My name's Noelle. I love giving people advice, and I love telling people how it is. I am super honest and will be straightforward with you - I hate sugarcoating things. I'm a nice person and I will do my best to answer your questions.
Gender: Female
Location: Arizona
Member Since: September 1, 2010
Answers: 10
Last Update: September 4, 2010
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Turning 16 In September(: / Female
ohkay so ivee been feeling likee my harmonees hvee been goingg crazyy to feel whaat its likee to have sex. I have a boyfriend who ifeel really comfortable whidd andd can picturee myself loosing it too . Buh im really self consious about my bodyy , dahts whaat stopps me from actually being sexually active whidd someeone, ifeel likee my blubber looks sooo disgustingg when im nakeed! Im 5'2 andd weight about 138 . Whaat shouldd i do? (link)
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If you ever doubt yourself about sex, you are not ready. Point blank. If you're self conscious about yourself, even with a boyfriend that you trust a lot, you obviously don't trust him enough to show him your body.
There are other alternatives to sex, as you probably already know. I would stick with that since you said yourself that you're comfortable with your boyfriend, but not comfortable enough to be completely naked.
Trust me, it is better to wait. It is better to wait until you're absolutely sure, doubts aside, and self consciousness aside. When you have sex, you don't want any worries or anything at the back of your mind. It will feel so much better to have sex when you're not thinking about anything else but it and your boyfriend.
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Hey.. I'm just wondering what girls would think about this. I have an odd but harmless fetish but I'm terrified to tell my gf or anyone else. The fetish is called WAM, I like to see girls who are dressed up wearing nice clothes with makeup/hair done nicely get messy, like with pies, cake batter, chocolate, nickelodeon-style green slime, etc. All fully clothed, I hate when it is mixed with nudity although some other people like it that way. What would you think if your bf told you that? Would you do it with him if he would pay for new clothes or for your clothes to be cleaned?
Thanks, hopefully you don't think I'm totally crazy. Believe me otherwise I'm a normal guy.
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I'd probably be a little creeped out if a guy told me this on the first-fourth date. But after a while, when we've become comfortable with each other and have had sex, I'd probably be more open to creative things. Your fetish actually seems like fun. Definitely something I've never tried before, but very interesting indeed.
There are a lot weirder fetishes than this, so I don't think you're unusual at all.
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One night at a party, and I was running around outside with my friends until i tripped and i lost my necklace. I asked a boy to help me look in the woods for it, because that's where I lost it. While we were in the woods, he said "What do I get if I find it?" and I said, you'll find out when you find it! And sure enough he found my necklace, then he asked for his "reward" and I said he gets nothing but a thank you.
So school started this week, and today a boy walked up to me and said "HEY, if i find your necklace will you give ME head?" and I was really confused. Until one of my close friends came up to me and asked me if i blew a kid who found my necklace at a party. Of course I said no.. because i didn't! And people in school keep bringing it up.
I guess I'm just asking if you have any tips on how to cope with it? Ignore it? Etc.
Thankssss. (link)
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Ignore it. Or better yet, pretend like it doesn't bother you. Laugh at their ignorance and stupidity. Pretty soon, everyone will forget about it. The ones who still remember it are probably the ones who started the rumor. Don't let people make you feel like you're below them. You're obviously a much better person than all those people combined.
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What do you if some of your best friends ask you out? And there is more then one friend too. (link)
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This is probably the hardest part in a friendship. Do you reject them to save your friendship? Or do you accept because you actually have feelings for them? This isn't going to be easy at all.
I don't know much of your situation other than the fact that a few of your friends asked you out. My best advice is to make sure you like the person that you accept. But if you don't like any of them, be honest and tell them you only want to be friends.
