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I just can't stand her ANYMORE
O.k well what can i say. My "friend" is a bich. she caused my bf to break up with me(long LONG story) and she is such a winey baby.
Like she "hurt" her jaw(don't ask me how) but somehow she "hurt" it. and know she talks with her teeth like tottaly stuck together(i KNOW FOR A FACT that she is faking)she is such an attention junkie. she also flirts with EVERYONE(guys). that's how my bf left me(he was annoyed with her) and she also is abosolutly the MOST ANNOYING person in the WORLD....
You probly think that i am being harsh or mean or that i am somehow possibly jealous of her.....but i am not. she is that way. even my other friends think we should "dump her" as a friend.
WHAT do i do????
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Honestly? I would suggest that you confront her and tell her how you feel, and how her actions are making you feel.
Trust me when I say that keeping any emotions inside, let alone the obvious resentment that you harbor for your friend, is not at all a good thing and is only a recipe for disaster. Because then, if you're not honest with her from the start but in a weakened moment you vent to some of your other friends whom you believe you can trust and whom either do or don't feel the same for her as you now do, THEY might go and tell HER without thinking or on purpose and in spite (or someone else who will tell another, causing the whole "word-of-mouth" sequence).
And then, of course, I don't have to tell you what will most definitely occur as a result of that: Drama, and nothing but drama. YOU'LL suddenly look like the one with all of the "issues" and two-faced, and just as harsh and/or mean as you don't wish to be perceived.
So, definitely, the best route IS to just confront her, but not in the "You're an annoying bitch and I don't want to have anything to do with you!" way. Run it by your mutual friends (who apparently agree that she's been a tad too self absorbed lately, based upon what you've written) first, and once you've all agreed upon exactly what you'll say and how you'll say it THEN go ahead and talk to her.
A few suggestions, if I may, would to just express to her how she used to be (assuming she used to be a fun-loving kind of person, otherwise I don't see how you'd be friends with her in the first place if she generally wasn't, seeing as how you don't seem to get along well with those with heavy attitudes or are conceited), and how lately she has been acting differently. Tell her that it's honestly been bothering all of you a bit and making you all wonder about her.
Let her know that you all are concerned and wondering if everything is all right with her and at home or what have you.
Chances are very strong that, if she's suddenly acting like some attention-seeking psycho, so to speak, when she normally isn't (or maybe not as much, anyway) then it's because she subconsciously and secretly WANTS someone to notice and "call her out" on it so that she CAN hopefully open up and talk about what may really be the issue.
And, if sadly all of this doesn't go the way you hope it to (which is, have it all be resolved for the better and all of you still remain friends with her) and she unfortunately takes far too MUCH offense to everything, (And trust me, she WILL take a great deal of offense once confronted) then you might have to unfortunately face the fact that you very well might have to "dump her" as you'd described. Because if she won't be able to understand, all defensiveness aside, that you confronted her because you just wanted to honestly know what's up with her lately, then she wasn't that very good a friend to begin with and the both of you are simply better off.
It won't be pretty, and it definitely won't be easy. But it's bothering you, clearly, and won't go away until you take the plunge and face your friend.
Best of luck to you, and please let me know how everything went! :)
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confront her. tell her what you think, but not with anger, like without being mean about it you know? then if she doesn't care and says she won't change, THEN you should dump her. Just tell her you can't take it anymore and being friends would no longer be an option.
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thats easy.just dump her. someone ruining ur life like that isnt a real friend.
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It sounds like this girl is driving you crazy and in a way, shes even ruining your life (by your boyfriend breaking up with you because of her) I think the best thing you can do is just cut her out. Try to ignore her and don't be her friend anymore. A true friend should be someone who you like to be around. You have the choice to pick who you want to hang around with and if this girl is causing these kind of problems in your life and you really can't stand to be around her then dont be. Try to stop hanging out with her (without being mean) and just kind of blow her off. She'll get the point.
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