that aren't afraid to make the first move. so make the first move and snag the man. it's the little things that matter anyways. trust me. he will totally dig your confidence.
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is there a better way to jack a guy off?/ please help (link)
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Try getting your man off from behind. It intensifies the pleasure level by about 10. When you are doing this try gripping his balls lightly as he is about to cum.
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wow! this friday i lost my cell phone..and i went a lil crazi..i was at a teennight place (which is a place where u met ppl and dance and shyt like that) and i was askin every1 if they saw my phone and i asked this one realli hot guy and i was like heyyy do u have my phone..and he was like no and i was like are u sure???...and he was like u can check me and i was like ok so i lifted up his shirt..OMG He has a 6pac.. (link)
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No you are not a slut. Maybe a little wild, but not slutty. If you really feel that bad about it tell your boyfriend about it and see what he says. It is only fair that you let him know what happened. You know that if he secretly did the same thing, you would want to know about. Loved ones don't keep secrets from other loved ones. The worst thing he can do is tell you that it is over. But if you are deeply and passionatly in love, things will work themselves out naturally. It's not like you slept with this random guy, you just made out with him. Flings are totally natural. Kissing is not sex. A person is only a slut when they repeatedly have sex with random guys. Tell your man, he deserves to know the truth. Hope it works out.
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I'm 16 years old and technically a virgin.
I have tried to sleep with my boyfriend but he keeps losing his erection and we used a condom each time we tried.
His penis has definitely come into contact with my vagina whilst unprotected but there was no penetration or attemt at it.
I don't know exactly when my period was due but it is definitely late.
I'm hoping that it's just exam stress or something (I finished my exams 10-06).
Please tell me I'm not pregnant.
What should I do? (link)
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I really hate to break it to you, but you can be impregnated without penis penetration. If you and your boyfriend were fooling around one day and he was just touching your vagina with his penis, and a tiny drop of pre ejaculate seeped into your opening, you could become pregnant. My best advice to you is to get yourself to your ObGyn and get it checked out ASAP. I hope everything turns out good for you. If you need anymore advice I am here.
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like when ever my boy friend gets horny i aint ever horny how do i get my self in the mood?? (link)
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Foreplay is the secret honey. Lots and lots and lots of foreplay. Whenever you just rush into sex it can be an uncomfortable and sometimes painful experience. Arouse your partner by using everything but your hands. Massage him with your body, use your hair to find his hidden hot spots. If you don't already, start reading Cosmopolitan. I am sure you will find helpful hints, sexy secrets and tantalizing tricks. Not to mention the oh so sinful match and moan games. Positively satisfying. Guaranteed to satisfy both you and your partner. Try and let me know how you like it.
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Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do? (link)
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That is not a friend. That is a selfish user. Does your friend have problems at home with her family? That could be one reason why she acts the way she does. Tell your friend that you do not appreciate the way she treats you or your belongings. If that doesn't work just tell her that she is going to treat you with the same respect that you treat her or that your friendship isn't worth saving. SOmetimes it is rough, but friends do not treat each other that way. before you decide to stop talking to her try to find out if she has family problems and then try to talk to her about it. Talking is the key to an everlasting friendship. Trust me, I know!!! I am here if you need to talk. Let me know what happens.
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I've always been really bad at finding things to say to people when they're upset. I mean, I know that usually what they need is just for their friend to be there for them, but I can't just stand there while they cry...for instance, one of my friends has been having a lot of problems lately: she fights with her mother often and recently her grandfather was taken to the hospital and they think he might have cancer. She gets upset often and i never know what to say or do! I feel horrible...i need some advice on what to say when she's going through hard times or crying on the phone or whatever because I always feel that I'll sound stupid and not good enough of a friend. when someone has cancer you can;'t tell the person 'oh, it'll be okay' because it won't! so please, if you have any advice i'd be glad to hear it (link)
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Don't worry if comforting things to say don't come naturally to you. All your friend needs to know and feel is that you are there for her. Just be there for her and give her a hug. Let her know that you care about what is going on in her life. Try to do things to take her mind off of everything that is going on around her. For instance, whenever she is fighting with her mom take her to the mall and just walk around. Give each other facials or makeovers. Paint each others toenails and fingernails. When you do things together it may make your friend feel a lot better. That is all the consoling your friend should need. If she knows that you are there she will find it in her heart to care more. Take her mind off of the pain. That is what being a good friend is all about. I will be here if you need to talk! Good luck!!!
