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should i tell him how i feel ?
ok ive liked this guys for six months and he just asked me out like 4 days ago and i was thinking about how much i liked him compared to all of my other boyfriends and this by far is the most serious one even tho weve only been going out for 4 days it feels like i really do love him , but im have 2nd thoughts about telling him how i feel because (1 we are to totally different people as in he isnt a virgin and i am he does pot and i dont and i dont have a problem with him doing it , its just im not sure how he would react (2 he might think im nuts and walk away and tell his friends so they can stare at me even more at me during lunch (3 he may not feel the same way about me . and i have a friend of his who is a friend of mine and says that he talks about me all the time and in the "good" way. ok well let me get to the point im leaving this summer for 3 months and im leaving in about a month and i seriously cant stand not seeing him and i wanted to tell him how i felt befor i left ... should i?
*~a person with love issues~*
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Well, I wouldn't go so far as to tell him you love him, but just tell him you care about him. If you say it with sincerety, he will appreciate it. I would be concerned about him doing pot. Try to oberve how often he does it. I don't think this is a very wise thing to do. Ask him if he plans to quit soon, if not tell him that you worry about something happening to him, like an accident, because it impairs his thinking and you also don't want to see him get arrested for possesion. Since he is not a virgin, he may try to pressure you to have sex before you are ready, or try to get you to smoke pot, and then take advantage of you. Be careful around this guy. As much as you like him, you don't really know him. It's more of an infatuation than love. He may not be the right one for you, especially if he tries to change you, and make you more like him. I am probably the first adult to answer this question, no offense to the teens that answered, but I have more life experience, and have known guys like this. All I can say is be true to yourself, and do what you know is right. Follow your head before you follow your heart. If you need any more advice, feel free to write me anytime.
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you have asked a range of wquestions. I think in stead of asking me y dont u sit him down and talk it out with him. I think ur to worried about him faults and not really giving him a chance. What happens if he is the one u go out and have a laugh the best bf so far?? U would b missing out on it so hes had sex that can b a big thing but doesnt mean u have to sleep with himdont d anything u dont want to do. Speed is a bigthing tho i dont bleieve in taking drug , drugs have a reaction on a person and sometimes men and women can become voilent call the drugs help line or Frank . I hope i maked its a little easier feel free to contact us again
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Yea, u should tell him. He will never kno how u feel and if u dont tell him then u will regret it ova the summer.
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TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL CAUSE IF YOU DONT THEN HE WILL NEVER KNOW THEN WHEN YOU SEE SOME BODY ELSE WITH HIM THEN YOU WILL BE MAD SO GET HIM WHY YOU CAN CAUSE I HAD THE SAME PROBLEMS AND I GOT MINE GOODLUCK
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wait and see how you feel a few days before you leave. Have you guys been friends before this? cuz if you have, then you guys already have a special connection and it'd be understandable that you feel that way. If that's the case, I'd say, go for it. However, if you have only been close for the time you've been going out, which is only four days-ish, I'd wait a few months. Sometimes feelings can appear to be one thing but change. Build a strong foundation with this guy and really get to know him. Once you know just about everything about him, and you still feel this way, then tell him.
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let him no how much you will miss him while your away and that alone should let him no how much he means to you.
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I would wait, since you have only been going out for 4 days. Besides, I think your relationship may not change much whether you tell him or not if he feels similar. But if he doesn't feel the same way, it will definitely change it for the worse, because he will feel uncomfortable. So don't say anything for now.
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