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What to say
I have a really good friend. She is head over heels for the guy of her dreams. She even now dates him. She is overbering in a caring way. She really likes him but while she was gone i found something out. He thinks that she is crazy and is going to break up with her. I know if he does, she will be devistated. Should i tell her of the impending doom. If i do she might hate me but if i dont she will lose the guy of her dreams. What can i say?
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sit down and tell her nocely if she dosent belive you then leave it alone when it dose happend tell her he was bad news and that you tried to warn her but be nice about it because she might cry.
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Tell her. She needs to know. If my guy was about to break up with me, I'd want a heads up from a trusted friend. I doubt she'll hate you - if anything, she'd love you for helping her brace herself. Good luck. =(
-Siren
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well you should tell her - or record the guy saying mean things about her
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It's all about how much he can handle her. You know some people annoy you, or some things that a person does, and if he thinks and feels that he can't handle her, or maybe doesn't have feelings for her anymore, why fake it? There are a lot of other men in the world, she can find another one. Bedside, it was just a boyfriend. Not the love of her life, or else they could of still been together, no matter what.
It's judt worse if he fakes it.
Don't tell her, let her find out for herself. It's nice that you are concerned, but it's between him and her.
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i think you should tell her but in a way where you dont blurt it out just go with the conversation and it has to be at the right time dont let the boy get between your friendship if she finds out that you knew and didnt tell her thats what will make her mad well it would make me mad atleast
always,goodlistener
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Just let what is going to happen, happen. All that matters is that you are a good friend to her and help her get through what apparently is going to be a hurtfull point in her life. Be a good friend, do what you think is right.
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Even if you tell her, it probably won't stop him from breaking up with her, you know. If she finds out about it and confronts him, it'll probably just reinforce his feelings. Even if she doesn't confront him, it'll make the vibe between them really weird.
I don't think there's anything you can do to change the course of this relationship, unfortunately. Keep this info to yourself. (If she ever specifically comes to you for advice about what she might be doing wrong with her boyfriends, you can GENTLY sugggest that she might be less overbearing, but leave this guy out of it.) For now, just be a supportive friend, and be there for her when she's trying to get over the breakup.
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In my experience, even if you did tell her she wouldn't listen to you until he broke up with her himself. My best friend went out with a total asshole for 4 years, and i told her time and time again that he was trouble and she wouldn't listen to me. Ever heard the phrase, "Love is blind"? If you're really good friends, then there's a chance she'll take into account what you're saying, but if he does break up with her, it's gonna be more humiliating for you to be able to say (although i dont think you would) "I told you so"
I suggest you don't say anything. Let these guys sort out this problem on their own, and if you friend gets hurt, be there for her when she needs you. Good luck
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I would just let nature take its course...
What's meant to happen will happen. Either way she will be devestated...
I wouldn't tell her, especially if your taking the risk of her getting upset with you.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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tell her she shouldn't hate you because your really letting her know in advance.Tell her in a nice way
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hi, u might not want 2 be the bad news person but u have 2 tell ur friend so she'll know and she will be alot more mad if u don't tell her right away
hope i helped bye :) :)
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You might try to drop a subtle hint so that it won't level her... but do so in a very delicate manner.
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