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Jerk?
Just so you know, I will be ETERNALLY GRATEFUL if you answered this, I REALLY need help on this matter...
There is a boy in my school. He is studly and flirty and *appears* to be a good guy. I used to admire him (NOT as a crush or anything, just as a person), but now I'm not so sure. This year, we are both freshman and happen to be in most of the same classes. He is kind to me and I apperciate that, but a few weeks ago he asked me what the homework in French class was. I told him and he asked me to see my workbook so he would know what pages to do (keeping in mind that this is the class right before French!) me, being the idiot that I am, gave it to him without question and he eventually gave it back. I was expecting it to be over but it wasn't. At least twice a week he would ask me for my workbook and I would continue to give it to him. One day, though, I was absent and hadn't yet gotten the homework for French and he asked me for my book. I explained that I wasn't there to get it and thus didn't have it done. He looked at me and there was disappointment in his eyes and voice, but that's not what threw me off. What really got me going (although I didn't show it at the time) was the fact that he said: "oh... it's ok then" as if he were FORGIVING me for not doing my homework so he could copy it! I'm angry at him, but I'm afraid if I tell him off then he'll do something nasty (spread a rumor, make fun of me, etc). But then if I don't tell him off, he'll just keep taking advantage of me! What should I do?
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Looks like he is using you, I hate when guys do that! You think one thing then they hit youa nd its like uuuuugh . .and well all i cna sya is dont let him use ur book every single day. . try loanin it to him less and see what happens. .
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You know what? You sound like you have one incredible sense of self-awareness about you, so I ask you this. 1. What makes you think that he would be capable of spreading something horrible about you? This IS the same person that you said you ADMIRED, right? In the event that he is...what is is about the rumors that you're afraid of. I know at your age, peer opinion is key. But, keep in mind, rumors fade...truth doesn't. Even if he did spread rumors, what's the worst that could happen? The only people who would believe it are those who don't know you, and if that's the case....do they REALLY matter? I don't think so.
The next time he asks, try to be diplomatic ( I'm pretty sure you can) and let him know that although you enjoy helping him with his work, you feel a bit uncomfortable about it. I know.....not real life in the world of a teenager, right. Ok, if I was you, I think I would tell the french teacher that he had been "asking" and I don't like it. Ask her to not confront HIM about it, but rather say something like, " I've been told by someone that you are allowing someone to copy your french homework...etc, etc. IN CLASS WITH HIM THERE". That let's you off the hook, you dont seem like an outcast and you have a ready-made excuse for not letting him copy, anymore. Let me know if this helps.
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Tell him you know what game he's playing. Then kick him, and tell him he can never see your notebook again.
Whack him on the head with said notebook for good measure, then turn and walk away.
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Plagiarism is bad, copying your work is plagiarism, letting someone copy your work is plagiarism. If that's college freshmen you're talking about, plagiarism can cause you to fail a course, which does bad things to scholarships and your record. I'd suggest cutting out the plagiarism.
He sounds like a bit of a mooch. Take that as you will. If you're worried about him doing something nasty, well, I'd put some distance between you and him if I were you. If it's not that bad, well, at least stick to what's right on the plagiarism thing, 'cause it's a bad habit to be in and very unethical to be on either end of it.
<hand_wave>If he's not a jerk (or if he is but it's limited to mooching and academic dishonesty), he won't do anything nasty in reaction to your doing the right thing. If he is a (complete) jerk, then something else would set him off, at least you'll have been ready to deal with it.</hand_wave>
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um...right. That confused my half-awake self but from what I got, you shouldn't give him the notebook.
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Don't let him have your notebook. Period.
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