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Q: HI,
My grandma abuses me what should I do?

kick her in the shin!
kick her in the shin!

Q: my g/f gets angry sometimes about little dumb things like what movie we go see and she gets real angry and abusive.she likes to throw things and hit me but i dont hit her back i just hold her until she cools off.but it gets tiring and sometimes it hurts.but i dont want to break up with her because i love her.what should i do?

anger management classes? Good luck with that situation...

Q: hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 5 months and yesterday I was at his house and his 11 year old brother followed us every where so we couldn't be alone what so ever. Finally he left to go eat downstairs, so my boyfriend and I started making out and dry humping..then his brother came up to his room and took a picture with his dads camera phone! Any ways what should i tell him to leave us alone! Any tips??
ThaNks!
im a 13/f if that helps!

ok. well this kid is just like waiting for you and your boyfriend to get passionate. You just need to be straight forward and tell him that your relationship with his brother is none of his business and he should let you have your own privacy. If he doesn't listen to you ask your bf to try to talk some since into him. That kid taking a picture of you two is too pervertic for him being 11. that should be a concern for his parents. Good Luck with that.

Q: OK this girl thinks that i called her something that i really didnt call her. i dont really mind losing her as a friend cause she isnt a good one... but i dont want everyone to think i did something i didnt do.. what should i do??

Just be straight forward and tell her that you wouldn't call her that and anyone that seems to back away from you after they think you called this girl something just explain your situation and be honest. hope everything work out ok

Q: i need some theme ideas for my sweet sixteen...does anyone have any? i'll take anything! Thanks~!

masquerades are always really fun parties to go to.

Q: ok there is this really long story about me fighting with my friends. so im not going to talk about it. but i want to know if there is an easy way to forget what happend between me and my friends

If you are having too much time to think about all of this negative fighting you and your friends had then try to keep yourself busy doing things that you enjoy hang out with your boyfriend if you have one. Or go to the movies and get a burger. Try to enjoy your own company, and don't depend on your friends become your own individual. Does that make since? Hope i helped you, good luck.

Q: Okay so i`m 17 and i was goin out with this 20 yr old boy for about 7 months..but we've been hookin up for almost a year. Then he cheated on me with his ex. so we seperated. Lets pretend this boys name is Bob. So while me and bob were broken up, we still talked and hooked up every once in a while. but not much. So i had a lot of free time for once. Durin the free time i met this other 20 yr old boy. he was so sweet and everything. so we started talkin. We`ll call this boy Joe. So later on, i come to find out that Bob and Joe are like worst enemies. they`ve been beefin` with eachother for YEARS! So then they find out about eachother, which isnt that big of a deal bc im not goin out with either one. but still they were mad and wanted to fight eachother. so Joe got locked up almost 2 weeks ago. And everyone wants me to help get him out. But i currently go out with Bob again, so he doesnt want me to. I mean some times i think i love bob, but i find myself constantly thinkin about Joe. and i miss him a lot. I dont know who would be a better choice for me? and i dont wanna make the wrong one.. I really need help. I dont wanna be lyin to them, so i just want one... plzzzz help .. thanxx

wow... you are in a difficult position. So did this guy get locked up from fighting for you? If you are stuck in the middle of their games and they want to fight eachother this might result in violence. So I think bob should go because he has cheated on you before and he won't even let you have interaction with Joe. So bob seems to me like he is untrustworthy. And you find yourself thinking about Joe all of the time which in my opinion means you are over Bob. So joe. Good Luck hope i helped.

Q: ok i have a really big problem. i wear a training bra and any tank tops, short sleeve shirts, or really light fabriced shirts i wear, my bra shows ALOT. and also the even bigger problem is on tank tops, my bra has a higher up arm hole so you can like see the bra alot on the arms. this has stopped me from buying new clothes, and i always try to look for the clothes that cover me up the most!! im so mad cauuse I just want to be confident and free about myself and not worry about this! its all i think about. yes, dont say ask my mom cause she always asks "well why are you being so mad, whats the problem" whenever i pass the opportunity to buy a perfectly nice shirt!its cause im too embarresed to tell her about it. the only reason i have a bra is cause my mom bought me 2 old navy ones like a long time ago and they like hardly fit me.please dont make fun of me, i really want to feel good about myself and not have me bra practically in full view. HOW CAN I SOLVE THIS ANNOING PROBLEM??????

