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15 vs. 21
I'm fifteen years old and completely in love with a twenty-one year old guy. We have both liked each other for about 2 years now. However, the guy I like has never acted upon his feelings because of my age. He respects me, which isn't a bad thing. But how can I make him see that I'm mature enough to be his girlfriend? How could I coax him to get into a relationship with me?
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No sedution want help u.I think that u shouldn't be going out with him but if u want to then here tell him how u feel and if that don't work than act mature and explain to him how u feel and u don't care about what other people might say.But I still think u is a little to young to be going out with a 21 year old.
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I can understand the situation you are in, when I was sixteen I had a long term relationship with someone 20 years older than me. (Trust me, he was a hottie and worth it) But because of age constraints, he was always worried he'd be busted by the cops. So look at it this way, it is really great that he respects you. But give him that SAME respect back and respect the fact that he doesn't want to be looking over his shoulder all of the time for the feds because, yes, honey, more than likely it is a crime to have intimate relations with someone who is a minor in your state. That means you are jail bait. If he has been worth the wait for two years now, it shouldn't be too hard to wait until you are 18. I know it seems forever, but it'll pass by faster than you can even imagine.
The fact that you are looking to coax (a.k.a. pressure) him into a relationship shows that you are in fact not quite as mature as you believe - and not as mature as you want him to believe. Respect his wishes, let him know you are interested, but don't push it. If it is meant to be, it will happen, regardless of age. But don't pressure him or seduce him, that could only push him away.
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Like you said 15 vs. 21 thats really all to say. You shouldnt be dating someone that old in the first place. He has other things in mind. He is almost ready to start a life and get invovled to be real serious. If you were 21 and he was 15.. would you want to date someone that young? You may get the name slut and he may get the name molestor or something and im sure neither of you 2 want those names-trix
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If you really like this guy then there is no problem in that. However, this guy has every right not to want to pursue anything with you right now because of your age. Im sure it has nothing to do with him thinking your mature or not but the simple fact that he could go to jail. If you love him and he loves you then he can wait till you a lil bit older and the consequences aren't so severe.
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I understand that you are attracted to some one older, but this is illegal. You really need to be aware of what you can get into. It is okay to date innocently, but if it isn't so innocent you can be put in jail. And honestly, I didn't know much about this topic, so I asked beth. And according to her, you can't sleep with him, and if you do, it's considered statutory rape and may result in jail. And I definitely want to thank her for helping me out on this one. So if you are very sure he is the one, you need to consider these things. It's very hard to make someone love you back, especially at this age difference. Talk to him about how you feel, if he respects your decision then I guess you could date. But if he doesn't there is not much to do. Maybe you should try to find a guy your age. This is hard on your part too, but is it really worth all the trouble you can be putting yourself into? Take care, good luck, and be careful! Love ya- Mandee
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You're not mature enough. There's such a difference in maturity between a 15 year old and 21 year old... Emotionally, I'm sure he's more mature... Socially, more mature... and of course physically more mature... Let alone psychologically... Waitin' until you're not jail bait is a good idea too... Doesn't matter if you conset... Yet again... You may not bone him...
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Wait...how do you even knjow this guy? I seriously doubt you love a 21yera old MAN...wow please wait until you're 28...if he really loves you back he'll respect that you want to wait...just three more years...and then you're free...
Please wait...
Seduction?? Don't do it...seriously kid...just leave it be until you're 18. I know you think he espects you but if you even think he's showing any sexual/strong feelings for you then you don't want to be with him too. You're a minor and he could go to jail...that's not right.
If he starts to seduce you or touch you in any way get away from him and tell somebody...
~Gessyka~
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Don't! Until you're 18, it is AGAINST THE LAW and he could be arrested! Wait til you're 18.
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