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I'm knowledge25. Some things you should know about me is that I love reading and solving tricky puzzles. I am always there to help a friend in need. SO send me questions anytime and you would definetely get an answer from me. Thankyou.
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I just got involved in a relationship with an amazing guy. I've been dating him for about a month but I've known him since he was 17 and I was 10, currently I'm 19 and he's 25, almost 26. So far our relationship has been going very well and I'm really happy with him, I really do believe that I'm in love.
Only one problem, he's thinking about going away to college to earn his bachelor's in a year. The school that he wants to go to is in Florida and we're in New York, so I'm worried about the distance. Main reason for that is in my last relationship the guy that I was “dating” got stationed in Fort Benning, GA and I never got to see him, he also basically “dicked” me around the whole time. I'm worried about the same thing with this relationship, even though I know that this guy really truly cares about me and always has (he was my sister's best friend, and a close friend of mine for a long time before all of this began). My mom also isn't helping me at all, she makes remarks like, “he's going to find a new girlfriend in Florida,” and all this crap.
I really want to support him in his decision, he deserves that much. This is such an amazing opportunity for what he wants to do, if he gets in and things go according to plan. The school that he's thinking about going to is the third best video game designing school in the country, and this is his dream, and a lot of really big video game companies hire from them. I'm basically just worried about what this is going to do to my relationship with him, I really want to be with him for a LONG time and I know that it's also what he wants. I'm also going to miss him A LOT. How do I get over my fears, and learn to accept his decision, and support him? I have a year to digest all of this, but right now it's a really hard concept for me to “swallow.” (link)
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Hi, I think its great that you're a supportive girlfriend and you're supporting his decision. I know that long distance relationships don't usually end in a good way and especially when the case is between college and high school students. However since you've known this guy and since you say that he's been a good friend, I think you should GO FOR IT! Since he has known you for long, Even if things don't work out between you two, he'll tell you that, He won't ever cheat on you. And he's your boyfriend. Don't you trust him enough to take this chance? Imagine if you break up with him now. Then 10 years later you see him again. Wouldn't you regret not giving the relationship a chance? You would. You would think about all the things that could have happened between you but didn't because you were scared he would dump you and things won't work out. If you guys really care about each other, just like you claim to, then you guys would do any and everything to make this relationship work! Trust me if you love and trust each other enough, then no distance can be great enough to diminsh the love you have for each other!
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I 16f and the biggest loner ever.I am not mean, hateful,I dont put anyone down or anything..I just never fit in.I am always the odd one out because I dont know how to make a joke at the right time,or isnt one wearing brand clothes,or because i dont smoke or do drugs, or because I dont have something that stands out about them. I had kidney failure when I was three,have been in the hospital most of my life,which contributes to the fact that I didn't make any friends.There was this one time though,about 5 years ago when I met this one girl,she said we were best friends and nothing would ever come between us,and when i heard this I thought things were finally looking up..Long story short,We were best friends for four years when all of a sudden,she decided to dump me for my (jerk of a)brother.Now I have had no friends again for quite a while.I desperately need to have a friend or a boyfriend.I need to feel like I belong.My family doesnt appreciate or love me at all.My mom always says 'I dont have time' when i try talking to her,and my younger sister always tells me she likes my (drunk,smoking weed,best friend stealing,jerk)brother more then me.
