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Well, I'm 15 and I live in the North East of England. I like to go to the cinema and shopping with my friends. I like web design, and chatting on MSN Messenger.

I like to think I am a good listener and can give good advice. I also like to think I know what I'm talking about when I'm trying to help people, as I have had experience in loads of difficult or weird situations.

I also think I'm friendly and easy to talk to. My friends would probably agree with me on that one :)

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i am a 13 year old girl and my parents r over protective i cant have a bf until i am in college i cant go to the mall wit my friends and i cant go to the movies unless i am wit my cusion or parents.when ever my friends call and ask me to go places wit them i never can. i have a bf right noe and he wants me to tell my parents about me and him but i cant?what should i do?

you need to talk to your parents. tell them that they can trust you to be responsible enough to go out with your friends and be home by the agreed time. i'd start off by trying to convince them to let you go out once a week, and build up from there. they'll realise how mature you are and will probably feel more comfortable about letting you go out. then you can tell them you have a boyfriend. i'd advise you to bring him home for them to meet, so they know he is responsible and can be trusted

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me n this girl did it n i think i might like her n idk what to do because i dont really wanna girlfriend

you had sex with this girl, but you dont know if you like her? if you don't want a girlfriend, talk to the girl you had sex with and explain how you feel. hopefully she'll understand, but she may be a bit upset. you might have built her hopes up by sleeping with her, so be gentle when you talk to her.

good luck :)

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I'm 15 years old & have been with my boyfriend for a few months. He's not a virgin and he's done sexual things with many girls. He told me he was ready to have sex whenever I was. I feel like I don't live up to his old girlfriends and that I'm such a good girl - being a virgin & unexperienced. I'm a little scared to have sex but when will I know I'm totally ready and mature enough to do it? Is it that wrong to not be sexually experienced at 15?

there's nothing wrong with being not sexually experienced at 15, considering in england the age of consent for sex is 16. i think you will know when you're ready for it, and i wouldnt suggest doing it until you know you're ready. are you sure of this guys intentions? because to me it kinda seems like him telling you he's ready for sex whenever you are is a way for him to tell you he wants sex and is trying to push you. don't let anyone push you into having sex if you don't want to. you have all the time in the world to lose your virginity :)

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Ok im really attracted to my friend and he's a guy and i really think he's hot but idk how 2 tell him how i feel or even if he's gay. Please help i am a 14 and im a guy please help!

this is a tricky one. does your friend know you're gay? and has your friend had any girl/boyfriends recently? i'd suggest talking to him. tell him how you feel, and see how he reacts. be prepared for the worst, because he may react badly. but hopefully he'll understand and let you know how he feels. i wouldn't recommend telling him you want to have sex with him straight away. talk to him first, and see where things go from there.

good luck :)

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i want to sleep with this guy, im a vrigin and im lil nerveous but i know im ready should i?
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i believe that if you have to ask whether you should do it or not, then you're not totally ready. if you were ready, you'd know you were ready.

you need to really think about it. you only lose your virginity once, so make sure you don't regret it!

also, do you trust this guy? and love him? those are two important things to consider. i wouldn't suggest losing your virginity until you're positive you're ready, and you know you love and trust the guy.

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15 femaile....i've been a week and 1/2 late on my periode and i'm scared as crap that i might be...i went and talked to one of my teachers today and she told me the over counter isn't going to help n then i had to go to my guidce n i was talking to him and he said he gives me till thursday and if i haven't started by then, then i have to tell my mom...well i'm scared as crap...cuz if i am i lose my recent boyfriend that i care for more then anything...n also they "father" well lets jst say i have no way to get intouch w/ him...cuz i only now lil things bout him! but other then that i'm jst scared bout my mom and telling her...n also losing the best guy ever!!??i'm so cofused n i'm so scared!!!

maybe your period is just being irregular? give it about another week, and if it hasn't came by then, go see your doctor or buy a home pregnancy kit. and you need to talk to your mother. if it turns out you are pregnant, you really should tell the father, aswell as your current boyfriend. they all have a right to know. then you have to decide whether to keep the baby or not. think really hard about that, because it is a life-changing decision which you could regret for the rest of your life.

good luck :)