you should simply be a ble to adjust the straps and make the bra go lower onto your back. And if the bra is too small for you then by a new one and test it before you bu ythat way it will fit you how you want. If it is too big... then i dont think you should trouble yourself by wearing it. Good Luck

Q: so i go to this camp next week for a whole week. and at the end of it the have this big banquet dinner thing. the problem is i dont get asked by anyone to it. my friend is kind of a "slut" and puts herself out to everyguy she sees. and i dont. people tell me how pretty i am yet NO ONE asks me. this year i want to go with some one. im really friendly. what should i do to get a guy to ask me?

i have to say that i share the exact same problem as you. But i finally came around when i met this guy that i liked. I tried to sit by him everyday and class called him a acouple of times and just acted like i was so into him every time i was around him. On the last day of school he asked me out. try my philosophy. Good Luck

Q: im not sad, but yet i dont feel like i should be living, the past few days i havent been myself and i really need help right now, maybe just words of encouragement to keep me going. please n thank you

Try to enjoy your own company... and go to a diner and have a milkshake. ;) Hope everything gets better.

Q: i am like cluless i dont no anything can you tell me what like handjob and a whole bunch of other things mean please!
thanks a bunch!
x---o

If your really that concerned as to learning about all of the slang go to a web site called bbcteen.com people say that it is pretty straight forward with it's information. Good Luck

Q: Ok, me and my boyfriend Cory have been going out for 9 months. Well, there is this girl named Stephanie who has been hitting and flirting with my boyfriend ever since we started going out. I have always hated this girl, so it makes the situation worse. She'd do it in my face, wherever.. she doesnt care. Once, i saw her, her friend, and Cory at this baseball field playing baseball with some younger kids and i got pretty mad about it. I forgave him and we went on with our relationship. He always compares me with her, like ill do something, and hell say, "Stephanie wouldnt do that!" then i get pissy, and he goes im sorry baby, im sorry blah blah blah... well, yesterday he was here, and i havent seen him for about a week, so i was talkin 2 him and he jus wanted to watch tv. Then left 20 minutes after he got here because I was being annoying. Well, now, i just learned that him, Stephanie, another girl, and another boy are at this other boys house. It really pisses me off because he is controlling, and I wasnt allowed to go to my friends house (a boys house), because he doesnt like the boy. So i said fine, i wont go. I really think hes cheating because he lets her flirt in my face and hes been acting really strange around me. So, do you think hes cheating? SHould i give him another chance? Should i call him? idk what to do because i dont want to overreact and i dont want to throw away a 9 month relationship! I would want to sit and talk with him but im scared he will hurt me physically and i dont want to lose him, im 14 and hes 15... what should i do??

wow. A healthy relationship really shouldnt involve any fear of him hurting you physically or any suspision of him cheating on you. so i suggest you just slowly back away from him because it seems as if he isn't giving you enough attention so just forget about him, and so what if it has been nine months? He shouldnt be treating you like this or letting that girl stephanie offend you in front of him or at all. Just slowly back away. And if he does physically hurt you report him without hesitation. Good luck

Q: ok, i have this continuing problem with my neighbor down my street, ok, background time... Me and this kid, lets just call him Mike, have been friends off again-on again for the better part of 10 years, but it never got this bad ever until the start of this summer. Ok, first of all (not meaning to brag here), i bench 245 and am considerably stronger than Mike, but he insists that he is better than me at everything, and thinks he owns every one, on top of he thinks he is like a human dictionary, trying to use big words that dont fit. Well, whenever i disagree with him, Mike AND my younger brother always decide that im being "cocky and arrogent" but thats the case with Mike, and lately it has gotten so bad that i have litteraly caught my fist in air from hitting his face. please tell me what to do, and plz dont tell me to talk it out with him, there is no talking with this kid.
thank you and i rate very high for real responses.

I don't think you should even be spending time worrying about this guy... it seems all he and your brother are out for is to simply annoy you. If i were i just wouldnt pay him any mind and just be like yeah whatever when he tries to get under your skin. Eventually if you neglect him enough he most likely will give up.

Q: what are some things i could do to flatten the lower party of my belly up?

i was actually reading a book the other day and it said if you didnt drink out of straws and didnt chew gum it helped... but i dont know i haven't looked into it. Sorry i couldnt help you more