|
should i tell him how i feel?
ok ive liked this guys for six months and he just asked me out like 4 days ago and i was thinking about how much i liked him compared to all of my other boyfriends and this by far is the most serious one even tho weve only been going out for 4 days it feels like i really do love him , but im have 2nd thoughts about telling him how i feel because (1 we are to totally different people as in he isnt a virgin and i am he does pot and i dont and i dont have a problem with him doing it , its just im not sure how he would react (2 he might think im nuts and walk away and tell his friends so they can stare at me even more at me during lunch (3 he may not feel the same way about me . and i have a friend of his who is a friend of mine and says that he talks about me all the time and in the "good" way. ok well let me get to the point im leaving this summer for 3 months and im leaving in about a month and i seriously cant stand not seeing him and i wanted to tell him how i felt befor i left ... should i?
*~a person with love issues~*
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
This is a hard one, but I personally believe that it's only been 4 days but if you are going away for 3 months then I think the best way to tell him is to write him a letter and tell him not to read it before you go and therefore he can have time to sit and think about how you feel, on the other hand, the risk is that he goofs off about it and tells his friends, but if he's like that then he's not worth your time. Its a risk you have to take and I say TAKE IT! You'll regret it if you don't. Hope my advice helps
]
I strongly advise that you do not tell him you love him right now. As you said, you've only been dating four days. There are many reasons you shouldn't tell him that you love him right now. Most importantly, you could very well push him away by doing that. It's overwhelming when people jump into the 'I love you' thing too early in a relationship. Even moreso, it's hard to believe it if someone says it the first week into a relationship. Telling someone that you love them should be a very well-thought out thing. To be honest, if a guy told me he loved me four days into a relationship, I'd tell him that he doesn't know what love is. It's just a natural reaction to be turned off by that.
But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't tell him that he means a lot to you before you leave. If I were you, I would wait until right before you leave though. Then you'll have been dating a month and it would be more understandable. The things that you're feeling now, you could tell him in six months and they would have a greater effect. In six months you can say, 'I felt a stronger connection with you the first week we were dating than I did with any of my other boyfriends. I really felt like I loved you right away.' It will say more if you say it then than if you said it now.
I think that before you leave, you should go out on a nice date. Dinner and a movie or a late night walk to a beach/lake in your town. Get him something as sort of a promise for when you get back. A jacket that smells like the perfume you wear all the time or something else that shows you'll be coming back for it when you get back and that you're going to miss him.
On that date, you can tell him that the last month has meant a lot to you and that you're going to miss him and will be excited to see him when you get back. While you're gone, try to call him every couple days at least, and send him a couple postcards from where ever your vacation spot is.
Darby(:
]
More Questions: |