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I know the holidays aren't until december, But me and my friends picked a secret santa, the friend i picked is very girly, she uses a lot of lotions and pefumes.. and she wears earings everyday.. you know stuff like that. I dont know what to get her! I was thinking of getting her something from bath and body works except, she has a lot of that type of stuff.
We also have a budjet.. we are trying to not spend too much money, we want it to be like 10 or 15 dollars. What do you think i should get her that is around the price range of 10-15 dollars? If you give examples what stores can u find it in?

Hmmm...
my advice is to go down to walmart and buy some lip gloss..a braclet...necklace...hair stuff...just little things like that and put it in a nice little christmas bag.

getting something from bath and body works might not be a good idea since you said she has a lot of that type of stuff & you might buy her something she already has.

dont stress too much about it though. get her something you think shed like. its the thought that counts :)

Good luck

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how do you make out?? as in....use your tongue?? thanksss

well. it depends. everybody does it different. you can use as much tongue as you want. its your choice. just start by kissing and slowly work into it. it'll happen on its own without having to give it too much thought. just dont be nervous and focas on it. that kinda kills it. you need to be wanting and willing to do it and everything should just fall in place as long as you feel comfortable with the person.

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i need help looking on the "brighter" side of things.
when something happens to me, i make a big deal out of it and worse things can happen.
for example i just got glasses and cried for days because i hate them, while some people are blind and will never see anything & i also could always just contacts.
BUT. i still get depressed.

im not exactly relating my glasses to my question but how could i look on the brighter side of things without feeling depressed on my own situation?

Hmm...well I hope my advice will help because I know exactly how you feel. When Im having a bad day or something really bad happens I do three things:

-Cry {there's nothing wrong with crying. its actually good because you dont keep your feelings bottled up inside you. sometimes you just gotta let it out}

-Do something relaxing {like listening to music, or taking some quiet time to yourself to take a bubble bath or do something you really like to do}

-Reflect on life {this is good to do once you've calmed down and you're feeling a little better because then you know that whatevers going on in life is only a small thing and you have so much to be greatful for}



Also, I find that writing in a jornal about whatever's going on REALLY helps the situation. You might wanna give that a try the next time you're feeling down.



Welll...I hoped I helped :)

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O.k well what can i say. My "friend" is a bich. she caused my bf to break up with me(long LONG story) and she is such a winey baby.

Like she "hurt" her jaw(don't ask me how) but somehow she "hurt" it. and know she talks with her teeth like tottaly stuck together(i KNOW FOR A FACT that she is faking)she is such an attention junkie. she also flirts with EVERYONE(guys). that's how my bf left me(he was annoyed with her) and she also is abosolutly the MOST ANNOYING person in the WORLD....

You probly think that i am being harsh or mean or that i am somehow possibly jealous of her.....but i am not. she is that way. even my other friends think we should "dump her" as a friend.

WHAT do i do????

It sounds like this girl is driving you crazy and in a way, shes even ruining your life (by your boyfriend breaking up with you because of her) I think the best thing you can do is just cut her out. Try to ignore her and don't be her friend anymore. A true friend should be someone who you like to be around. You have the choice to pick who you want to hang around with and if this girl is causing these kind of problems in your life and you really can't stand to be around her then dont be. Try to stop hanging out with her (without being mean) and just kind of blow her off. She'll get the point.

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I am looking for a new perfume scent, but have no idea which one I want. I want something pretty popular, but not cheezy. Any suggestions?

I guess it depends for every person, but some of my favorites are:

Curious by Britney Spears. (this one smells really good and about two sprays lasts for a long time. There's also a perfume called Risky that you can get at WalMart that smells exactly like it but only costs like 9 bucks a bottle. The Britney Spears one is way more expensive because your only paying for the name brand)

With Love by Hilary Duff (this is another great one, but you have to use half a bottle if you want the smell to last & its kind of expensive.)

All of the J-Lo perfumes are good too :)

hope i helped a little.

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i have this best friend i've been bestfriends with for a while now.
lets say a year or two?
i always feel so bad because she calls herself the ugly duckling.
she's pretty, and guys are really into her.
but for some reason (please dont think this is conceited sounding..)
whenever me and her are together, the guy ends up being into me and not her.
she gets so upset and has creid on my shoulder about it and told me how jealous she is of me.
it's flattering, sure.
but it hurts to see her like this.
now.. the guy she likes.. lets call him "bob."
bob and her have had a thing for a little,
nothing serious though, they never even kissed,
it was just a mutual liking eachother thing.
but now bob texted me and tells me he likes me.
i don't know what to do.
he said he wants to hook up with me and stuff,
but i would do that to my best friend.
he said if she doesnt find out, it really cant hurt her.
i cant even tell her that bob likes me, because i dont wanna hurt her.
when she gets upset about those things she takes it out on me and it makes me cry.
i don't know what to do.
hook up with him or not?
i'm starting to like the guy but that just makes metters worse.
what do i do!?

you just have to decide whos more important: your friend or some guy?

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for the physical fitness test in gym, i need to do at least 20 push-ups but i dont have good upper body strength. any at home tricks that i need no equipment for that will help greatly? thanks in advance!

Every night before you go to bed practice doing push ups. Increase the number you do slowly and soon you'll be able to do 20 without even breaking a sweat.

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14/f (Not Long)

I just met this guy in high school. We talk all the time in English class and thats about it. We have eachother on msn, and i do make an effort to talk to him but he only always has to go at that point. This conversation we had on msn today:

Me: What do we have for English hmwk?
Him: I dont know
Me: Didnt you copy it down?
Him: Nopee i didnt
Me: Okay, ill get it tomorrow
Him: Kayy byee
Me: Oh, are you leaving?
Him: Nope, i dont feel like talking anymore
Me: Ohhkay...bye...

