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How often is Healthy?
Is it healthy for a guy to want to have sex like 3/4 times a day? Is there a healthy average amount for a couple to do...both aged 37?
Just curious. He says I don't fulfill his needs.
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yeah it is there has been times i have wanted 6-9 times a day and its just that if u get a gurl thats good enough and knows how u want it ( like my g/f ) u will not want as much u will just want to go longer.
Sincerely,
Angel's man
Hun maybe you need to ask him what you can do to fullfill his needs. It's alittle embrassing not knowing how to please your man.
Sincerely,
Angel
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maybe i can help im a 38 yr old f and i could handle having it 3 or 4 times a day i dont get it 3 or 4 times a month well just kidding about helping but anyway i dont think it is unhealthy and if you dont give it to him he will find other ways or other women to get what he wants take care
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Not really, 3/4 times is a bit much. maybe umm 1 time every two weeks at the most. that seems a bit too much still. and if you don't fulfill his needs, rethink him: sex shouldn't be something you do ALL the time
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Well, it's not exactly abnormal, but I'd think it would be difficult to sustain that kind of frequency for long!
There's no such thing as "average," really -- every couple is different, and every couple varies a lot over time as well. What feels right to *you*? Could you work out some sort of compromise? And how long have the two of you been together? The activity might settle down naturally to a more manageable level after a while.
(I think, incidentally, he would be hard pressed to find many other women who were willing to have sex 3-4x/day on a regular basis. I mean, people have other things to do with their time, you know? And at his age, he must realize that. So I wonder if his complaint about sex might not at least partly related to other issues -- do you have good chemistry in general? Is there a healthy level of general physical affection? Does he know how to be intimate in nonsexual ways? If not, he may be focusing on sex because it's the only way he knows how to be close to you. Just a thought.)
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Is it heathly? There isn't really any 'rules' when it comes to sex, but that is quite a large amount, and maybe slightly OTT.
I would have said that an 'average' amount would have been maybe once or twice a week, but that is not taking in to account free time, energy levels, or the libido of the participants.
I think maybe you need to sit down and talk to your partner about this inssecant need for sex, and maybe work out a compromise of some form that you are both able to manage and feel comfortable with. If he can't comprimise, then I would get rid of him if i were you.
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I think it depends. Everyone's different, so wanting sex 3/4 times a day for one person might be normal, where as twice a week may be satisfying enough for another. I do think that 3/4 times a DAY is a bit excessive though.
If he says you don't fulfill his needs, you need to talk to him about what you can do. You also need to tell him what HE can do for YOU. don't let him be satisfied and not give you satisfaction in return. Hope all works out x
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