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2 friends and stuck in the middle
When 2 of your friends are fighting and your in the middle stuck and dont know what side to choose on what do you do? Like one person would want me to sit with them and the other one would be like lets all move away from her and i dont know what to do i mean i am friends with all of them but they make it seem like it is wrong to hang out with that person just b/c that person is different and people already make fun of her behind her back and everything. I am stuck in the middle so what do i do ?
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You know what? Don't sit with either of them. And refuse to take sides. They will be pissed off with you for a while, sure, but it's the only way. Tell them, calmly, that you don't want to be a part of their argument, and untill they sort it out you are going to stay neutral. If one of them needs a shoulder to cry on, be there. If one of them needs someone to listen, be there. But don't take sides, it'll only work out worse in the end.
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You know what to do. It seems like they're really not your friends. If they can't respect you then don't have anything to do with them.
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I have been in your situation many times. It's seems that whenever my friends get into an fight, they both turn to me for support. I suggest you stay true to both your friends. Sit them both down together and maybe try help them talk calmly to each other about what is bothering them. Obviously they both are too worked up to sit down calmly together, so the best way is to have a "middle man". You'll be there just to make sure things don't get too out of hand and that they both listen to each other. Otherwise, the fight may last even longer. And also, don't choose sides, when you sit them down to talk let them know that you're are not on anyone's side and also, while they're talking the only way you'll talk is if things get a little too heated. If having them talk does not work then tell them both that you are going to have to separate from both of them until they work things out because it is too hard for you to have to be in the middle of two people you care about so much. Good luck, hun. Hope it all works out for you.
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I think you should not go on any of their sides cause that causes more problems, so just find someone to hang out with until they stop fighting, and then when they get to being friends again then you can sit with both of them. Hope this helped!! ~*~ Bye~*~
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tell them both that your stuck in the middle, and you like being friends with both of them, if they want to see you happy as their friend they should using you as a go between and let you do your own thing, nobody owns you and the sooner they relise that, the better. talk to them tell them how you feel,you'll soon relise who your real friends are.
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I have had many fights that seem to always trap me in the middle. You need to sit down with your friends, both of them, and talk. If that doesn't work then you need to tell them that you are not going to sit with any of them until they settle it. It will be really hard but which would you rather have, being torn between two friends or not talking to either on of them for two or three days. It is all up to you. The way it sounds you just need to understand both sides of the story and who knows it could all be a big misunderstanding.
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Find out which of your friends is NOT being mean or evil to the other and drop them. If it's a fight, try to end it by finding a solution, if need be, figure out which one is the lesser of two evils and side witht hat one., If one of you're 'friends' is being generally mean to another for no real reason drop the prejucicial dumb***. I really can't understand why you question askerks keep whining about how you can't possibly leave you're mean, psychotic, prudice-filled moronic friends. No offense, but if one friend really is wrong here, that person shouldn't be a friend.
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