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ok.. how many of you think its possible to love at 15? i kno there's girls on here and guys that say they love their bf/gf. but do most of you take it as "puppy love?" i think it is possible. bc see my bf now.. ive been with him 9 months and i lost my virginity to him and the thing is my mom and family dissapprove of me and him together... because hes black n im white. but i still go to see him and he comes to see me at like the park and stuff and we hang out. and im 15 and so is he. i mean i kno this may sound stupid but i really can see myself with him forever. like i dont want to be with anyone else. i kno i love him and not that fake stuff. i would do anything for him. i kno u all dont think i kno what love is bc im so young but thats ok. but i do love him with all my heart and i would die for him... but how many of you believe that u can love someone at 15?
id like to hear ur comments. ill rate. thanks..
Manda

i do believe you can love someone at 15, because i've been in your shoes. i fell in love when i was nearly 15, and i have been in love with him for 7 or 8 months now, even though we're no longer together.

as for the family disapproval, you need to talk to you mom about it, and tell her exactly how you feel for him, and make sure she knows how much it hurts you to think your mom disapproves of something you love so much. also your mom is being racist by being against this relationship, so try explaining to her that you don't appreciate her being racist.

maybe she will see how mature you are being about the situation and change her opinion.

good luck :)

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well i really need help ..well theres this boy nd lets call him "carl" so i started likin this guy nd i told him nd i found out he felt the same way but longer for him so we talked nd he was so great so we finaly wen out nd omg he was so great nd i realized i was fallin for him nd then a rmor went around that he had cheated nd he said it wasnt tru but all the signs are right there nd im pretty sure he did it but i think he relaized it was worng nd didnt want to hurt me nd then the day i found out i was cryin in skool for the rest of the day .. so i call ready to break up nd he gave me this crap bout bout he didnt do it nd i sorta beleived him nd it took a while to put it together but that same day i found out .. this girl had been tellin him i had been flirtin wit other guys .. but i didnt .. i got him to beleive me then his firned told him i broke up wit ihm nd he beleived it .. we atill talk nd he tells me how much he loves me nd he wants me bac nd then one of my friend kary was akin if he was goin to ask me out nd if he did i dont kno wat to say .. i really love him but theres one problem .. i moved nd he lives 15 minutes away which isnt that long away but we go to different skool nd i dont kno wat to do if he does cuase i really love him wit all my heart .. please help me ..

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it seems like "carl" does regret cheating on you, if he did do it. and it sounds like he does like you but was upset when he was told you'd been flirting with someone else. i think if you's were prepared to forget the past and try again it would work a lot better. but the distance thing, it doesnt sound like too much of a problem if you's are willing to make it work. but sometimes couples drift apart when they don't see each other that often. so to make sure that doesnt happen, make sure you see each other regularly :)

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Well. I'm 14 and I have been madly in love with my neighbor ever since I moved here when I was 9. We write each other e-mails and we sometimes talk on the bus and stuff. He's 18 and he's going to be a senior this year and I'm going to be freshmen, many people that are freshmen date seniors so I don't think its the age. My mom said that he's probably just waiting until I'm older cuz I'm young but I dunno. He knows I like him because my friend would always yell out the window to him that i was in love with him. He asked me last year if he wanted to get a ride to school with him everyday this year, and I said yes. I really like him alot. Should I tell him? Or should I get a friend to ask him stuff?! I dunno what to do. PLease help!! I rate!!

*amy

it sounds like your neighbour likes you too. i think he's trying to drop hints by asking you if you want to ride to school with him. i'd suggest you talked to him about how you feel, and see how he reacts. he'll probably tell you he feels the same but was too shy to tell you. good luck! :)

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dont think i'm weird but all my life i've looked at girls and never thought it was weird but now i might think that i acually like girls as well as guys but i'm not sure what to do?(i'm a girl)
i dont wanna be sean as weird for liking the same sex but i think i acually do its weird....so should i react on these feelings or just supress them and not do anything for fear of rejection?

there's nothing wrong with looking at people of the same sex as you. maybe you're just going through a phase of comparing yourself to other girls? or maybe you are feeling attracted to girls, and if you are, there is nothing wrong that. being bi-sexual is perfectly normal and isn't something to be ashamed of. i would recommend you try talking to someone you trust about your feelings. maybe your mother or a femal relative? they'll let you know that it is normal and you shouldn't be worried. maybe you will grow out of it, but maybe you won't, but whatever happens, don't forget you're not weird! :)

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umm im 14 and im only a 36A nd all my firends are a yr younger nd the same size as me!!i think that im done growing is there ne way that i can tell if i am or not?? thnnx

you're not finished growing yet. most girls continue growing until they're 16-18, sometimes longer. don't worry about younger girls being bigger than you, you'll soon catch up! :) the only way i can suggest to find out fi you are growing is to measure around the fullest part of your chest every every month or so. good luck :)

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