I don't look ugly or anything,and no one would ever know that I had kidney failure if I never told them. But its something else that leaves me left behind,hiding in a corner or in the dust.. I have no idea what I should do.Im thinking I should transfer schools next year to get out of this mess of a life..I only have one year left, but I think it would be best if I leave all this crap behind even if ive been here 11 years of my life.. and get out. What do you think? I know there must be true friends and boyfriends out there somewhere! I need comfort,hugs,laughter,less tears,and more joy in my life (link)
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Hi, I have never seen you in my life but I feel like I know you. I don't claim to be an expert on these matters but I think what you need is a positive outlook towards yourself. You don't have to fit in. Stand out, you came to this world to do something different in the world. Imagine if everyone did everything similarly, if everyone believed that earth was the center of the solar system and those astronomers never stood and said that no sun is the center of the solar system, we would still be living our life in complete ignorance. If you still feel that these things are stupid and you just want people to notice you, then take a stand for yourself. Start noticing yourself, smile, do things you want to do, play sports you want to play. If you have confidence in yourself, people will have confidence in you. Be yourself and remeber somewhere someone is there for you who will love you more than anything in world and you know what that love would be worth waiting for. I hope even if you thought that my advice was a piece of junk, I hope that I made you smile. People around you don't matter, its only you that holds importance. Knowledge25
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I have been an advice coloumnist on this site for almost three years. I am very happy that I have helped so many people and yet I am unhappy as a person. I have an empathy level for people that is off the charts. It makes me literally sick to my stomach when I see someone in absolute pain. I care more about a strangers well-being than my own. I am successful as a writer and college student but I can't figuare out why I am not happy with myself. I had many boyfriends since the sixth grade, alot of which I savotaged even though they were really great guys and some that were not. I find myself at a crossroad unable to decipher my own feelings. Why am I so unhappy? When I look at my life, I should be thrilled, not unhappy. (link)
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Hi,
I think if you feel this way it is because you are always helping a friend or impressing someone or thinking about doing something else for someone. You need a break! you are stressed! It is time for you to stop focusing on everyone else and start revolving around the most important person in your life, you! Call a friend and tell her/him that you won't be able to help him out. Instead do something that you like, for example, if you like reading, go to the library and pick out a book. If you like to write, try a new different story. For example, if you usually write romances, try comedy. Go on a shopping spree, try a new recipe. Do something you like! It doesn't matter what you do as long as you devote some time to yourself. HOpe I helped!
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14/f-I havent gotten my period yet, and i was wondering if there are like any warning signs before i get it, b/c i dont want to get it during school. thanks so much! (link)
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There isn't particularly any warning signs. You will just know. you'll feel different. Your body might ache and you might get stomach cramps. You might start blowing up at everyone for no reason and you might probably get over emotional. That's what happened to me. Other than that, just make sure to keep a pad or a tampon nearby. HOpe I helped!
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how can i eat better im skinning an all but i really dont eat exactly perfect (link)
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Hey,
It is good to hear that you want to eat healthy. It is even more good to hear that you are skinny. You are lucky that you are skinny. If i eat a bit of junk food, I gain weight. Yet it is good that you want to eat healthy. The advice I can give you is store up on fruits and vegetables. That doesn't mean, you have to eat them raw. Make a vegetable sandwich, or a fruit salad, or a smoothie or maybe tomato soup or even raw fruits and vegetables with a dip. All of those are healthy choices. Specific vegetables and fruits that are good for you are apples, carrots, spinach, lettuce, tomatoes, and any type of berries. for ex. cranberries, blueberries, strawberries etc. Other thing is drink lots of water. Everyday you have to have atleast 8-16 glasses of water. Also try to eat a multivitamin tablet every day. I think this should help you in being healthy. Hope I helped!
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I feel stupid. All the time. Embarrassed, unworthy. You name it. I have such low self esteem. And all my friends are just so perfect. They have perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect social life, perfect boyfriends. In fact, I don't even know why they are friends with me at all. And I'm not jealous of them. That's so not a part of any of this. This has to do with me. I'm just saying that being surrounded by them just seems to make my life seem even worse.
I can't seem to do anything right. I mess up every friendship I have. My parents told me it's because I always drop everything if there's a friend in need. I support my friends to the extreme. They always take priority. This is because I don't want them to think I'm not a very good friend because I don't want them dumping me again and again and again. But, they never reciprocate the level of support that I give them. I just, can't seem to...do anything. I'm so stupid for even having friends. So so stupid. I shouldn't have any, because I'm selfish for expecting them to show their support for anything that I do. I feel as though I don't deserve their support, but I have to keep giving mine to them because I feel like they deserve it. I don't deserve it. I don't know why I would. They've made it pretty clear that I don't deserve anything from them.
Sorry if this is confusing. It's late, and I'm tired. But this all made sense in my head. It's just harder to get it out on paper...well, computer screen. Whatever. (link)
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I completely understand what you mean to say so you don't have to worry about it making sense. First of all, your "friends" with perfect hair, perfect bodies, and perfect boyfriends are living the life of some plastic dolls where there is no such word as real. One thing you have to realize is that nothing in our world is perfect. Everything has room for improvements. And you should be proud of yourself. You aren't living in some crazy perfect world. You are living the life of you which is definetely imperfect. Would your life be good if it was perfect? Wouldn't it be boring to have a perfect boyfriend? A perfect boyfriend would never fight with you and then apologize. Do you really want to miss out on the chance of making up? Listen, this might not help you right now but later on, you will glad that you aren't perfect. YOur friends probably starve themselves to have "perfect" bodies. YOu should be proud that you have a healthy bood image instead of "perfect." Also dump those so called friends of yours. A friend is someone who is there for you in need. Someone who tells you from right to wrong. Someone who always have your back. If those perfect people can't do that then you don't deserve them. You deserve someone much better. Someone more REAL. Remeber never put yourself down. If you find good things about yourself then the world will too.