He stayed on for about 10-15 minutes more. What did that mean? All answers are greatly appreciated.

Well, that could mean a lot of things. He might not have been interested in talking at the time. Sometimes I tell my friends that when they're trying to talk with me but i leave my account signed on. I wouldn't rule out a relationship between you two if thats what you want. Just try to find out how he feels about you (maybe by talking to his friends...or if any of your friends know him well they might be able to give some input on how he feels about you)

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to use female condoms
and male condoms at the same time

beacuse i want to make sure i am safe
will that be okay using both

Yes. It's actually a lot safer that way and the chance of getting an STD or getting pregnant are (still possible) but very low.

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If im somewhere, (like the mall) ill hang out with 1 boy and well flirt but i dont like them. I mean i do but not enough for like a relationship or anything. And after that day, i dont think twice about it. But my friends totally think i like the person...like that i want to date them. i know my friends get the wrong idea, but do u think the guys get the wrong idea?

I don't think you have anything to worry about. Flirting is pretty innocent and everything but I guess it depends on if you really know the guys you're flirting with and how much you flirt with them. If you see them all the time and always flirt with them theres a good chance they'd think you're into them. If its just a few random guys you don't know very well then it doesn't really send a strong message.

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Your cherry.
usually when you start becoming active
it rips apart.

if you finger yourself, dos it rip? and is it bad if it rips?

no its not bad.
and it all depends.
fingering yourself could pop ur cherry, but so could other things that arent even sexual in anyway (playing sports...sometimes even when you have your period)

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I am 15 years old almost 16 in March
and i'm still a 34A for bra's .
is there even anything i can possibly do to make my boobs bigger ?
please tell me i'll really apreciate it!

go buy a good push up bra.
victorias secret is amazing

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not really but please please help



ok well i used to have this boyfriend last year, we broke up in december and through the summer,( though i didnt see him that much) we were still friendly i guess.. so now schools started and he acts like im not even there.. some times even mean..
i really miss him, everytime i look at him i remember all the cute things we used to do, i really want to go back out with himm..
soo
how can i let him know i like him ?
and when and how should i tell him i still like him and i want to go out with him ??

well...it sounds like hes sending you a signal if hes acting like your not around or being mean. maybe you should try to forget about him. find someone new who will make you happy. i kinda know what youre going through and i know its not easy but you cant live in the past cuz you'd just be missing out on what the future has in store for you. i hope things work out for you. just do whatever feels right.

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How do you bleach your hair? well, not ALL of it but like a strip or two.Also, is there anyway to bleach it without buying a kit? thanks!

I wouldnt suggest bleaching your hair without buying a kit...but it really depends on what you're talking about (like color wise...)
Going to a salon would be best, but if you're like me, then you hate spending that kinda money for that.
You could just buy some peroxide if you want it really really blonde.

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15/f well i was going out with this guy (17/m) and he was perfect in every way and we really did love each other and we went out for about 5 months everything was perfect and then my cousin (14/f) started hanging around and crap with him and it got so crazy and we broke up and he went out with her but he told me today after 2 weeks of them going out that he made the biggest mistake of his life and he didnt no what he was thinking and he i can tell really is sorry. and if this was any other girl besides my cousin i would of course take him back but my cousin "thinks shes in love" with him but i dont think so because hes really mature and she just isnt like she said i love you to him like 5 minutes after they started going out and she has her mind on it that she is really in love with him, and i would feel bad because this would be her first heart brake but im extremely in love with this boy and she just got herself in the middle of our relationship... so i just want to know what other people would do if they were in my shoes?

If I were you I'd give your ex a second chance. It sounds like your cousin didnt take your feelings into consideration when she went for your guy. If shes immature and telling him that she loves him when she really doesnt the chances are she wont be too crushed if they brake up because shes not truely in love. She'll get over it when she finds someone she really loves.
If your ex is truely sorry and you decide to get back together with him I suggest you make him prove that he's loyal and true and wont hurt you again. Dont set yourself up for heartbrake. If you really love the guy and you know hes an honest person then go for it. Do what makes you happy.

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well i got a new boyfriend (both age 15) and in school tomorrow he is going to hold my hand. but when i get nervous or actully in general my hands get really sweaty and i dont know why. i tried just wiping my hand on my jeans but it doesnt exactly work. any advice?

lol. dont worry. that happens to me too. if you dont like holding hands because of that you could do something else. Like...when a guy tries to hold hands with me i pull away and smile and grab his arm or something. So you could pull away and just hold on to him and lean your head against his shoulder or something thats about equal to holding hands if you dont want to move too fast.

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any songs under that genre that you really like?
i wanah know :)

name of song - whos it by.

anything and everything by Eminem :)

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pls help me out. i have a girlfriend which i so much love, but the problem is that she is having another guy,and it seems that she loves the guy very well.please what am i going to do, i dont want to lose this guy.

It's not worth it. If your girlfriend is cheating on you with someone then she isnt worth the time. Trust me. I can some what relate to your situation. Ive been played and cheated on before and the last time it happened it was with the guy i loved the most. but if shes messing around on you now and she says shes not gonna see him anymore and it will never happen again, how can you really believe her? If she did it once what would stop her from doing it again? and if you think she loves this guy then you should really go look for someone else. There are so many people out there. You should go out and meet new people and you might even find a new girl and fall in love with her and she'll love you back. You deserve to be treated with love and respect when youre in a relationship. Getting over some one you love is one of the hardest things to do, but in the long run its worth it because you can either try to move on now or have this problem dwell on for a long time and each time you see her you'll get that same feeling and you'll always remember how much she hurt you. Keep your head up:) I know you'll be fine. Maybe its just a sign that she wasnt the one for you. There are other fish in the sea.

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