- Noelle
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last year me and this guy were close n we liked eachother but never told eachother . this year he changed and flirts with evry single girl including me . even though he write the same stuff to me as the other girls does he actually have any feelings for me ? i am a female 13 years old . he is a male 15 years old . (link)
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I'm sorry to to tell you this, but the first person was right. He is a 15 year old. Guys around his age don't know what they want most of the time. Countless guys I know that are 15 cannot keep a stable relationship because they like playing the field. It seems like he has some sort of interest in you, but he has the same interest with a bunch of other girls too. He is not good news, trust me. Be friends with him if you have to, but don't fall for him anymore than you did. I've been through the same thing and I've gotten hurt. I don't want that to happen to you. You deserve way better than a guy who seems like he can't make a commitment.
- Noelle
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is your eye doctor supposed to tell you which contact solution to use or can you use whatever you want?? (link)
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When my doctor gave me my contact lenses, he gave me a tiny bottle of contact solution to go with it. My guess is that is his recommendation for me, since there are other brands to choose from, but he constantly gives me the same one.
So, in your case, I would definitely go by what the eye doctor tells you. He knows the solutions that goes perfect with your eye problems, such as itchiness and redness, so it is best to follow his directions.
- Noelle
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15/m im about to have sex for the first time this sarurday what should i do not to embarrass myself :/ (link)
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It sounds like you're not too sure about losing your virginity. If you're worried about embarrassing yourself or your performance, I personally do not think that you are mentally ready. You'll know when you're ready when you very much trust your partner and have no worries or second thoughts about it. When I lost mine, I was so sure. I was shy and a little nervous, but that's natural, especially if you are self-conscious.
But if you think you're ready, my best advice is for you to not plan anything you're doing besides bringing the condom. Don't plan out your actions, chances are you'll probably freeze and think too much. Just go with the flow, you'll ease yourself into it.
- Noelle
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hi im 10 and i was wonder how old you have to be to babysit. (link)
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I started babysitting around age 14. I knew all about CPR and all that good stuff. I think 10 is a little too young, but depending on the relations you have with the family, they might let you.
- Noelle
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so i met this guy and he used to text me alott and then we hung out once and hooked up then we hung out a second time and hooked up again then after he kept texting me and now its been like almost a week and he still hasn't texted me:( i was the one that texted him last and he just randomly stopped texting me but i was actually starting to really like him the more i was getting to know him and now it doesn't seem like he's interested:/ i don't really want to text him again cause i don't want to seem pushy and i don't want to get turned down. i'll see him at work in a couple days. what should i do? like tests to see if he's still into me or somethingg. (link)
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This happens to most girls, I'm sorry to say. Guys take advantage of us. It's never our faults, we're just vulnerable to how sweet and cute they seem at first. What it seems like here is that he got his fix and now he's not interested in you anymore. If he hasn't returned your texts, it's a sign that he wants to stop relations with you. I would suggest you having a small conversation with him at work. If he isn't as flirty and the same as usual, you'll know that he's done with you.
Keep your head up. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl. This is just a life lesson. Be careful of who you fall for, I cannot stress that enough. Good luck.
- Noelle
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Okay. So it makes me really mad when maagazines or TV shows or movies or books make fun of the so called "cliche" blonde hair blue eyed girl. I'm sorry but look at the commercials on TV right now. Noone of the girls look like that! Look at movies and shows, the main charachter?? Doesn't normally look like that... Books? The blondie blue is always the bitchy air head. So I don't get it. It's like the media is trying to stay so far away from the tall blonde with blue eyes that they're making their own cliche. HAs anyone else noticed this?? Cuz I'm a skinny blonde hair blue eyed girl and it's just kind of annoying when girls who don't look like that diss the "cliche" becuase they don't realize that they aren't dissing a cliche, they're in fact dissing girls like me. Real people... So what gives? Has anyone else noticed this? (link)
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Yeah, I've noticed this. Countless times. But what are you gonna do? This is reality, this is our generation.. the best you can do is stick up for yourself and prove people wrong. Stereotypes are a huge issue, and blondes are apparently stupid and preppy which is not true for most cases! I know plenty blonde girls that are athletic, tomboyish, skater, etc. I wish you luck in proving people wrong. I know you will. And when that time comes, they'll feel like assholes and you'll feel amazing about yourself.
- Noelle
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