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I started dating this guy about a month ago. We met at a bar and hit it off right away. We just became exclusive this past weekend, and I was really happy.
Unfortunately, a bundle of shitty relationships has got me paranoid about everything in a relationship. I've dated many guys, but always hesitated when it came to having an actual boyfriend.
If he doesn't call, I assume that something is wrong. Not even about him dating other girls or whatever-- but more so, the fact that he could change his mind at any moment, and I'll be back to nothing. It's clear that we want each other, when we're with each other. But, any time in between I spend wondering why he's not calling, and if it's because I did something wrong and it gave him second thoughts.
I don't want to push him away, or sabotage the relationship like I have in the past. I like this guy a lot and I want to make the most out of it and not worry about what he's thinking all the time.
So to my question.. what is it that keeps a guy from waiting so long to make a call? If it takes more then a few hours, when is it okay to just call him? It feels new, and awkward. But it mostly feels like maybe we rushed into things since I'll still too uncomfortable with my security.
Help? (link)
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Look, I understand your problem and I get what you mean. But because you guys are together, that doesn't mean that the guy has you keep calling you. I get you might feel insecure about this. The only way to solve this problem is to make sure that this guy definetely likes you and is here to stay! You have find out if he is happy with you and he likes to spend time with you. From what you say, this guy seems to like you so don't rush into things. And if you are still insecure, then you can always call him and have a one-on-one conversation about how you feel. Hope I helped!
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13/F
Ok so you know that spot in her butt crack where it ends ands and then your back begins?
Ok well I bleed there
Like alot
In that little round ditch thing in your but crack
It started like a year ago
And I had a friend sleepover yesterday and she was pushing me on a swing, I fell off, and I could feel ANTOHER holey spot open up in the area
When I woke up today I had blood on my underwear in that spot and dried blood in the hair in the area
What is it?
'Cause its really annoying (link)
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I think you should talk to your mom or any relative you feel comfortable talking with. It may be uncomfortable to talk about such personal things but you have to figure out the cause of the problem. SO if you tell your mom, she will take you to the doctor to find out what's wrong. It is important that you go to the doctor because it could be something small or something major so you don't want to wait. HOpe I helped!
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I am trying to earn 100 dollars(USD)to buy a digital camera before August and so far I only have 20 something dollars.I need ideas to help me make money faster.
Heres what I can't do:
mow lawns,have a lemonade stand,babysit,have a yardsale,care for pets,you name it.
So any help?or ideas? (link)
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Get a job at a store. If you are of age, then you can go to any department store like Walmart, or even McDonalds and get a job. You might earn atleast $6 an hr. So in a week you should have more than $100. HOpe I helped!
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17/f/australia.
I am petite.
What are some really cool winter fashions at the moment that will look good on me.
I have heaps of things coming up over the winter break and I really need some cool new outfits.
Any ideas?
xx (link)
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Hey, your fashion statement should be you. It should show off your personality. It also depends on weight and the colors that look good on you. However, you can never go wrong with a pair of blue jeans, a light shirt, a black sweat shirt and some shiny pair of boots. Hope I helped
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17/f
So tonight I had a guy over, we`ve only hung out once before. We were watching a movie alone in my room but it was hard to follow so we pretty much ended up having a pillowfight. Innocent, I know.
This is because I don`t want a boyfriend right now, so I didn`t give him opportunity to try something else. If I want to do flirty things like that (plus joking around," accidental" physical contact), is it still possible to keep my intentions clear? I`m hoping I won`t have to directly tell him that I`m not wanting a relationship. I already had the opportunity to say I don`t really date but he seemed confused.
Is it okay to do this, or should I stop flirting? If I am completely upfront I`d still like to have some innocent fun while getting to know him. Just as I was writing this he texted me. He only left my house 30 minutes ago. He definitely likes me.
Thanks so much for letting me know my options or possibly how you would handle this situation! (link)
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Hey. I think maybe you should stop being flirty with him. I understand that you think of him as a friend but he might be getting the wrong signals and might think that you like him. So it is better if you don't flirt. Also you aren't sure he likes you, maybe he is also acting like a friend as you are. So, before you know his intentions clearly, you should try to cut back on flirting.
Hope i helped.
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