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Ok. So my friend who is 14 like me, basically makes out with a different guy every night and gives head to a new guy every week. She recently lost her virginity at a party, and when we started talking about all the stuff she does she says she has fun but she looked really sad. Personally I think she's been doing way to much stuff with way too many random guys. I don't want to hurt her, and make her think I think she's a slut or anything, but I do want to talk to her because I'm concerned. What do I do? (link)
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HELLLLLLOOOOOOO!!!! Is your friend looking for an STD? There are so many diseases out there right now that it is almost impossible to sleep around without getting one. There are viruses that can be contracted by sitting on a toilet seat. Take your friend to the local library and show her the scary truth. COnvince her to go to the health department and get checked out. If that doesn't work then she will have to find out the hard way, which is really sad. You can't make her stop, but maybe you can scare her out of it. Hope i helped. If you need me I am here.
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ok what is the in color for hair? blonde or brown ? i am a blonde right now but it is a died blonde some ppl like it and some dont i think i look a little better as a blonde but i dont know cuz i did have brown hair with blonde highlights but i have blue eyes and i think the blonde brings them out more but i just want to know what is the in color for hair? (link)
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If you are medium complected i would say to dye it blonde. Brown is more of a fall/winter color. What is really hott right now are blondes and reds. summery hues are great attention getters. Blonde with strawberry colored highlights are gorgeous. Red hair with a hint of dark blonde highlights are adorable. Both tones look great on any skin tone. TO find out what shade is right for you hold the dye box upto your chin and look in the mirror. If you have second thoughts about the color, it's not for you. YOu will be able to determne the perfect color when you hold it up. Try to match with your eyebrows. If your eyebrows are black DO NOT dye your hair blonde. It will not take. Your hair will look fake and nasty. Try the mirror test while you are in the store. Like i said. You will know the perfect color for you when you find it.Good luck!!!
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How do I help a runaway whose parents are verbally abusive, and I thing are overall crazy! Her parents are longtime friends of mine but their style of discipline seems crazy. The child in question ("SUE"), is 17 and is basically a great kid. She's mannerable and has just started to show interest in boys. She was adopted by my friends when she was around 5 years old after being abandoned by her natural mom in a homeless shelter. She has adjusted well overall but I can understand that she has to deal with the past in her mind as well as deal with the problems of growing up. They have changed the locks and told the other kids in the house not to let her in but they tell me she was not put out! What do you call that? THey refuse to let her get any clothes and went to her job and got her last paycheck so she relies solely on me (which I don't mind). I took her home because they tricked me into thinking I could get some items and they blocked the door and took her! I could hear them shouting, calling her names, and now I fear that they have taken her to a receiving home. I am DEVASTATED!!! I hate that they are doing this to her and feel helpless. I also feel guilty that I actually believed them only to be tricked and now she is suffering. What should I do or could I do? (link)
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I know that it is hard to see a child grow up in a home like that. I also grew up in an abusive family. I to had to rely on fellow friends. It is very tough. If at all possible, take the child in question and ask for adoption rights. If there is any visible evidence of foul play the court will immediatly pull her out of the house and place her in foster care. So if you love the child and feel that you can support her in every way needed, get her out of there. I am studying criminal justice in college and child abuse will follow her for the rest of her life. I had counseling for a little over 2 years off and on because of my past. It is not easy to deal with. She really needs someone right now. It must be hard for her to rely on you. No one wants to feel like they are a burden. Let her know she is welcome and that you will try to help her in every way possible.
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ok im 14 and going to be a freshman. i really like this guy still that i went out w/ for 4 months (which is a loooong time for me) at the beging of last year. i broke up w/ him cause i found this other guy who i thought i loved he ended up screwing me over, but anyway i hurt this guy a lot when i broke up w/ him. we couldnt even talk to each other for like 3 months. now we r really close friends and we have recently admitted we like each other still. but i dont know if i should go out w/ him because... well... im afraid im going to hurt him again. i have a problem w/ comitment i guess. (link)
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Honey I am 18 and I have the same problem. COMMITMENT!!! Guys just seem to demand answers from us all the time. If you like him tell him how you are feeling, but let him know the situation at hand. Tell him that you are afraid of commitment. If he is really into you he will understand how you feel, and together you both can work through the problem. If he doesn't understand and just wants to be persistant, then you don't need that. You are only 14 years old. There are plenty of guys in the world. Some will break your heart, others will stick around until you break their heart. Love is blind. It hurts but at the same time it feels good because you have someone there with you who cares and holds you. If this guy wants to be with you he will wait until the time is right. If you guys aren't meant to be together, the power of love will break you apart. Take it slow. Things will work out okay for you and your friend.
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